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Reflect on C.S. Lewis' quote on pride and explore the concepts of Win-Lose, Lose-Win, Lose-Lose, and Win-Win attitudes. Discover how adopting a Win-Win mindset fosters healthy relationships, effective communication, and mutual success. Learn how to cultivate a spirit of abundance and generosity by prioritizing shared victories over selfish gains.
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Warm-Up Read the quote below by C. S. Lewis. Explain what you think it means in your own words. “Pride gets no pleasure out of having something, only out of having more of it than the next man.”
Today’s Learning Goal I will reflect on what it means to have a “Win-Win” attitude by reading “Think Win-Win” by Sean Covey and answering reflection prompts.
Win-LoseThe “Totem-Pole” • A person with this attitude believes relationships, friendships, and loyalty are all secondary to winning the game, being the best, or having it their way. • Win-Lose attitudes are full of pride, and too much pride can be toxic. “The pie of success is only so big, and if you get a piece there is less for me. So I’m going to make sure to get my slice first or that I get a bigger piece than you” (148). • Uses people for their own selfish purpose. • Trying to get ahead at the expense of someone else. • Always insisting on getting your way without considering others. • Getting jealous when something good happens to someone else.
Lose-WinThe “Doormat” “I, for one, am a big peacemaker. I’d rather take the blame for just about anything than get into an argument. I constantly find myself saying that I’m dumb…” (149) • A person with a Lose-Win attitude becomes a doormat. • They set low expectations for themselves and compromise their standards again and again for the sake of others. • These people constantly “lose,” because they constantly give in and hide their true feelings. • Hiding true feelings is unhealthy.
Lose-LoseThe “Downward Spiral” • Both sides are set on winning at all costs, and as a result, both lose. • Revenge, war, etc. are all examples of Lose-Lose situations. • Misery loves company. “If I’m going down, then you’re going down with me, sucker” (149).
Win-WinThe “All-You-Can-Eat-Buffet” • Cares about other people and wants them to succeed, but also cares about themselves and wants to be successful. • Not a compromise, but finding a better solution than before. • Win-win always creates an abundance. • Examples: • Being happy for the accomplishments of others and sharing in the celebrations • Sharing praise and recognition with others when you win • Link Krew “It’s not a matter of who gets the biggest piece of pie. There’s more than enough food for everyone” (152).
How to Think Win-Win • Win the “Private Victory” first • Personal security and confidence is the foundation for thinking “Win-Win”. • This means maintaining a positive PBA • Avoid the “Tumor Twins”: Competing and Comparing • Competition can be healthy if you are competing against yourself, or when it challenges you to reach higher potential. Competition becomes harmful when your self-worth is defined by whether you win or lose. • Comparing yourself to others is harmful because everyone is different and unique in their own way. Comparing yourself can become an addiction.
Fruits of the Win-Win Spirit • If you keep a Win-Win attitude, you are sure to be a magnet for friends because you are generous, committed to helping others succeed, and willing to share recognition. • Sometimes others refuse to see a Win-Win paradigm, in that case its Win-Win or no deal. Don’t compromise yourself or your dignity. Walk away.
Exit Ticket In a brief paragraph, explain what might be difficult about keeping a “Win-Win” attitude.
