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Dating to Marriage:

Dating to Marriage:. The Opportunities & Challenges of Long-Term University Commitment to Community. Randy Stoecker. Dating. Brief, low cost, low risk encounters The big question: should you “spend the night?” Moving to the next level: Follow through Stability Deadlines. Going Steady.

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Dating to Marriage:

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  1. Dating to Marriage: The Opportunities & Challenges of Long-Term University Commitment to Community Randy Stoecker

  2. Dating • Brief, low cost, low risk encounters • The big question: should you “spend the night?” • Moving to the next level: • Follow through • Stability • Deadlines

  3. GoingSteady • Frequent interaction, separate homes • The big question: should you move in together? • Moving to the next level: • Long term agreements • Multi-role relationships

  4. Marriage • Group marriage: multiple faculty, multiple community groups. • Polygamy/polyandry: the academy partners with many communities, or vice versa. • Arranged marriage: relationships assigned by administrators or faculty. • Shotgun marriage: you get together and produce a grant, that now you have to stay together to care for.

  5. AvoidingDivorce • Poor communication • Financial problems • A lack of commitment to the relationship • A dramatic change in priorities • Infidelity *American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers

  6. So why do it? The benefits of long-term commitment • Access to each others’ networks • Access to each others’ resources and ideas • The joy of togetherness • The enhancement of meaning

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