The effects of parenting on society

1. The effects of parenting on society This presentation is available at www.soencouragement.org

3. V e r t i c a l Horizontal The Cross of Christ

4. Over-emphasis On the Vertical Relationship

5. Over-emphasis on the Horizontal Relationship

6. They Work Together

9. God of Relationships

10. The managers, teachers, curators, CEO=s of the home: PARENTS

11. Bible Teachers Carpenters Chiefs of Police Detectives Doctors Entertainers Executive Chefs Faith Healers Gardeners Guardian Angels Hotel Managers Lawyers Librarians Massage Therapists Mechanics Miracle Workers Nurses Ophthalmologists Pastors Philosophers Politicians Psychologists Referees Sex Educators Social Workers Standup Comedians Surgeons Tile Layers Watchmen Weird The Role of Parents It’s an awesome responsibility

12. The church preaches the gospel, but it’s in the HOME we LIVE the gospel.

13. “Every family is a church over which parents preside. The first consideration of parents should be to work for the salvation of their children.” Child Guidance 549

14. “The greatest evidence of the power of Christianity that can be presented to the world is a well-ordered, well-disciplined family. . . . Adventist Home Page 31

15. “One well-ordered, well- disciplined family tells more in behalf of Christianity than all the sermons that can be preached . . .” Adventist Home page 31

16. Bahamian Families 2000 Statistics 87,742 Households in the Bahamas 37,321 42.5% Take off 20,000 homes with absentee parents Bahamian homes where married parents live together 50,140 57.5% Bahamian homes where no married parents live together.  7, 342 Common Law Households

17. 87,742 Households in the Bahamas 17,321 19.7% Bahamian homes where married parents live together 70,140 79.3% Bahamian homes where no married parents live together.  7, 342 Common Law Households

18. Helper Thinker Boss Talker Sweet Generous Okay Stubborn Troublesome Cantankerous Grouchy Military Leader What kind of parent are you? If your children were asked to pin a TITLE on you, your children will most likely label you as:

19. Task Master

20. Pleaser

21. Proverbs 22:6 King James Version “Trainup a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.” New Living Translation “Teach your children to choose the right path, and when they are older, they will remain upon it.”

22. Deuteronomy 11:19-21 19. Teach them to your children. Talk about them when you are at home and when you are away on a journey, when you are lying down and when you are getting up again. 20. Write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates, 21. So that as long as the sky remains above the earth, you and your children may flourish in the land the LORD swore to give your ancestors.

23. What are parents to teach? Deut 11: 1 & 8 1. You must love the LORD your God and obey all his requirements, laws, regulations, and commands 8. "Therefore, be careful to obey every command I am giving you today, so you may have strength to go in and occupy the land you are about to enter.

24. Rules or Relationships

25. Rules without relationships breed Chaos

26. Four Parenting Styles 1. AUTHORITARIAN Little love, plenty rules. National Results: Violent Society, unsafe communities.

27. Four Parenting Styles 2. PERMISSIVE High on love and low on limits. National Results: Permissive society. Anything goes.

28. Four Parenting Styles 3. REJECTING NEGLECTING Low on love and limits. National Results: Cold and indifferent society.

29. Four Parenting Styles 4. DEMOCRATIC Balanced parenting style High on love and high on limits. National Results: Responsive, caring, non-violent, and educated society

30. Dr. Martin Luther King “Those we must change we must first love.”

31. Discipline or Punishment

32. Discipline is a PROCESS not a single event.

33. Discipline is an ENVIRONMENT not just a circumstance.

34. Discipline is a LIFESTYLE not just a one-shot deal.

35. Punishment is correcting a specific wrong. Discipline is the building of lives.

36. Parents’ primary responsibilities are to teach their children to act responsibly, and to think independently and critically.

37. Literacy Community Equality Faithfulness Friendliness Industriousness Integrity Loyalty Justice Mercy Reliability Selflessness Sobriety Righteousness Basic Individual Values Needed for Healthy Nation Building

38. Ten Basic Principles of Family Life that Affect Nation Building Respond to your handout

39. The Brennen's 1 Corinthians 13 "If I speak in tongues of nations and of angels, but have not a loving attitude, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have no love in my heart, I am nothing.

40. If I am a vegetarian, and do not eat dairy products to reduce my sinus problem, and I cannot share lovingly with others, my diet is in vain. If I exercise five times a week at the gym or on sports track, and I cannot share my energy in a loving way, my walking and running will be in vain. I can still die of a heart attack.

41. If I am financially independent and able to give to all church projects but I have not love, my giving will be in vain. If I eat lots of broccoli soup to reduce the cancer risk, make my own gluten, or eat only boiled fish for meat, and refuse to share in loving relationships, my life will be meaningless. I can still die prematurely.

42. Love never fails. College degrees, beautiful houses, gorgeous clothing, speaking in tongues, evangelistic crusades, and health seminars, will all pass away. Now these five remain: financial independence, a healthy lifestyle, faith, hope, and loving relationships. But the greatest of all of these is LOVING RELATIONSHIPS."

44. God of Relationships

45. Happy Parenting Go and change the nation