Preventing and Overcoming Abuse (4:03)

1. Preventing and Overcoming Abuse (4:03) Click here to launch video Click here to download print activity

2. Do Now: Pick 3 Words and write down the definition. • physical abuse – Pg. 237 • emotional abuse – Pg. 237 • verbal abuse – Pg. 237 • sexual abuse – Pg. 237 • Stalking – Pg. 237 • date rape – Pg. 238

3. Today’s Objectives • Identify key markers of an abusive relationship. • List and describe 2 different forms of abuse. • Explain how alcohol and drugs can play a role in date rape. • List strategies to avoid date rape.

4. Abuse can cause physical, mental, and emotional damage.

5. Abuse in Relationships All forms of abuse are extremely harmful. Abuse is the physical, mental, emotional, or sexual mistreatment of one person by another.

6. Abuse in Relationships A dating relationship may be abusive if one partner • tries to pressure the other into sexual activity. • tries to make the relationship serious or exclusive right away. • acts jealous or possessive.

7. Abuse in Relationships A dating relationship may be abusive if one partner • tries to control the other’s behavior. • yells, swears, or otherwise emotionally attacks the other. • threatens the other with physical violence.

8. Forms of Abuse Forms of Abuse Physical Abuse Emotional Abuse Sexual Abuse Stalking

9. Forms of Abuse Physical abuse can result in serious injuries. Physical abuse A pattern of intentionally causing bodily harm or injury to another person

10. Forms of Abuse Emotional abuse can leave the victim emotionally scarred. Emotional abuse A pattern of attacking another person’s emotional development and sense of worth

11. Forms of Abuse One form of emotional abuse is verbal abuse. Verbal abuse The use of words to mistreat or injure another person

12. Forms of Abuse Emotional abusers may also humiliate their victims, attempt to control their behavior, threaten physical harm, or cut the person off from friends and family members.

13. Forms of Abuse Victims of emotional abuse may feel worthless or helpless or even come to feel that they deserve the abuse.

14. Forms of Abuse Sexual assault, rape, and trying to pressure someone into sexual activity are examples of sexual abuse. Sexual abuse A pattern of sexual contact that is forced upon a person against the person’s will

15. Forms of Abuse Victims of stalking may be followed from place to place. Stalking Repeatedly following, harassing, or threatening an individual

16. Forms of Abuse Stalkers may harass their victims by calling or e-mailing repeatedly and sending letters or gifts.

17. Forms of Abuse Communicating your sexual limits clearly to the people you date can protect you from being in an abusive relationship.

18. Protecting Yourself from Abuse Tips for Avoiding Abusive Relationships Hang out with others who share your values and treat you with respect. Know and communicate your own limits with regard to sexual activity. Avoid drugs and alcohol Know the warning signs of abuse in relationships.    

19. Date Rape and Acquaintance Rape Rape that occurs in dating relationships is a form of abuse. Sometimes abuse in dating relationships can take the form of sexual violence.

20. Date Rape and Acquaintance Rape Date rape is one of the most common forms of rape. Date rape One person in a dating relationship forces the other person to take part in sexual intercourse

21. Date Rape and Acquaintance Rape In acquaintance rape, the attacker is someone the victim knows casually or considers a friend. This is the form of rape that affects male victims most often.

22. Alcohol, Drugs, and Date Rape Alcohol often plays a role in date rape. Drinking lowers people’s inhibitions and impairs their judgment.

23. Avoiding Date Rape Tips for Avoiding Date Rape Avoid being alone with a dating partner you don’t trust or know well, or with anyone who makes you feel uneasy.   Avoid alcohol and drugs.  Stay sober and aware of what’s going on around you.

24. Avoiding Date Rape Tips for Avoiding Date Rape Be clear about your sexual limits with dating partners.  Always get your own beverage at parties, and never leave it uncovered or unattended.   Don’t drink anything that smells or tastes strange.

25. Avoiding Date Rape Tips for Avoiding Date Rape  Make sure you have a way to get home.  Don’t depend only on your date for a ride. If you start to feel dizzy, disoriented, or otherwise unwell, tell someone you trust and ask for help getting home. 

26. Overcoming Abuse Counseling can help survivors of abuse recover from its effects. Reporting the incident to authorities can help prevent future abuse.

27. Help for Survivors People who have survived rape or abuse may feel angry, confused, or ashamed. They may withdraw from friends and family or develop symptoms of depression or anxiety.

28. Help for Survivors The traumatic experience can lead to a fear of intimacy and an inability to trust others. Seeking professional help is the best way to work through these feelings and avoid long-term health consequences.

29. Help for Survivors Support Sources Parents, guardians, or other trusted adults Teachers, coaches, school nurses, or guidance counselors Members of the clergy Police

30. Help for Survivors Support Sources private physicians or hospital emergency rooms shelters for victims of domestic violence rape crisis centers therapists, counselors, or support groups

31. Help for Abusers In cases of abuse, the victim isn’t the only one who needs help. Abuse is a learned behavior, and many abusers were once victims of abuse themselves.

32. Help for Abusers Counseling can help abusers learn to cope with their emotions in healthier ways. By getting the help they need, abusers may be able to save their relationships and stop the cycle of violence from continuing to the next generation.

33. After You ReadReviewing Facts and Vocabulary • What is verbal abuse? The use of words to mistreat or injure another person

34. After You ReadReviewing Facts and Vocabulary • Identify two warning signs that a dating relationship may be abusive. Sample answer: A date acts possessive, or a date threatens physical harm

35. After You ReadReviewing Facts and Vocabulary • Identify two strategies for avoiding date rape. Sample answer: Avoid alcohol and drugs, and be clear about your sexual limits with people you date.