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Welcome. Communication with Others. Presented by Bernard Denner Centre for Advancement of Men’s Health Castlemaine, Victoria, Australia. Organised and Supported by “On Track” Community Health Project Mallee Track Health & Community Service. What WE are looking at today A bit about me

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  1. Welcome Communication with Others Presented by Bernard Denner Centre for Advancement of Men’s Health Castlemaine, Victoria, Australia Organised and Supported by “On Track” Community Health Project Mallee Track Health & Community Service

  2. What WEare looking at today • A bit about me • Communication • Drinking • Sex / Lust / Choice • Depression • Parents / Teachers • Girls / Boys / Dating

  3. Men’s Health:MAN MODEL Health Promotion Known as: Centre for Advancement of Men’s Health (CAMH) affiliate Centre for Rural & Regional Health Education (CRRHE) located at Hepburn Health Service Daylesford 6th year commencing with our program MAN….Being a Father HOW LONG?

  4. Who am I? Bernard Denner Health Educator /Projects Manager Bloke 51 yearsDivorced 11 yearsDaughters - 14 and 16 years Vietnam Veteran 3RAR…Infantry

  5. Communication in all aspects of Life is Important Whether it be with adults, friends, family or members of the opposite sex Good communication is the Solution to lots of problems

  6. My work since 1994 focuses on providing Programs that address issues associated with: Men Adolescents Workplace Health Women Understanding Men and Farmsafety in Primary Schools

  7. mannet.com.au Averages monthly: 95,000+ hits 4,250+ sessions 40% interest from North America Rated in Top 15% of 1.7M www domains “Who said men weren’t interested in their health”

  8. Health THE FACTS

  9. Australian Mortality Rates National - 1999 15-24 years Cause of Death Males Females %Rate Suicide 398 71 435%  Cancer 95 47 202%  Leukemia 35 11 318%  Transport Accident 407 116 350%  Drugs 68 27 251%  Source: Causes of Death, ABS, 1999

  10. Australian Mortality Rates Loddon Mallee Health Region - 1994 Cause of Death Males Females %Rate Suicide 25 7 357%  Cancer 309 230 134%  Heart Disease 122 49 248%  Source: DHS, Measures of Health Status and Health Services in Victoria, 1994

  11. Communication

  12. Know yourself • Get to know and like yourself • Become aware of your feelings and values; don’t be pushed into betraying them • If you’re not sure what you think and feel, WAIT; don’t rush yourself

  13. Think about the decisions you make, their consequences and their effect on yourself and on others • Talk to the people you care about, let them know what you think and feel

  14. Accept that you will make mistakes, and learn from them • BE YOURSELF Source: Be yourself, Love Sex and You, A Guide for Teenagers, Vicki Wootten

  15. Who are Parents? What is a Parent? What is Parenting Love? Parenting is important!

  16. How to talk to parents

  17. Pick the right time • Prepare yourself • Work within the Boundaries • Prepare some alternative • options • Remind Parents - You’re older

  18. Don’t lose your cool • Negotiate calmly • Give and take • Don’t put one parent against the other - remember you will never win doing this. Source: Bernard J. Denner

  19. Use Good examples to get your • Point Across • Like someone your Parents • Respect and Like

  20. How important areTeachers? What’s their job? Maybe your future partly depends on them!

  21. How to talk to teachers

  22. Pick the right time • Ask for an appointment / suitable time in advance • Don’t try to solve a problem or argue in front of the whole class

  23. Prepare yourself • What do you want to say • What do you hope to achieve • Alternative outcomes that are acceptable to you and the Teacher

  24. Work within the boundaries • Don’t lose your cool • Negotiate calmly • Understand that teachers are human and can make mistakes

  25. Don’t promise what you can’t deliver - be realistic about your goals and work towards them • Give and take Source: Bernard J. Denner and Gail Allan

  26. Discipline Boundaries Rules By Parents, Teachers and other adults … You Should ask yourself ... WHY?

  27. IT MEANS …... That they ... CARE and PROTECT and Want to ... GUIDE EDUCATE and SUPPORT YOU

  28. Thoughts for Adolescents - …………...School • School is also chance to develop: • Lifeskills • Form opinions • Learn about themselves • Be educated for Life • Socialise

  29. School is a chance to work on: • Coping with difficult people • Coping with difficult situations • and to LISTEN AND LEARN

  30. How to talk to boys

  31. Think about why you want to talk to a particular boy • Make eye contact and smile • Good talk, creates good friendship • Keep your expectations realistic

  32. Keep conversations private • Don’t tell him everything, keep some things private • Maintain your self respect • Learn from the experience

  33. Talk about • Music • Sport • TV Programs • Their interests • Your interests • Ask questions

  34. Don’t • Be soppy / giggly / coy • Invade personal space • Criticise • Use sex as a tool, it leads to short- term attraction, but long-term disrespect Source: Kerry Grant

  35. Dating - How to Ask

  36. Phone Etiquette When phoning, speak politely to the parents, if they answer. You need their support - having good manners impresses. Remember to identify yourself clearly. Source: Bernard J. Denner

  37. Drinking If you choose to drink you should consider the following pieces of advice

  38. Be clear about why you are drinking • Be responsible for yourself and others • Don’t take risks with yourself or others • Drink in a safe place

  39. Take a limited amount of alcohol with you • Low alcohol beer is cheaper and tends to make you feel full before you are drunk • Pour your own drinks / open your own bottles

  40. Finish your glass first, don’t “top” it up • Arrange for safe transport home • Make a safety pact with a friend before drinking • Alternate alcoholic and non-alcoholic drinks and avoid salty snacks

  41. Finish the night by drinking water - it won’t make you sober, but you will feel better in the morning • Never drink and drive, climb or swim Source: Rob and Kerry Grant

  42. Unsafe Drinking • Could lead to: • Unsafe sexual behaviour • Aggression / Fighting • Targetting / Harrassing Girls • Drugs

  43. Stronger Drinks • Risky behaviour such as: • unsafe swimming • unsafe driving • Hospitalisation through injury from risky behaviour or alcoholic poisoning Source: Bernard J. Denner

  44. Drugs If you choose to take drugs you should consider the following pieces of advice

  45. Be clear about why you are taking drugs • Be responsible for yourself and others • Don’t take risks with yourself or others • Take drugs in a safe place

  46. Don’t mix drugs and alcohol • Don’t buy drugs from an unknown source • Don’t experiment, by yourself • Never mix drugs

  47. Arrange for safe transport home • Make a safety pact with a friend before taking drugs • Best Advice • DON’T TAKE DRUGS

  48. Ask yourself Why? Do I need to? Being cool, could KILL you Source: Bernard Denner

  49. Unsafe Drug Taking • Could lead to: • Death • Incapacitation for Life • Jail • HIV and Hepatitis C

  50. Stronger Drugs • Risky behaviour such as: • unsafe swimming • unsafe driving • Hospitalisation through injury from risky behaviour Source: Bernard J. Denner

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