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Self Care for Developers. Mary Frances Associate Program Director for New Congregations 200 Hour Experienced Registered Yoga Teacher Owner, teacher, student at Divine Power Yoga. Who Needs Another Lecture?. 2009 Leadership Article by Lillian Daniels
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Self Care for Developers Mary Frances Associate Program Director for New Congregations 200 Hour Experienced Registered Yoga Teacher Owner, teacher, student at Divine Power Yoga
Who Needs Another Lecture? • 2009 Leadership Article by Lillian Daniels • But ultimately, the notion of self-care does not work because we don't have in us what is required. Self-care is the Band-Aid we put on spiritual exhaustion, dark nights of the soul, and the disappointment of consecutive losing seasons in a long ministry. It seems odd that as Christians, we would tell one another that the answer to such woes lies in ourselves, and in our own will power and our own resolutions to do better. We take a spiritual problem that affects a community and give it an individualistic and therapeutic answer.
Reserve Family Time • And personal time • And prayer time • Set and honor the boundaries between work and family time/personal time • Start a routine and stick to it • Find an accountability partner
Protect Your Privacy • Be aware of the challenges of having an office within your home. • Have a different phone number than the ministry. • Do not invite unannounced visitors or anyone else from ministry into your home during family times (family night, special dinner, game night, birthday parties, Saturday morning pajama parties, etc.). • Do not expect your family members to take the role of phone receptionist, musician, Sunday School teacher, etc. • Take a regularly scheduled day off.
Clarify Expectations • Be clear about your role • Be clear about the role of your family • Be clear about the role of leaders in the new ministry
Build Friendships • 70% of church leaders say they don’t have a close friend to share concerns with • Friends outside of the ministry can be your best support • Friends within the ministry can be problematic
Seek Help • Seeking help is a sign of strength, not weakness • Spiritual director • Counseling • Support Group
Find a Mind/Body/Spirit practice • Yoga • Meditation • Physical Exercise • Learn new things • Read something other than ministry books