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Godly Marriage in a Sexually Saturated Culture

Godly Marriage in a Sexually Saturated Culture. Mark and Parvine MacDonald Wheaton Bible Church Premarital Class. Inside The Protective Ring. Genesis 2:24 That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh Matthew 19:5

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Godly Marriage in a Sexually Saturated Culture

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  1. Godly Marriage in a Sexually Saturated Culture Mark and Parvine MacDonald Wheaton Bible Church Premarital Class

  2. Inside The Protective Ring Genesis 2:24 That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they becomeoneflesh Matthew 19:5 (Jesus) said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will becomeoneflesh’? Ephesians 5:31 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will becomeoneflesh.”

  3. Outside the Protective Ring • But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. Matthew 5:28 • Let us behave decently, as in the daytime, not in carousing and drunkenness, not in sexual immorality and debauchery, not in dissension and jealousy. Romans 13:13 • 5Put to death, therefore, whatever belongs to your earthly nature: sexual immorality, impurity, lust, evil desires and greed, which is idolatry. Col. 3:5 • 18Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body. 1 Cor. 6:18

  4. Cultural Messages About Sex What are the contemporary cultural messages: about sex? about women? about men?

  5. Impact How do these messages influence sexual behavior in 2014? How have these messages impacted you? - the way you view yourself - the way you view your fiancé - what you expect from dating and marriage sexually

  6. Present Reality Addicted to the use of Cyber Porn (self-report): 50% Christian Men 20% Christian Women Young Adult Men – 68% view cyber porn at least once a week 85% of Men - exposed to cyber porn at least once per month

  7. The Brain on Porn • Dopamine Driven • Builds Tolerance • Novelty Drug • Operates on 4 Urge Centers in Brain • Cocaine and Heroin on Brain • Hi-Jacks Brain • Causes Lack of Pleasure for Real Life Experiences

  8. Internet Pornography • The Cocaine of Pornography • Availability • Access • Affordability • Alone (isolation)

  9. Messages from Porn Sex is transactional (not relational) “I’m entitled to sexual pleasure” Sexual pleasure is the ultimate goal Traditional view of sex is narrow, boring and judgmental

  10. The Problem With Porn Separates Sex from Relationship Self-Medicating Behavior Instant Gratification Promotes Masturbation Fantasy Driven Builds Tolerance for Deviance Objectifies Women Gateway Drug

  11. MYTHS ABOUT PORN • Only men struggle with porn • All Men Look at It • Porn use will stop with marriage • Porn use in adolescence is not related to porn use as an adult • Fiance’ says “I no longer have a problem” • Porn can enhance sex in marriage – spice it up

  12. Related Myths Secrets protect the ones I love Masturbation is harmless Being Sexual with my fiance’ is harmless

  13. Social Media • Nothing before has ever made it easier to wander into another relationship • Facebook • Craig’s list (single’s ads) • Texting • Sexting • Picture exchange • Smart phone • Avatars

  14. Protective Measures • Complete Honesty (Full Disclosure) • Accountability • Sexual Integrity Group • Effective Use of Tools • Internet safeguards and monitoring • Establish healthy coping • “Bounce the Eyes” • Stay current (Communicate) • Don’t open unknown emails

  15. Protective Measures • Use Clayton’s Questions to safeguard your sexual relationship in marriage: • 1. Does my behavior promote unity? • 2. Does my behavior reflect Christ-like love?

  16. Protective Measures • Maintain Healthy Boundaries • Refrain from friendships with the opposite sex • Don’t confide in or complain to members of the opposite sex • Discontinue relationships with old flames • Avoid being alone with friends or coworker of the opposite sex

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