EMPATHY

1. EMPATHY October 2, 2006 Charles Nesson

2. serve chocolates be living not dying

3. onecannot playthis game

4. Battle of Algiers

5. facts in context Context is crucial to how we see facts. The meaning we give to facts often varies with our point of view. There may be multiple ways to see facts, depending on what (or whose) viewpoint we take.

6.   A BIG guy chasing a little guy?

7. Look again.Context is crucial. 

11. CyberOnefirst stone – daniel gilbert our reasons and our pains are more palpable, more obvious and real, than are the reasons and pains of others

12. this leads to escalation of mutual harm

13. to the illusion that others are solely responsible for it

14. to the belief that our actions are justifiable responses to theirs

21. EMPATHIZE it means to sense the hurt or the pleasure of another as s/he senses it and to perceive the causes thereof as s/he perceives them

22. - carl rogers but without ever losing the recognition that it is *as if* you were hurt or pleased

23. empathy To perceive the internal frame of reference of another with accuracy and with the emotional components and meanings which pertain thereto as if one were the person,

24. but never losing the "as if" condition.

25. empathy in dispute resolution wooing the undecided [[homework food for thought: discuss the “as if” condition]]

26. to court • chose your client’s best story • start where your client’s story starts.

27. empathy in issue identification • exams • interviewing client

28. empathy in dispute resolution wooing the other

29. to other • serve chocolates • start with the other’s story • draw the other’s attention in • empathize so that the other understands that you understand

30. break • serve chocolates

31. form groups