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Gurjit Mann and Debbie Southwood

Gurjit Mann and Debbie Southwood. Barnardo’s. We work directly with over 115,000 children, young people and their families every year We run 394 projects 235 projects are working with families where child sexual abuse is an issue for some

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Gurjit Mann and Debbie Southwood

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  1. Gurjit Mann and Debbie Southwood

  2. Barnardo’s • We work directly with over 115,000 children, young people and their families every year • We run 394 projects • 235 projects are working with families where child sexual abuse is an issue for some • 25 projects work predominantly in the area of child sexual abuse, sexual exploitation and harmful sexual behaviours

  3. Amazon Young People’s Counselling Service Birmingham First Step Young People’s Counselling Service Dudley AMAZON Counselling and support services for vulnerable children, young people and their families Solihull Counselling Service for young people 5 – 13 who are victims of abuse Birmingham Space For children and young people abused through sexual exploitation SOFAH Services organised For Families Affected by HIV/AIDS

  4. Amazon Service Users Amazon provided counselling in the Birmingham, Dudley and Solihull to 266 individuals last year. • 17% were male, 83% female • 39% from ethnic minority backgrounds • Ages: 22% U 10 40% 10-15 26% 16-21 12% Parents/carers

  5. Amazon Service Users • 10% on CPR • 11% Looked After • 6% with special needs • Referrals:32% Self/family 30% Social Workers 14% Health/CAMHS 11% Voluntary Orgs 8% Schools 5% YOS/Police/Other

  6. Our Main Outcomes Be Healthy Stay Safe

  7. Introduction and Initial Assessment • The first meeting provides information about the service to the service user, including a range of policies and procedures that support the work • The counsellor also completes an initial assessment that explores with the service user the nature of their circumstances and their expectations of counselling • The service user has an informed choice about whether they wish to take up counselling at this time

  8. The work • The counsellor usually provides one session per week for each service user • Amazon offers a variety of therapeutic approaches within a person centred philosophy – tailored to meet the individual needs of each service user using a range of techniques • The work of the counsellor also includes liaising with social workers, teachers, health professionals, and other supporting agencies, and may involve participation in safeguarding/ professionals meetings.

  9. Reviews and Closure • Reviews of the work occur at regular intervals, 6-12 sessions, as agreed at the planning stage of the work • Evaluation is built in to the review and closure process and may involve an Outcome Monitoring evaluation process and feedback from relevant others • The closure of the case is planned through the reviewing system, or in consultation with the counsellor

  10. Expert of their own story • What is in the past • What is in the here and now • Moving forward

  11. What is in the past • Importance of the initial assessment • What went wrong • Themes: attachment issues, poverty and debt, poor communication, trauma, multiple abuse

  12. What is in the here and now • Guilt • Feelings • Context/environment • Their own experiences • Themes: exploring inner world and redefining, identifying strengths and coping mechanisms, identifying external factors that can be influenced

  13. Moving forward • Strengths and coping mechanisms - building self esteem and confidence • Changing behaviours – homework • Working with others to support changes and prevent further abuse – family work

  14. Anita’s story • Anita is a 15 year old girl of South Asian origin who was raped at the age of 13. She is currently in residential care, the only Asian young person in the unit • She is the eldest of two children and parents are busy running a paper shop/off license, working long hours • Both children were raised by elderly Jehovah witness neighbours. There has been very little contact with the extended family • Parents used gold jewelry as a reward and confiscated it as a form of punishment. Anita had gone missing on two occasions but returned each time saying she had been living with a group of Eastern Europeans where she claims to have had unprotected sex, as well as abused drugs and alcohol.

  15. What is in the past • Rape • Parents being very busy • Isolation from extended family • Communication difficulties • Confusion about identity

  16. What is in the here and now • In residential care • Confused about her identity • High levels of anxiety • Anger • Risky sexual behaviour • Going missing • Abusing alcohol and drugs • Low self esteem • Feels isolated and rejected • Communication difficulties

  17. Moving forward • Agreement to engage in counselling – completed introductory meeting and initial assessment and agreement meeting • Therapeutic relationship building – trust building exercises • Self esteem work – integral throughout – work on self respect/protection/recognition of exploitation • Identity – based on own frame of reference • Effective communication – expression without getting angry • Anger relationships – recognise the source of anger

  18. Exercise *

  19. Taylor Family Kirsty, 15 Jim. 14 Laura, 13 Taylor Family Jason, 4 Dad – Martin, 41 Mum – Jean, 42

  20. The past The past: Kirsty raped on the way to school when 13 – post traumatic stress disorder and self harming Communication difficulties Both parents depressed and on medication Kirsty, Jim and Laura depressed Favouritism to some children

  21. Kirsty, 15 Jim, 14 Laura, 13 Taylor Family Jason, 4 Dad – Martin, 41 Mum – Jean, 42

  22. Here and Now Kirsty – self harming, not focusing on school work, pent up anger often focused on her father, not talking to sister since abuse (2 years) Family – no routines, debts, poverty, poor communication, Jim aged 14 with undiagnosed Aspergers and self harming, parents relationship had broken down, mum about to leave, overcompensating Kirsty, sibling issues

  23. Moving forward Kirsty (15 years) • learning to communicate • exploration of her situation • recognition of what needed to change eg anger towards father and sister, control of mother Laura (13 years) • Recognising impact on her of family situation • Changing her behaviour to brother Jason (4) Mum • Recognising family dynamics and her contribution • Exploring her relationship with husband and children

  24. Moving forward – cont. Dad • To explore situation and avoid him leaving the family • His contribution to change – being a Dad • Blame and shame • Relationship difficulties with children especially Jim Jim (14) • Communication needs • Recognition of his condition Jason (4) • His place within the family Family • To function as a family • Use of family meeting • Meet over meals

  25. Feedback At the final review, Jean said: Everyone is talking a lot more. There is more laughter. We are going out as a family. The children are more helpful. We are talking more and shouting less. All due to counselling. Kirsty and Laura are now talking, after not doing so for a couple of years. Martin and Jim are getting on better. Kirsty is more confident, Martin is making more of a effort with his children and is less angry and grumpy. Martin and I are closer, and we feel much closer to the children”.

  26. A family that can cope

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