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International Student Entry Program. Listening 500. Provincial Instructor Diploma Program (PIDP) CAPSTONE TEACHING DEMONSTRATION. Dialogue and Listening. Beth Soriano 4 April 2012 BCIT, SW3 2765. Different Methods of Locating Main Ideas while Listening.
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International Student Entry Program Listening 500
Provincial Instructor Diploma Program (PIDP) CAPSTONE TEACHING DEMONSTRATION Dialogue and Listening Beth Soriano 4 April 2012 BCIT, SW3 2765
Different Methods of Locating Main Ideas while Listening Strategy 1: Listen to the first sentence; test the others against it. Strategy 2: Listen for repeated words or ideas. Strategy 3: Use your intuition. Strategy 4: Create a sentence using the 6 Ws.
Learning Objectives Essentials of Dialogue Fields of conversation Listening vs Hearing Practices of Listening
The Three Essentials of Dialogue Assumptions
Downloading • Talking politely • Saying what is expected • Repeating what we already know, not noticing anything different, new MAINTAINS THE STATUS QUO RE-ENACTS PATTERNS OF THE PAST
Talking Tough: Debating • Saying what we think • Speaking our minds openly, even at the risk of fragmenting the system • Debating and making judgments
Debating WE SEE MORE OF WHAT IS THERE, BUT CREATES NOTHING NEW
Reflective Dialogue: Inquiry • Calls for empathy: Seeing the world thru the eyes of the other • Requires us to be self-reflective: how things came to be and envision how it might be
Reflective Dialogue: Inquiry • Essential for deep change to occur • Allows us to participate in the future that is emerging. • WE CAN INFLUENCE THE WORLD AROUND US. • WE CAN WORK TOGETHER TO BUILD A NEW FUTURE.
Presencing • Meaning emerges not from any one person but from within the group. • Coming to dialogue is already an indication of commitment but the clarity of the purpose and the commitment of everyone only surfaces at this moment
Presencing • Allows the group to discover its larger and deeper shared purpose. • Vital for the success of deep change. • Tuning into the potential of the system and what is being born amid and through us.
Debate versus DialogueDebate Dialogue • Assuming that many people have pieces of the answer, and that together they can craft a solution • Collaborative: participants work together toward common understanding • About exploring common ground • Assuming there is a right answer, and you have it • Combative: participants attempt to prove the other side wrong • About winning
Debate versus DialogueDebate Dialogue • Listening to find flaws and make counter-arguments • Defending assumptions as truth • Critiquing the other side’s position • Defending one’s views against those of others • Listening to understand, find meaning and agreement • Revealing assumptions for reevaluation • Reexamining all positions • Admitting that others’ thinking can improve one’s own
Debate versus DialogueDebate Dialogue • Searching for flaws and weaknesses in other positions • Seeking a conclusion or vote that ratifies your position • Searching for strengths and value in others’ positions • Discovering new options, not seeking closure
Different Methods of Locating Main Ideas while Listening Strategy 1: Listen to the first sentence; test the others against it. Strategy 2: Listen for repeated words or ideas. Strategy 3: Use your intuition. Strategy 4: Create a sentence using the 6 Ws.
Four Practices: Listening • Listening We always prepare to speak but never to listen; listening is taken for granted. • Difficult to do as we impose meaning on or interpret in our mind what people say • We end up having our own interpretation
Four Practices: Listening • Listening together Allowing a “voice/meaning” to emerge from all of us. Things we have been thinking about similarly surface naturally. The right next steps simply becomes obvious.
Four Practices: Respecting • Opposing can come from a belief that you know better than every one else OR can come from a stance of acknowledging the wisdom in others. • To respect is to see people as having the right to speak.
Four Practices: Suspending How we see things: we can remain stuck and certain that our perspective is the correct one OR We can put aside first our perspective and acknowledge the feelings and thoughts that arise without feeling compelled to act on them To suspend is to by-stand with awareness in order to see what is happening more objectively