Bullying presentation

1. Bullying presentation

2. What is bullying? • Video “What is Bullying” http://www.pacerkidsagainstbullying.org/

3. What is bullying? Bullying is when a person does something to hurt you on purpose either physically or emotionally again and again.

4. Who is involved? • Bully • Victim • Bystander • www.pacerkidsagainstbullying.org

5. It hurts everyone involved…. • Victims feel sad, afraid, anxious, and bad about themselves. • Witness/Bystanders (people who see or hear others being bullied) may feel afraid and anxious. • Bullies often get into serious trouble as adults; statistics show that one in four bullies will have a criminal record before the age of 30, and many have problems with relationships throughout their lives.

6. Bullying VS Teasing

7. What should you do?.............. • Video “How Bullying Feels” • www.pacerkidsagainstbullying.org • Fight back? • Whine and cry? • Ignore them, it will go away eventually? • Tell an adult? • Video “What can you Do?” • www.pacerkidsagainstbullying.org

8. Facts • About 1 in 7 schoolchildren are either a bully or a victim • Bullying affects about 5 million elementary and junior high students in the United States • There are three types of bullying: Physical, Verbal and Emotional • Most bullying happens where there is little supervision

9. True or False • Bullying is just teasing. • False. Bullying is much more than teasing. While many bullies tease, others use violence, intimidation, and other tactics. Sometimes teasing can be fun; bullying always hurts. • Some People deserve to be bullied. • False. No one ever deserves to be bullied. No one “asks for it.” Most bullies tease people who are “different” in some way. Being different is not a reason to be bullied.

10. True or False • Only boys are bullies. • False. It seems that most bullies are boys, but girls can be bullies too. • People who complain about bullies are babies. • False. People who complain about bullies are standing up for their right not to be bullied. They’re more grown-up than the bullies are.

11. True or False • Bullying is a normal part of growing up. • False. Getting teased, picked on, pushed around, threatened, harassed, insulted, hurt, and abused in not normal. Plus if you think it’s normal, you’re less likely to say or do anything about it, which gives bullies the green light to keep bullying. • Bullies will go away if you ignore them. • True and False. Some bullies might go away. But others will get angry and keep bullying until they get a reaction. That’s what they want.

12. True or False • All bullies have low self-esteem. That’s why they pick on other people. • False. Some bullies have high self-esteem. They feel good about themselves, and picking on other people makes them feel even better. Most of the time, bullying isn’t about high or low self-esteem. It’s about having power over other people. • It’s tattling to tell an adult when you’re being bullied. • False. It’s smart to tell an adult who can help you do something about the bullying. It’s also smart to tell an adult if you see someone else being bullied.

13. True or False • The best way to deal with a bully is by fighting or trying to get even. • False. If you fight with a bully, you might get hurt (and hurt someone else). Plus you might get into trouble for fighting. If you try to get even, you’re acting the same as the bully. And the bully might come after you again to get even with you. Either way only makes things worse. • People who are bullied might hurt for a while, but they’ll get over it. • False. Bullying hurts for a long time. Some kids have dropped out of school because of bullying. Some became so sad, desperate, afraid, and hopeless that they committed suicide. Many adults remember times when they were bullied as children. People don’t “get over” being bullied.

14. Day 2

15. How to respond to a bully • Hot Response • Cold Response • Cool Response

16. Video • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UNZKKoy4US0

17. COLD Response • Looking COLD • Victim-like demeanor: • Head down, no eye contact with bully. • Body bent over. • Sad or blank facial expression. • Timid body movements.

18. COLD Response • Thinking COLD • “Self-blaming Perceiving Style”: • “It’s my fault.: • “I deserve to be treated this way”. • “There’s nothing I can do about it.” • “If I don’t do what they say, I’ll get hurt.”

19. COLD Response • Acting COLD • Behavior that gives up, runs away, withdraws, becomes depressed: • Do what the bully says. • Mutter or speak with low voice volume. • Cry.

20. HOT Response • Looking HOT • Threatening Demeanor: • Head up. • Glaring stare, too much eye contact. • Tense posture, clenched fists, tight muscles. • Angry, challenging facial expressions.

21. HOT Response • Thinking HOT • “Other-blaming Perceiving Style”: • “It’s all their fault.” • “If I’m calm, they won’t listen to me.” • “If I don’t get made and fight back, they’ll get what they want.” • “Others will think I’m a sissy if I don’t fight back.”

22. HOT Response • Acting HOT • Behavior that attacks, belittles, subjects, controls or defeats: • Speaking with elevated voice volume, yelling. • Speaking with hostile voice tone. • Making derogatory or threatening statements. • Hitting or fighting.

23. COOL Response • Acting COOL • Nonthreatening Demeanor: • Gain composure. Pause, turn, look away. • Take deep breaths, do “settling behaviors.” • Non-aggressive, confident expression. Stand or sit up straight. • No eye contact unless necessary to talk. • Calm voice, good eye contact when speaking. • Walk or move confidently, purposefully.

24. COOL Response • Thinking COOL • “Non-blaming Perceiving Style”: • “How can I solve the problem?” • “I’m going to stay calm and ignore them.” • “This bully is just trying to feel big.” • Is this bully dangerous? If not, I’ll stand my ground or ask him/her to stop. • “If he/she’s dangerous, I’ll leave and get help”

25. COOL Response • Acting COOL • Behavior that asserts right with respect and fairness. • If Bully is not Dangerous: • Calm down. Look Cool, Think Cool. • Act Cool by: • Ignore the bully or Talk the Talk/Walk the Walk by using the 4-Step Assertion Plan or Use Peer Pressure Refusal Skills • If bully is Dangerous: • Leave and Get help, if necessary.

27. Role Plays

28. Role Plays • (HOT Response) You are taking a drink at the water fountain and behind you someone shoves you, you shove them back.The principal walks by and tells you to come to their office. • (COLD Response) You are outside for recess when a someone calls you a bad name for the THIRD time today! You are sick of it and run away and cry in the corner. • (COOL Response) In the hallway someone tells you what an ugly shirt you have on that day. You ignore them like it is no big deal and go to class.

29. Role Plays • (HOT Response) You are walking home from school when someone demands to give them your back pack. Instead you decide to yell at them and take theirs. • (COLD Response) You are walking down the hallway after school and as you are about to leave someone steals your pencil. You start to cry and run home. • (COOL Response) At lunch time you hear people saying bad things about you. You ignore them and continue talking with your friends.