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Marital Intimacy

Marital Intimacy. Spiritual Intimacy. 3 Types of Intimacy. Soul Intimacy. Physical Intimacy. Spiritual Intimacy. Defined: We develop our spiritual lives as individuals but share in our submission to our God. This allows us to share the purpose that God has for us as a couple.

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Marital Intimacy

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  1. Marital Intimacy

  2. Spiritual Intimacy 3 Typesof Intimacy Soul Intimacy Physical Intimacy

  3. Spiritual Intimacy Defined: We develop our spiritual lives as individuals but share in our submission to our God. This allows us to share the purpose that God has for us as a couple.

  4. Spiritual Intimacy It is about learning to connect with your spouse through his or her faith.

  5. God Commitment to God Commitment to God Wife Husband Intimacy Commitmentto yourself Commitmentto yourself Conflicts Individual Spiritual Growth

  6. Committed to Yourself Taking advantage of… Dominering Selfish Judgemental My attitude towards my spouse.

  7. Spiritual intimacy grows as each person grows individually in his/her devotion to God. Each one learns and fulfills his/her duties without judging the other person on his/her progress.

  8. Committed To God Means Letting God.. Govern Guide Psalm 23:1 Psalm 25:5 1 Corinthians 6:19 Proverbs 16:9 2 Corinthians 4:5

  9. Committed To God I submit myself to God I submit myself to God Wisdom Power Attitude towards my spouse Selflessness Agape Love Service Patience

  10. Take Time to Connect

  11. Spiritual Intimacy 3 Typesof Intimacy Soul Intimacy Physical Intimacy

  12. Soul Intimacy “Soul” Mind = What we think Emotions = What we feel Will = What we desire

  13. Soul Intimacy “Intimacy” Secrecy = What we keep hidden Revealing = What we share Exclusivity = With whom we share it.

  14. Soul Intimacy Soul Intimacy is that bond between a spouses who reveal their deepest intimate thoughts, feelings, and desires exclusively with each other.

  15. Soul Intimacy exists when both people feel free to share… Thoughts “I have been thinking…” Feelings “I feel that…” Desires “I would like…”

  16. Soul Intimacy Soul Intimacy is a two-way street. It is about willingness to reveal your intimate thoughts, feelings, and desires; but it is just as much about listening to and understanding your spouse’s intimate thoughts, feelings, and desires.

  17. OBSTACLES…

  18. OBSTACLES… 1. Thinking that it is my job to change the other person. 2. Thinking that we always have to agree in order to be happy. 3. Inability or lack of desire to open up with the other person. 4. Different Values

  19. 1. Thinking it’s my job to change the other person… “If only he thought more like me…” “If only she could control her emotions…”

  20. 2. Thinking that we always have to agree in order to be happy… “Even though we are two distinct people with distinct temperaments and tastes, we should somehow always agree on everything.” Not True!

  21. 3. Inability or lack of desire to open up with the other person… He doesn’t understand me and won’t talk!!! I don’t even know what he feels!

  22. Are men mummies? UHHH For men in particular, it can be difficult to foster soul intimacy in this sense.

  23. “This relationship is just too much work!” I really don’t know what she wants from me. I work hard and I just need some time to myself. Emotionally, I can’t take much more of this. He never has time for me.

  24. 4. Different Values… Family Work Money Church My Values Sports Success Health Education Integrity

  25. TOOLS 1. Active Listening 2. Weekly Coffee & Conversation Time 3. Monthly Family Meeting Time 4. Establish Shared Family Values

  26. Take Time to Connect

  27. Spiritual Intimacy 3 Typesof Intimacy Soul Intimacy Physical Intimacy

  28. Physical Intimacy Intimacy in our sexual relationship comes from an understanding that the pleasure found in sex can only truly be experienced outside the realm of selfishness and perversion.

  29. Physical Intimacy When the couple understands God’s purpose for sex, the relationship will be an expression of Biblical truths.

  30. Hebrews 13:4 Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge.

  31. The Purpose of Sex in my Marriage 1. Portrait (of Christ’s love for the Church)

  32. The Purpose of Sex in my Marriage 1. Portrait (of Christ’s love for the Church) 2. Procreation

  33. The Purpose of Sex in my Marriage

  34. Genesis 1:28 28 Then God blessed them, and God said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply; fill the earth and subdue it; have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the air, and over every living thing that moves on the earth.”

  35. The Purpose of Sex in my Marriage 1. Portrait (of Christ’s love for the Church) 2. Procreation 3. Passion (Intimacy & Partnership)

  36. Song of Solomon 2:2-6 2 Like a lily among thorns, So is my love among the daughters. 3 Like an apple tree among the trees of the woods, so is my beloved among the sons. I sat down in his shade with great delight, and his fruit was sweet to my taste. under my head, And his right hand embraces me.

  37. Song of Solomon 2:2-6 4 He brought me to the banqueting house, and his banner over me was love.5 Sustain me with cakes of raisins, refresh me with apples, for I am lovesick.6 His left hand is under my head, And his right hand embraces me.

  38. The Purpose of Sex in my Marriage 1. Portrait (of Christ’s love for the Church) 2. Procreation 3. Passion (Intimacy & Partnership) 4. Pleasure

  39. Proverbs 5:18 18 Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice with the wife of your youth.

  40. How to Have Sacred Sex 1. Know the Purpose. 2. Keep it in the Biblical Context. 3. Keep it Healthy, not Perverse.

  41. To enrich the life of the couple. To be an instrument of grace to the other person. What is the Purpose?

  42. It’s about understanding God’s purpose for our sexual intimacy, knowing that God wants to use our sexual relationship to teach and share His grace. What is the Purpose?

  43. 1 Corinthians 7:3-4 3 Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband. 4 The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does.

  44. “When two become one flesh, their bodies are at the service of the other person. The best sex occurs when the his joy comes from her, and when her joy comes from him.” Sex must be a selfless act! John Piper

  45. “God did not create this enormous capacity for pleasure simply to ensure that there would be a next generation.” John Piper

  46. How to Have Sacred Sex 1. Know the Purpose. 2. Keep it in the Biblical Context. 3. Keep it Healthy, not Perverse.

  47. Between a man and a woman who are bound by a vow of marriage. What is the Biblical Context?

  48. Hebrews 13:4 So outside the context of marriage, sex is an act of perversion. 4 Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge.

  49. How to Have Sacred Sex 1. Know the Purpose. 2. Keep it in the Biblical Context. 3. Keep it Healthy, not Perverse.

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