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The Art of Suffering . How it can actually help us succeed. “Out of suffering have emerged the strongest souls; the most massive characters are seared with scars.” -- Khalil Gibran ( BrainyQuote ). Scientific Evidence. “Post-traumatic growth”
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The Art of Suffering How it can actually help us succeed
“Out of suffering have emerged the strongest souls; the most massive characters are seared with scars.”--Khalil Gibran (BrainyQuote)
Scientific Evidence • “Post-traumatic growth” • The suffering of traumatic life-events can lead to personal development • Peopleactually gained some significant benefits from the suffering they experienced Steve Taylor, “Can suffering make us stronger?” Psychology Today, Web.
Study at NY’s University of Buffalo • Study control group made up of 2,398 people suffering from chronic back pain. • Those with some past adversities were less functionally impaired compared to those with a great deal of past trauma or no major traumas at all TibiPuiu, “Going through tough times makes you stronger, study says.” Z M E Science. Dec. 17, 2011.
Just enough diversity can help a person cope with daily living better Worst copers: Having as many as 15 stressors a day Best copers: Just enough adversity Ok copers: People who are never challenged by adversity Susan Kuchinskas. “Emotional Well-being: the benefits of adversity.” WebMD Magazine. Web.
Real life heroes • Nelson Mandela • “I learned that courage was not the absence of fear but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid but he who conquers that fear.” • Spent over 27 years in prison then became first black president of South Africa
President Abraham Lincoln • Experienced severe depression throughout lifetime • Josh Shenk, Lincoln biographer, wrote “He was sad, often withdrawing into himself but it gave him the vision to look beyond the horrors of the Civil War toward a greater good. In times of great crisis, it may be the strongest character forged for leadership.” “Lincoln’s melancholy: how depression challenged a president and fueled his greatness.” NAMI. September 2005. Web.
Friedrich Nietzsche, German philosopher • Suffered mental breakdown at age 45 • Believed it made him a better philosopher • “I doubt whether such suffering improves a man; but I know that it makes him deeper.” Steve Taylor, “Can suffering make us stronger?” Psychology Today, Web.
Lessons from Comic books • Nearly every comic book superhero experienced trauma or tragedy that led them to become “super” in some way • Superman • Spiderman • Batman
These stories have endured because people need to believe that the suffering life throws at us can make us stronger if only we let it. It is choosing to use it as a positive that makes all the difference.