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Resolving Conflicts in our Lives

Resolving Conflicts in our Lives. Deputy Sheriff Chris Hudson Forsyth County Sheriff’s Office. Classroom Rules:. No talking when I am teaching or someone else is speaking Raise your hand to ask a question or to speak Respect others “NO PUT DOWNS!”

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Resolving Conflicts in our Lives

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  1. Resolving Conflicts in our Lives Deputy Sheriff Chris Hudson Forsyth County Sheriff’s Office

  2. Classroom Rules: • No talking when I am teaching or someone else is speaking • Raise your hand to ask a question or to speak • Respect others “NO PUT DOWNS!” • When telling a story don’t mention the person’s name or relationship. Just say “someone I know…”

  3. Question Box • No question is a dumb question • Make sure the question is appropriate • Could be about rules, laws, drugs, or what you should do in a certain situation

  4. Personal Info: • Born in West Virginia moved to South Florida at 16 • Moved to Cumming, GA in 2007 • Worked as a law enforcement officer for 5 years • I enjoy hunting and fishing • Married with 2 kids

  5. Who are You???What is your name?Favorite hobbies?Favorite music? Favorite food?

  6. Purpose • This course was designed to: • Help you understand how to handle a conflict • Help you understand the different roles you can play in a conflict • Demonstrate how the role you play can affect the outcome of the conflict

  7. Objectives • Define conflict • Understand individual roles in conflicts • Aggressors • Victims • Bystanders • Demonstrate various ways to handle a conflict

  8. Funny Moment:

  9. C O N F L I C T What is conflict? What does conflict mean to you? What does it feel like to be in a conflict? What situations feel like a conflict to you?

  10. Examples of conflict • Being troubled over something • Being misunderstood • Feeling pressured to do something you don’t really want to do • Spreading rumors • Arguing with parents • Yelling at others • Being harassed • Getting picked on • Fighting with other students

  11. Georgia State Law • 16-5-20 Simple Assault • A person commits an act which places another person in reasonable apprehension (fear) of immediately receiving a violent injury. • 16-5-23.1 Battery • A person commits the offense of battery when he or she intentionally causes substantial physical harm or visible bodily harm to another.

  12. Statistics • Contrary to public perception, violent crime in schools has declined dramatically since 1994.The annual rate of serious violent crime in 2005 (5 per 1,000 students) • This data was collected as part of the National Crime Victimization Survey and was not derived from school records. http://youthviolence.edschool.virginia.edu/violence-in-schools/national-statistics.html

  13. Statistics • The rate of homicides in U.S. schools has declined substantially since the early 1990s. There was an apparent interruption in the downward trend during a period of highly publicized shootings that may have generated some copycat shootings. http://youthviolence.edschool.virginia.edu/violence-in-schools/national-statistics.html

  14. CONFLICTis a disagreement or feelings of uneasiness. A conflict can be internal or involve others.

  15. How does a person handle a conflict with someone else?

  16. Negative ways of handling a conflict with someone • Yelling, screaming • Bickering, mumbling • Name calling • Talking behind someone’s back • Arguing in a mean way • Fighting

  17. Using violence to solve a conflict is NOT the answer!

  18. Positive ways to handle a conflict • Talk about the problem in a peaceful manner • Rationalize • Negotiate / Compromise • Put yourself in the other person’s shoes, look at the conflict from their perspective • Look at your options • Plus • Minus

  19. Everyone has conflicts! • Conflict is a normal part of our life, and sometime it is a necessary part. Conflict allows us to grow and learn. People may not get what they want in a conflict situation, but people can disagree without fighting. It is important for us to be able to handle conflict in a way that preserves our personal safety.

  20. Any Questions?

  21. Trouble in the Hall • What is the conflict in “Trouble in the Hall”? • How might Calvin’s thinking affect the conflict? • What would happen if Calvin were thinking… Jim was trying to move in on his girlfriend? That moving in on his girlfriend is a sign of disrespect to him? That Jim was just talking to Naomi and not making a move? That Naomi can talk to anybody she likes?

  22. Roles in conflicts • People play different roles in conflicts, especially conflicts that become fights. • Conflicts that escalate into fights usually involve AGGRESSORS, VICTIMS, and BYSTANDERS.

  23. Aggressor • Someone who provokes others, or starts fights. They believe violence is the only alternative. They act with impulsiveness, and hostility.

  24. Victim • Person who is physically or verbally attacked. They are sometimes routinely bothered and picked on.

  25. Bystander • Someone who is nearby during a conflict. This person can play an important part (pivotal role) in a conflict. What they do or say can lead to or prevent a conflict from turning into a fight.

  26. There is an additional role that a person can be in a conflict. This role is called the …. Nonviolent problem-solver

  27. Nonviolent problem-solver • Someone who approaches a problem in a positive, non violent way. This person can work things out without fighting.

  28. Funnier Moment Why lizards should never bungee jump

  29. Trouble in the Hall • Who is the aggressor? • Who is the potential victim? • Who are the bystanders? • Who could become a nonviolent problem-solver?

  30. Everyone has conflicts! • People are not good or bad because they experience conflict. • The important issue is how we handle conflict. • If we resolve our conflicts by fighting, then conflict becomes something negative. • If we handle it in a positive way, then conflict can help us learn more about others and ourselves.

  31. Review: • Conflict • Aggressor • Victim • Bystander • Nonviolent problem solver

  32. The reason for knowing how to handle a conflict! • To keep ourselves and others safe. • To keep ourselves out of trouble with the school or the law. • To learn how to communicate with others in a positive way.

  33. TEST

  34. Which answer below best describes the word CONFLICT? A) It is when a bunch of cons get together and flick each other B) A disagreement or feelings of uneasiness. C) When two people agree on something D) An agreement or feelings of greatness E) A disagreement to disagree

  35. An AGGRESSOR is someone who: A) Helps old ladies across the street B) Is a nice person C) Never gets into fights D) Is cool headed E) Provokes others, or starts fights

  36. A Bystander is someone who: A) Gets involved in conflicts B) Is bilingual C) Is friends with the aggressor D) Is nearby during a conflict E) Always knows the victim

  37. Can there be more then one aggressor in a conflict? YES or NO? YES

  38. Congratulations!

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