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Anger Management Skills. Does everybody experience anger?. Everybody gets angry. That is okay. You’re going to feel how you feel. BUT: how you act is up to you. And that matters, because how you act leads to consequences. TSWBAT:. 1. Identify your anger triggers 2. Know your anger cues
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Does everybody experience anger? • Everybody gets angry. That is okay. You’re going to feel how you feel. BUT: how you act is up to you. And that matters, because how you act leads to consequences.
TSWBAT: • 1. Identify your anger triggers • 2. Know your anger cues • 3. Know your anger style • 4. Deal with your anger effectively
TRIGGERSWhat bugs you? • Something that happens that makes you angry • What triggers you does not always trigger someone else.
MAKE A LIST • If you know your anger triggers, then you can either: • 1. Try to avoid them • 2. Learn how to deal with them.
ANGER CUES Clenched fist Loud voice • Your body sends you signals, when you’re getting angry. Red face Racing & pounding heartbeat Upset stomach Sweat
Make A List • What are your anger cues?
What’s your anger style? • When your anger is triggered, you’re going to react in some way. The way you react is called your ANGER STYLE. Dumping Acting Out Burying
ACTING OUT • Easiest to recognize • It’s when you strike out at the person you are mad at: physically or verbally. • YOU’RE OUT OF CONTROL!!!!
DUMPINGDISPLACED ANGER • Shifting your feelings to someone you feel it’s safe to be mad at. • Ex. Guy gets mad at his boss, comes home & yells at his wife, who yells at the kids, who kick the dog!!
BURYING • When you hold your anger down inside yourself because you think it isn’t nice to have those feelings. • Denying your angry isn’t dealing with it. • It can come out in other ways: headaches, stomachaches, anxious, depressed • One day you might explode!!
DEALING WITH ANGER • When you find yourself angry, REMEMBER the only behavior you can manage is YOUR own!!! • So, pay attention to your anger cues. • And, if you feel like you’re going to lose it…
Get a grip!!! • 1. Cool off, stay calm. • Walk away • Count to 10 • Take deep breaths • Use calming self-talk: “I can handle this. Chill. It’s not as bad as it seems.” • Imagine you are in a peaceful place.
2. Give yourself some time to sort things out. • Write the problem down on paper. • Think it through. Ask yourself: what really happened? How was I triggered? What were my cues. • Talk it over with a friend or adult you trust. • Tell how you feel to the person making you angry
3. Turn your angry energy into a change for the better. • Channel your angry energy into a physical activity HOW???
EVERYBODY GETS ANGRY • That’s just how it is. • The difference comes in what you do about it. SO: GET A GRIP!!!