Restoring Relationships in the Workplace --Thank God it’s Monday!

1. Restoring Relationships in the Workplace--Thank God it’s Monday! Agenda: • A pictorial of interesting jobs • Workplace stories adapted from the Bible • The workforce today • The workforce of tomorrow • Office dynamics • Types of coworkers • Seven-step process to restore relationships • What God has to say

2. Restoring Relationships in the Workplace--Thank God it’s Monday! No matter your job, thank the Lord it is not testing the strength of underarm deodorants.

3. Restoring Relationships in the Workplace--Thank God it’s Monday! Heston rowing with coworkers Children factory workers in early 1800’s

4. Restoring Relationships in the Workplace--Thank God it’s Monday! Sweat Shops in China Cleaning Sewer

5. Restoring Relationships in the Workplace--Thank God it’s Monday! Poultry factory workers

6. Restoring Relationships in the Workplace--Thank God it’s Monday! Blowing up rubber duckies

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10. Restoring Relationships in the Workplace--Thank God it’s Monday! Adam & Eve Major rule violation by two employees, resulting in immediate embarrassment and relocation without benefits.

11. Restoring Relationships in the Workplace--Thank God it’s Monday! Joseph The boss’s favorite employee, hated by his immediate superiors, and forced to relocate. Years later his superiors had to report to him, and the boss was happy to have him back.

12. Restoring Relationships in the Workplace--Thank God it’s Monday! David and Goliath Despite lies by his immediate supervisor, and told he was unqualified by the boss, young employee takes on company’s biggest competitor and gets a head.

13. Restoring Relationships in the Workplace--Thank God it’s Monday! Workforce profile today: Millennials (Born 1982 to 2004) Most enthusiastic Tech savvy High in productivity Not best team players About the money Generation X (Born 1965 – 1981) Effective managers Great revenue generators Very adaptable Will leave if no flexibility Baby Boomers (Born 1946 – 1964) High in productivity Hardworking Great mentors Big on healthcare benefits Lowest in collaboration Retiring 10,000 a day; creating 30 million jobs by 2020

14. Restoring Relationships in the Workplace--Thank God it’s Monday! 50 billion jobs as we know them today will disappear by 2030: Technology and robotics are driving change in transportation, with goal to eliminate taxi, limo, bus, mail delivery, FedEx, UPS, railroad and truck drivers Open Courseware movement creating a teacherless education system 3D printers are making it cheaper to make one item as it is to produce a thousand items

15. Restoring Relationships in the Workplace--Thank God it’s Monday! Employee workforce dynamics: 54% say they like their coworkers 55% - 70% are disengaged -- tearing down engaged workers 71% do not feel valued in their jobs 30-year-old Millennials are being paid less today than 30 year olds back in 1980

16. Restoring Relationships in the Workplace--Thank God it’s Monday! Types of coworkers: The Slacker Explain respectfully how they are affecting you – with you having to possibly do their work If this person has authority to delegate work, explain your current load and kindly request their understanding

17. Restoring Relationships in the Workplace--Thank God it’s Monday! Types of coworkers: Disagreeable Some people are always right Avoid if possible, but be pleasant when you have to interact Avoid involving your supervisor unless required

18. Restoring Relationships in the Workplace--Thank God it’s Monday! Types of coworkers: The Office Bully Often target those they see as a threat Do not let them isolate you or make you feel bad about yourself Walking away from them has nothing to do with weakness, and everything to do with strength

19. Restoring Relationships in the Workplace--Thank God it’s Monday! Types of coworkers: The Gossip Be friendly, but act busy, and they should get the message you have better things to do Though they can act as the office grapevine, do not ever comment or add fuel to their behavior “Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths…” Ephesians 4:29

20. Restoring Relationships in the Workplace--Thank God it’s Monday! Types of coworkers: Whiners and Complainers They tend to see the negative side of everything Complaining may be their way to solve stress about things they have no control over, or to simply to get attention Be empathetic, but put the problem back on them

21. Restoring Relationships in the Workplace--Thank God it’s Monday! Types of coworkers: Backstabbers They tend to withhold information from those they seek as rivals If someone is intentionally trying to make you look bad, check in regularly with your supervisor on your job performance Pray for them. Put the situation in God’s hands

22. Restoring Relationships in the Workplace--Thank God it’s Monday! Types of coworkers: The Bully If you are being bullied, you are not alone Tell the bully in a calm and confident manner that they are being offensive and give them an opportunity to correct their behavior, but, prepare for consequences since it typically escalates once exposed God speaks on being bullied in Romans 8:31-39

23. Restoring Relationships in the Workplace--Thank God it’s Monday! Workplace ethics and integrity issues Say “no” to any requests that even approach a line of wrong or against policies If you feel a constant pressure from coworkers to compromise, it may be time to change coworkers Report any wrongdoing to your supervisor God speaks on dishonesty in Proverbs 29:27

24. Restoring Relationships in the Workplace--Thank God it’s Monday! Getting along with the boss Problems with a boss are emotionally and physically draining, which stem from work style or personality differences First step is figure out what they are doing to upset you Secondly, ask why, looking at it from both sides Decide how to discuss it, avoiding blaming, accusing or venting, and using the “we” approach Honor God and your boss, as found in Romans 13:7

