Supporting Victims and Users of Family Violence in the Workplace

2. Welcome The purpose of today is to give you the knowledge and skills to support victims and users of family violence in the workplace. By the end of this session you will be able to: Describe what family violence is and describe the different types of family violence. Identify possible signs and behaviours of victims and users of violence. Support victims or users of violence, using resources available.

3. Agenda Introduction Family violence in New Zealand What is family violence Recognising signs of family violence Supporting victims and users of family violence Available Resources Close

4. What is Family Violence? Family violence is when a member of the family controls the actions of others in the family using fear and intimidation.

5. Different Types of Family Violence

6. The Facts New Zealand has the highest reported rate of family violence in the developed world.

7. Do You Know The Facts? How often do the police attend a domestic abuse incident? every 5.15 mins How many women experience physical and/or sexual abuse from a male partner/ex-partner in their lifetime? 1 in 3

8. … Facts Continued On average how many men are killed every year by their partner/ex partner. 10 On average how many women are killed every year by their partner/ex partner. 13

9. … Facts Continued On average how many children are killed every year by a member of their own family? 9

10. The Warehouse Group 2408TWGwomen could experience family violence in their lifetime 292 TWG men could experience one or more sexual offences in their lifetime TWG has just over 12000 employees 7225 are women 4867 are men

11. Activity - Common Family Violence Myths Split into 4 groups Each group will look at 1 common myth Discuss what you think the reality really is. 2 mins to discuss in your small groups 2 mins for each group to feedback to whole group

12. Group Feedback Myth 1 ‘ People should just remove themselves from abusive relationships’ Myth 2 ‘Some people ask for it, provoke it, want it or even deserve it.’ Myth 3 ‘Violent people are mentally ill or have psychopathic personalities’ Myth 4 ‘Family violence only happens in certain cultures or communities’

13. The Three R’s

14. Recognise What have you seen and heard?

15. Power and Control Wheel Recognise What have you seen and heard?

16. Activity – Identifying Signs of a Victim Split in 2 groups Using the Power and Control Wheel as a reference discuss possible signs or behaviours of a victim you may notice Write your thoughts down and be prepared to share them with the whole group. 5 mins to discuss in your groups 2 mins for each group to feedback

17. Possible Signs of a Victim Injuries and making excuses for themselves Change of behaviour at work Low self esteem Personality changes Fear of conflict Passive aggressive behaviour Self blame Isolation and control Stress related problems

18. Activity – Identifying Signs of a Person Who Uses Violence Recognise What have you seen and heard? Stay in your 2 groups Using the ‘Power and Control Wheel’ as a reference discuss the possible signs or behaviours of a person that uses violence. Write your thoughts down and be prepared to share them with the whole group. 5 mins to discuss in your groups 2 mins for each group to feedback

19. Possible Signs of a User of Violence Bully others at work. Blame others for problems, especially their partner. Be seen as arrogant to others. Have ‘defensive injuries’ (scratch marks). Be knowledgeable about the legal/social systems and use it their advantage. Be absent or late to work due to their actions toward the victim. Call their partner repeatedly during work time, become agitated if unable to contact them .

20. Remember… Victims don’t always have visible bruises or injuries Most users of violence are often described as friendly sociable people

22. Supporting Victims – Your Role Show that you believe the person. Affirm they are not to blame. Be non-judgemental and accept differences of opinion. Be encouraging, supportive and open. Give accurate information. Keep a record of the conversation and advise the victim you are doing so. Allow the victim to take whatever steps they want to take at their own pace. Follow up. Ensure all conversations are safe and discreet

23. Keeping Our People Safe Safety planning must be done by an agency or individual trained in working with victims of family violence. However, if our team member would like our help, we can do things in our workplace to help keep them safe. Refer them to an agency who can assist them in planning for their safety (more info on this in the next section) Obtain a Trespass Order for your work premises. Change their work mobile number or block abusers number. Accompany victim to and from their vehicle. Have an emergency contact on speed dial on your phone. Turn off GPS on their work mobile. Put alerts in place at work so the victim doesn’t receive telephone calls or messages.

24. Supporting Users of Violence Have the conversation somewhere discreet and safe. Listen to what they are telling you. Be non-judgmental. It is ok to say “What you’re doing is not OK but we can find help.” Offer ways to help. Refer to TW Group Family Violence Policy. Keep a record of the conversation. Duty of care.

25. TWG Family Violence Policy

27. Resources Available • Organisational Counselling Programme • Resources • Women's Refuge • White Ribbon • Family Violence – Its not Ok! • Shine • National Networking of Stopping Violence Services • The Warehouse Website • Julie Simpson – Head of Employment Relations

28. Activity – The Three Rs Get into pairs • Using Scenario complete Three R’s grid • 2 mins to read scenarios • 5 mins to complete Three R’s grid • 5 mins feedback to group

29. Summary Remember to use the Three R’s

30. Bs and Cs