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Building Positive Relationship An EU Excellence Program

Building Positive Relationship An EU Excellence Program. Building Positive Relationships Session 1. I wonder what I am really like I wonder how others see me I wonder how to describe myself I wonder how effective I am at…. I’m really good at… I become exhausted when…

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Building Positive Relationship An EU Excellence Program

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  1. Building Positive RelationshipAn EU Excellence Program

  2. Building Positive RelationshipsSession 1 • I wonder what I am really like • I wonder how others see me • I wonder how to describe myself • I wonder how effective I am at…

  3. I’m really good at… • I become exhausted when… • Behind my back people might say…

  4. QuickDiSC Group Activity

  5. DiSC Lessons • We chose different cards… • It’s o.k. to talk about differences • It was hard to which ones really fit. • …rejected some and embraced others • Words seem positive… negative. • All the words are value-neutral • My cards don’t tell my whole story. We can’t label people.

  6. DiSC Lessons • And yet, my cards describe me in a helpful way. • This doesn’t speak to my motivations and intentions. • I may change (adapt my behavior) depending on the situation. • Appreciating one another’s strengths is one way to build respect and trust.

  7. The DiSC can not measure… • self-awareness or self-control… • circumstances and life experiences… • acquired skills and knowledge… • levels of motivation and commitment • character, integrity or relationship to God… …which is why labeling doesn’t really work.

  8. EQ

  9. Building Positive Relationships A. DiSC Ground Rules B. Understanding the DiSC C. DiSC – Personal Application D. DiSC – Group Application

  10. B. Understanding the DiSC • Highlights • Graphs I, II, III • Classical Pattern • Behavioral Overview • Intro Paragraphs • “range of behaviors” • “review and revise” • Behavioral Tendency Continuum • “potential range of intensity”

  11. choleric sanguine melancholy phlegmatic 400 B.C. Hippocrates –bile, blood & phlegm (yuck)

  12. D dominant I influencing C conscientious/ cautious S steady/supportive The DiSC Profile Driving Demanding Determined Decisive Doer Inspirational Inducing Impressive Interactive Interesting Interested Stable Sentimental Shy Status Quo Specialist Submissive Competent Calculating Concerned Careful Contemplative William M. Marston, 1924

  13. D dominant I influencing C conscientious/ cautious S steady/supportive The DiSC Profile view the world perceive self William M. Marston, 1924

  14. More natural to focus on Tasks or Results I D C S The DiSC Profile Think: Buying a car

  15. More natural to focus on People and Relationships I D C S The DiSC Profile Think: Thanksgiving Dinner

  16. Content to Initiate and Control Circumstances I D C S Think: Spelunking with a Jr. High youth group The DiSC Profile

  17. I D C S The DiSC Profile Content to work within existing conditions; respond. Think: Defusing a bomb.

  18. DOMINANT / DETERMINED Takes charge with end-result in mind. Bottom line thinker. Big Picture. Fears being taken advantage of Fears losing control or appearing weak The DiSC Profile I D C S

  19. INSPIRATIONAL / INFLUENCING • Initiates activity with people in mind. • Likes to talk things out. Open. • Fears not being liked. • Avoids dealing with the details. The DiSC Profile I D C S

  20. The DiSC Profile I D STEADY / SUPPORTIVE Likes serving others in a team. Wants harmony and stability Fears uncertain situations, taking charge Avoids tension and confrontation C S

  21. The DiSC Profile I D CONSCIENTIOUS / CAUTIOUS Likes processing and analyzing details Likes clearly defined expectations Dislikes changes and surprises. Avoids displays of feelings, personal stuff. C S

  22. The DiSC Profile Initiate * Change * Control “Big Picture”, Conceptual Info.* Urgent Pace I D People * Relationships Results * Tasks C S Respond * Maintain/Systematize * Support Detailed, Practical Information * Steady Pace

  23. Building Positive RelationshipsSession 1 • Classic Pattern • DISC Profile Shape • My areas of strength • Ways I may overuse a strength • Preferred Environment Share with two other TRUSTED people.

  24. Building Positive RelationshipsSession 1 • What made the most sense to you today? • What is one thing you can do…

  25. DiSC: Team Workshop A. DiSC Ground Rules B. Understanding the DiSC C. DiSC – Personal Application D. DiSC – Group Application

  26. Reactions to your DiSC? Tool itself percent accurate like/disliketrue/untrue Discussion

  27. C. DISC Personal Application • Strengths… non-Strengths… Weaknesses • Preferred Environment • Flex… adjusting your style • learn to identify and appreciate the needs and strengths of those around you. • Self-awareness = Responsibility

  28. C. DiSC Personal Application You are a composite of all 4 traits

  29. STRENGTH Recurring patterns of thought, feeling or behavior that can be appliedproductively.

  30. Environment “Have you ever noticed that when you are serving within your area of giftedness, no matter how tired you are, you are energized… and when you are serving outside your area of giftedness, it is exhausting?” --Gary Harrison

  31. Soundboard with a “factory setting” Romans 14:13-15:2

  32. FLEXING “the most successful people are those who know themselves and develop strategies to meet the needs of specific situations.” consider Jesus of Nazareth…

  33. FLEXING Discuss: Who is most responsible for flexing to meet the needs of others? For you, what does flexing look like?

  34. DiSC: Team Workshop A. DiSC Ground Rules B. Understanding the DiSC C. DiSC – Personal Application D. DiSC – Group Application

  35. D. Group Application What is the “ideal” sales person?

  36. D. The Dream Team!

  37. What do you see in someone else? Different Opportunity Strength Synergy Energy Excitement Assume the best Wrong Threat Weakness Conflict Difficulty Dread Assume the worst

  38. Law of Negative Attribution ` When someone does something that I don’t understand, don’t like, or disagree with,I will attribute to them negative motivation

  39. How will you respond to someone who is different from you? ` INEVITABLE Observe, Respect, Value. Assume the best: Tension Confusion Irritation APPROACH RESULT Mistrust, Critical, Avoid. Assume the worst:

  40. The strength side of opposite…

  41. DiSC Lessons? • Know yourself …use your strengths …see your non-strengths. • Become more of who you are… • Adapt to your circumstances… turn your volume up or down as appropriate. • Don’t try to change people… learn to value the unique talent of each individual. “God made you special, and He loves you very much” Bob & Larry

  42. TALENT All of us have talent. All of us have strength.

  43. Support Systems Partners Alternative Roles Strengths or Weaknesses? • The DiSC is one tool to help you discover your talents … • …and your non-talents. • Non-talents can become weaknesses if talent in a certain area is required. • Non-talents can be managed…

  44. Environment Discuss: intrinsic environmental factors and created environmental factors…

  45. Cooperative Ego-strength Optimistic Precise The DiSC Profile Strengths… Most Least

  46. Loss of Stability Criticism of Performance Loss of Control Loss of Approval The DiSC Profile Fears… Most Least

  47. Environment is Challenging and unsympathetic Perception of self: more influence or sway I D C S

  48. aggressive or defensive responses change people and situations I D C S

  49. Perception of self: more influence or sway Environment is Supportive or Favorable I D C S

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