25. Restoring Relationships in the Workplace--Thank God it’s Monday! Dealing with harassment or discrimination Both are illegal and come in many forms. Keep a detailed log of the person’s behavior. The EEOC can offer you assistance Your religious freedom is protected by federal law called “Title VII. Consult it for advice

26. Restoring Relationships in the Workplace--Thank God it’s Monday! Being passed over for a promotion It never feels good, be gracious, and do not complain to others Meet with boss to learn specific items required to earn the promotion Develop a plan of action with boss and schedule meetings to go over progress

27. Restoring Relationships in the Workplace--Thank God it’s Monday! Making mistakes They happen to everyone at some point Admit them and apologize Don’t offer excuses or try to cover them up Offer solutions as soon as possible and fix the problem on your own time Forgive yourself and move on

28. Restoring Relationships in the Workplace--Thank God it’s Monday! Step One of Seven -- in mending broken relationships: Observe and acknowledge what happened Betrayal is experienced as a loss To heal and rebuild trust, it’s important to acknowledge that loss Recognize its impact on you and them Example…gossiping and it gets back to that person…

29. Restoring Relationships in the Workplace--Thank God it’s Monday! Step Two of Seven -- in mending broken relationships: Allow feelings to surface Give yourself permission to feel your emotions and express them Write them down, talk them through with a close friend or coworker, or release through them exercise Example…criticizing a subordinate’s work in a staff meeting…

30. Restoring Relationships in the Workplace--Thank God it’s Monday! Step Three of Seven -- in mending broken relationships: Get and give support It you are the one hurt, ask for help from a non-judgmental coworker, manger, or mentor in recognizing where you faulted. Shift the blaming to problem-solving. Do this before you speak to those you hurt If you hurt someone else, follow Step Two in acknowledging what you are feeling or what was going on at that time

31. Restoring Relationships in the Workplace--Thank God it’s Monday! Step Four of Seven -- in mending broken relationships: Reframe the experience Look at the bigger picture Take into account the “human factor” on both sides – what were the reasons for the decision Are physical factors contributing to your reaction or behavior. Consider the choices and now opportunities, including benefits Example…reframing the experience of gossiping…

32. Restoring Relationships in the Workplace--Thank God it’s Monday! Step Five of Seven -- in mending broken relationships: Taking responsibility You are not responsible for others’ behaviors, but you are responsible for your reaction Own up to your mistakes, acknowledge the lessons learned, and ask how you can help to improve the situation Example…judging a couples’ personal relationship, gossiping, and being wrong …

33. Restoring Relationships in the Workplace--Thank God it’s Monday! Step Six of Seven -- in mending broken relationships: Forgive yourself and others Forgiving does not mean excusing Determine what needs to happen for forgiveness to take place Release yourself from anger, fear and grief If you are the one that needs to be forgiven, don’t expect it, but you could ask, ”Is there anything I can do so you can forgive me?” Most important: Forgive yourself

34. Restoring Relationships in the Workplace--Thank God it’s Monday! Step Seven of Seven -- in mending broken relationships: Let go and move on Acknowledge what you have learned, and move on If you are the betrayer, promise not to repeat the hurtful act to the person wronged Share your understanding of the impact of your actions and lessons learned; how bad you feel

35. Restoring Relationships in the Workplace--Thank God it’s Monday! For all circumstances: “…With God on your side, how can you lose…? Roman 8:31-39 MSG Anger: “Be even tempered…quick to forgive.” Colossian 3:13 MSG Bullies: “When someone gives you a hard time, respond with prayer…” Luke 6:28 MSG Forgiveness: “You cannot get forgiveness from God without forgiving others.” Matthew 6:14-15 MSG Liars: “God can’t stomach liars, he loves the company of those who keep their word.” Proverbs 12:22 Gossip: “The gossip of bad people gets them in trouble…” Proverbs 12:13

36. Restoring Relationships in the Workplace--Thank God it’s Monday! For all circumstances: “I’ve told you all this so that trusting me, you will be unshakable and assured, deeply in peace. IN this godless world you will continue to experience difficulties. But take heart! I have conquered the world.” John 16:32-33 MSG Prayer solves all: “To you who are ready for the truth, I say this: Love your enemies. Let them bring out the best in you, not the worst. Respond in prayer.” Luke 6:27-30 MSG Faults: Do not pick on people, jump on their failures or criticize their faults, unless you want the same treatment…” Luke 6:37-38 MSG Hate: “So do not be surprised, friends, when the world hates you. This has been going on a long time.” I John 3:13 MSG

37. Restoring Relationships in the Workplace--Thank God it’s Monday! To summarize, in our suggested 7-step process : • Yes, I am aware of my presentation’s lacks • I have forgiven myself • I will reach out for future advice • The bigger picture: Thank goodness public speaking is not my sole profession • I am taking full responsibility • Please accept my apology • Now let’s move on…and go eat some lunch “Thank God it’s Monday!” in just two days, so we can begin applying what God desires of us in restoring our workplace relationships.