Healthy Relationship Champions

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2. One Plus One and Altogether Better The project Partnership between OnePlusOne and Altogether Better Funded by Department of Education Recognised the importance of stable relationships for families and communities

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4. One Plus One and Altogether Better Do you know? Quiz Is living with someone more common than marriage? What helps partners stay together? What is the divorce rate in England? What are the 5 most common things couples argue about? What factors cause relationship stress?

5. One Plus One and Altogether Better Most people are married (48%) although less people are getting married. 10% of people over 16 are cohabiting. Time together, laughter, talking, being there for each other, support from family & friends 1 in 3 marriages will end in divorce 5 most common things couples argue about Money In laws Sex and romance Bringing up kids Work Pressure at times of change – having a baby, death of a parent, unemployment, ill health.

6. One Plus One and Altogether Better Early intervention promote early help promote access promote community relationships Relationships matter for • health and well being • family stability • building resilience

7. Better than before Back to normal Coping - but not very well

8. Sliding scale of happiness What keeps your umbrella up? Happy Distressed Unhappy D1/5

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10. One Plus One and Altogether Better Role of Healthy Relationship Champions Clarifying and defining the role of volunteers in relationship support. Is this for me? What is the role? What it is What it isn’t What are the boundaries?

11. One Plus One and Altogether Better RECOGNISE when a friend , family member, neighbour or work colleague might be having a relationship issue LISTEN And use your learning to help them make changes SIGNPOST to other resources

12. One Plus One and Altogether Better What it isn’t • Relationship counselling • Therapy • Fixing it for people • Creating dependency • Taking sides • Getting involved What it is • Knowing about relationships • Promoting early action on relationships • Making it ‘normal’ to get relationship help • Recognising when someone’s relationship might be in trouble • An offer to listen and share some information about what makes relationships work or not • Signposting to other resources or services • An extra tool to add you ever increasing knowledge of issues that effect health and well being

13. One Plus One and Altogether Better Relationship issue Recognise Recognise Listen Signpost Time Attention Respect Active listening Empathy Listen Share what you know about relationships Signpost Signpost to resources other services

14. One Plus One and Altogether Better The Helping Process Partnership Helper qualities Respect Empathy Genuine Enthusiasm Integrity Experience Being there for them Helper skills Active listening Helping process Relationship Interaction Person Characteristics Motivation Social circumstances Barriers to engagement Culture Personal model of the world Outcomes

15. One Plus One and Altogether Better • Refer/Signpost people to • e-resources • local activities • services • facilities for support SIGNPOST

16. One Plus One and Altogether Better Relationship Advice Talk it out Work it out Listening Room

17. do you…. Sulk Shout Walk out?????

18. One Plus One and Altogether Better STOP!!!! & LISTEN Scoring points Thinking the worst Opting out Putting down DON’T point the finger if you want change STOP your own bad habits first.

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20. One Plus One and Altogether Better Healthy Relationship Champions E-resources http://www.relationshipsupport-volunteers.org.uk/ Access code BANANA

21. One Plus One and Altogether Better What issues of confidentiality might there be for volunteers? What should a volunteer do in this situation? What procedures are in place already to deal with these issues? Who can help me?

22. Details about a client must not be shared with anyone (including your family/friends) other than appropriate Trust staff. However, confidentiality can never be absolute, so if you suspect or fear a risk – do act and inform your link member (your project contact) of staff. **Please see Humber FT Voluntary Code of Practice** One Plus One and Altogether Better

23. One Plus One and Altogether Better Role of Healthy Relationship Champions Health Trainer Service Manager – Natalie Belt (natalie.belt@humber.nhs.uk) Community Health Champion & Healthy Relationship Champion Contact – Anthony Bryce (anthony.bryce@humber.nhs.uk) 0800 9177752

24. One Plus One and Altogether Better Role of Healthy Relationship Champions We would like to know how you get on and we are interested in hearing about how you help people with their relationship or develop a community activity. It would be good if you could capture what happens when you do. We have templates if that is useful? Please focus on what you have done to help and what happened as a result rather than details about the individuals you support. Suggestions to improve the e-resource or useful local contacts are very welcome too.

25. One Plus One and Altogether Better Role of Healthy Relationship Champions You are invited to an event at the Showroom in Sheffield on Wednesday 26 September to thank you for getting involved as a volunteer and to hear about your experience as a relationship champion. We hope you can make it. Thank you!