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May 14, 2013. Entry task: What is engagement? Target: Identify engagement and warning signs. Marriage Preparation the Foundation of Marriage!. Engagement. Engaged to Be….
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May 14, 2013 • Entry task: What is engagement? • Target: Identify engagement and warning signs.
Engaged to Be…. ....married, of course! It goes without saying that engagement is a statement of intention to marry, but there are other, perhaps less obvious, functions of engagement as well???
Establish Yourselves as a Couple Spend Time Together Get to Know Each Other Better Observer Each Other in a Variety of Situations Discover Similarities and Differences Seek Counsel or Advice Arrange for a place to live Plan the Wedding Reconsider the Marriage if Necessary Engagement ???
Are you Ready for Commitment? • Do You Know Yourself? • Expectations • Idiosyncrasies • Values • Goals • What Do You Have in Common? • Beliefs • Dreams • Interests • Activities • Do You Know Your Loved One? • Life Plans • Priorities • Attitudes • Habits
Seeing DoubleAs a single person, you think with your own individual point of view. As a Married Person, you must adjust to being part of a couple. You must think in terms of “we” not just “I”. The challenge is to learn to see things as a couple while maintaining your own individuality at the same time. I want We want I will We will I need We need I wish We wish I should We should I Expect We expect I plan We plan + You I = US What might Happen to a couple who cannot make this adjustment?
Engagement Warning Signs A successful engagement is one that either confirms the wish to marry or the fact that marriage would be a mistake. While breaking an engagement is not easy, it is far better than entering a lifetime commitment with serious doubts.
WARNING This marriage may be Hazardous to your Happiness! • Too much Dependency on one person • Great Differences in Values, Goals, Expectations • Lack of Family Approval and Support • Excesses – Drug, Alcohol, etc. • Abusive Behavior • Brief Acquaintance • Frequent Quarrels or Fights • Guilt or Pressure Motivations to Marry • Personal History of Frequent Changes (Jobs, Friends, Etc) • Under Eighteen or Shows signs of Immaturity
How much do weddings cost? • Weddings? • $26,951 • Honeymoon? • $3,600 • Engagement ring? • $4,630
Average Cost… • Wedding dress: $1,124
Average Cost • Cake: $591
Average Cost • Rings: $6113 bride (includes bride's ring and band) and $468 (for the groom)
Average Cost • Photographer: $2,307
Average Cost • Flowers: $1,971
Average Cost • DJ: $782
Average Cost • Reception: $13,106
Average Cost • Venue: $1,993
Average Cost • Invitations: $368
Average Cost • Catering: $59 per guest – 150 = $8,850
Average Cost • Center pieces: DIY - $273 Hired - $988
Average Cost • Wedding bouquet: $108
Average Cost • Tuxedo: $141
Average Cost • Grooms cake: $200
Average Cost • Prenuptial agreement: $780