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Mindful Parenting. May 1, 2013 Sheri Louis, MA Ed. Objectives. By the end of this presentation, attendees will be able to: Recognize their own patterns of behavior. Navigate brain behaviors. Practice breathing techniques. Emotions play a big role in how we learn!.
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Mindful Parenting May 1, 2013 Sheri Louis, MA Ed.
Objectives By the end of this presentation, attendees will be able to: • Recognize their own patterns of behavior. • Navigate brain behaviors. • Practice breathing techniques.
Emotions play a big role in how we learn! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uqGz7uqoPZ4
How does my child’s brain work? Pictures Children encode information in pictures – their mind works like video without audio. Timelessness Children don’t understand “wait”. So substitute “wait” with instructions. Egocentric Children see the world through their eyes…doesn’t everyone?! Give your child the tools to see another perspective.
Which Path Are We On? Calling for Love Extending Love Understanding Information • Cortex • Reasoning & Problem Solving • Seeking Information • Calm • Direct • Rational • In Control • Curious • Interested • Brain Stem / Limbic System • Emotional State • Fight or Flight • Seeking Understanding • Emotional • Whining • Irrational • Out of Control • Withdrawn • Overwhelmed
Tools: Navigating the Brain’s Behavior • Limbic • Wait for eye contact • “There you are!” • “You seem…” • “Are you okay?” • Brain Stem • “Your face is going like this.” • “Your body is going like this.” • Mirror your child
Tools: Navigating the Brain’s Behavior • Cortex • “You wanted…” • “It’s hard when…” • “You were hoping…” What could you do to solve your problem? What would help you get started? How could you be helpful? Did you like it? Is _ being safe? What would be safe for yourself and others? If you choose to ___, then __ will happen. Do you understand? Are you hurt or are you scared? What would help you get started?
Pair Share Practice opportunity • With a partner, you will navigate the brain’s behavior through the brain stem, limbic and cortex: • Role 1: Parent • Role 2: Child in his/her brain stem • Scenario: it’s time to leave OMSI!
Tools: Loco in the Limbic System Tips for Parents to Move to the Cortex • Be a S.T.A.R (Smile, Take a Breath, And Relax) • “I can handle this.” Tantrums are normal: your child is trying to get his or her needs met. This is not about you.
Tools: Loco in the Limbic System Tips for Child to Move to the Cortex • Safe place with love • S.T.A.R., Pretzel, Balloon, Drain
Tool: Fast Food Rule • Repeat information back to child • Replace the word “Don’t” with usable information. • Give two positive choices. “You really like to run – running is fun. When you are in the store, you can move slowly. You can drag your feet like a turtle or slither like a snake. Let’s practice.” Practice opportunity: You don’t wont your child to run in the store. How would you communicate this? Take a moment to write down your response.
Children learn what they live https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=diUB7OGRJ8E Make your influence positive.
“Keep your thoughts positive because your thoughts become your words. Keep your words positive because your words become your behavior. Keep your behavior positive because your behavior becomes your habits. Keep your habits positive because your habits become your values. Keep your values positive because your values become your destiny.” - Gandhi
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