Sexual Assault

1. Sexual Assault Goals: Students will… Define rape and sexual assault. Identify what to do after a sexual assault. Know how to support a sexual assault survivor Define consent Be aware of “victim blaming” behavior. Standard 7HE#2: Safety and Injury Prevention/ 7HE4b: diminishing bullying behaviors, 7HE4d: situations that require professional health services.

2. Source: wecanstopit.co.uk

3. Definitions • Sexual assault: Unwanted sexual contact that stops short of rape or attempted rape. This includes sexual touching and fondling. • Beware that some states use this term interchangeably with rape. • Rape: forced sexual intercourse, including, vaginal, anal, or oral penetration. Penetration may be a body part or an object. • Statutory Rape: Generally applies when victim is under age of consent and the perpetrator is age 18 or older. Different states have different definitions. • Source: RAINN: Rape, Abuse, and Incest National Network. www.rainn.org. Date accessed 1/14/14

4. Consent • Being legally able to say “Yes” to sexual intercourse. • Age of consent varies by state. • Under Military Code, you cannot give consent until age 18. • In most states and the Military, you cannot give legal consent if you are drunk or high. Source: wecanstopit.co.uk

5. Stats • Source: RAINN: Rape, Abuse, and Incest National Network. www.rainn.org. Date accessed 1/14/14

6. After a Sexual Assault… • The victim will need to get to safe place. • Victims will need medical attention. • Victims should… • 1. NOT bathe or shower. • 2. NOT use the bathroom. • 3. NOT change clothes. • 4. NOT comb hair. • 5. NOT clean up crime scene. • 6. NOT move anything the offender touched.

7. Supporting a Survivor of Sexual Assault • Listen, be there for them, don’t be judgemental. • Be patient. • Encourage them to report the sexual violence to law enforcement (911 in most states). • Encourage them to talk to a professional Rape Crisis Counselor. • National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-HOPE • DOD Safe Helpline (www.safehelpline.org)

8. Source: RAINN: Rape, Abuse, and Incest National Network. www.rainn.org. Date accessed 1/14/14

9. From the News • …”the Steubenville rape case, in which the star quarterback and his favorite wide receiver were convicted of raping a teenager who had been too drunk to resist them. Other Steubenville athletes had videotaped the event or had taken photos of it. Several even sent those photos to friends and posted images from the night on Twitter. But none alerted the police.” Macur, J. (2013, Nov. 26). In Steubenville rape case, a lesson for the adults. The New York Times. Retrieved from http://www.nytimes.com.

10. From the News • Jeremiah Aborgast, a former Marine, was invited over to the house of a former superior officer for dinner and to discuss a new job. The officer drugged Aborgast's cranberry juice and raped him. Hlad, J. (2013, April 18). Military sexual assault victims share heartbreak as lawmakers renew push. Stars and Stripes. Retrieved from http://www.stripes.com

11. From the News • Three Somerville High School students are charged with sexually assaulting underclassmen members of the school's junior varsity boys' soccer team. Adams, D. (2013, September 02). Somerville mayor vows to review sexual assault case. The Boston Globe. Retrieved from http://www.thebostonglobe.com

12. Out of curiosity… • Did you blame the girl in Steubenville for getting drunk? • Uhhhh, maybe (victim blaming) • Did you blame the Marine for having dinner? • Probably not • Did you blame the boys for going to soccer camp? • Probably not Source: liveyourdream.org

13. Victim Blaming • Why do we blame people for drinking? • What are the consequences of being drunk? • Pukes, headache, poor motor skills, bad decision making. • Is being drunk an invitation for sex? • No, it’s not, and if your friends think it is, you need new friends. Source: wecanstopit.co.uk

14. Does naked always = sexy? • Have you been to a German beach? • Have you seen the naked boobies at the beach? • Is that an invitation for sex or is that people just trying to give their tatas a sun tan? • Uh, sun tan

15. Remember… • You are never entitled to anyone's body. • Even if you are married or dating, even if you’ve had sex before. • You can't legally give consent to sex when drunk or high. • Under military code, you cannot give consent to sex until age 18. • If the person you are having sexy times with starts to act like they are not interested in sex (crying, asking to stop, throwing up) stop. Source: wecanstopit.co.uk

16. Remember… • Video: “A Needed Response” • http://youtu.be/eZxv5WCWivM Source: wecanstopit.co.uk

17. Idea: How about we don’t rape anyone?

18. Commonly Recommended Safety Tips • Avoiding Dangerous Situations • Be aware of your surroundings. • Try to avoid isolated areas. • Walk with a purpose…even if you don’t know where you are going, act like you do. • Try to have your hands free. • Make sure your cell phone is with you and charged and you have taxi money. • Don’t be isolated with someone you don’t trust or you don’t know. • Avoid putting your headphones in both ears…especially if you are walking alone.

19. Commonly Recommended Safety Tips • Social situations • Go with a group of friends…and check in with each other. • Trust your instincts. • Don’t leave your drink unattended while talking, dancing, using the bathroom, or taking a call. • Don’t accept drinks from people you don’t know or trust. • Watch out for friends: Are they acting too drunk or strange? Get them to a safe place. • Contact police if you think a friend has been drugged.

20. So that makes sense, but… • Satire of these guidelines: “How Not To Get Raped” by Cat del buono • http://youtu.be/57KXo13Z8nI • Satire is the use of humor to expose or criticize stupidity. • The point of this is to point out that the victim shouldn’t be at fault, we should blame the rapist for raping people.