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Communication. Parent Fair November 12, 2012 Allen ISD Middle School Counselors. Earning Your Child’s Trust. Being true to your word Don’t make false promises Be a good role model Follow through with plans you make with your child Don’t use lies as a cop-out. Earning Your Child’s Trust .
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Communication Parent Fair November 12, 2012 Allen ISD Middle School Counselors
Earning Your Child’s Trust • Being true to your word • Don’t make false promises • Be a good role model • Follow through with plans you make with your child • Don’t use lies as a cop-out
Earning Your Child’s Trust • Keeping confidences • Refrain from gossip about children and their friends • Don’t comment on overheard conversations • Don’t use past information against your child at a later time • Giving Responsibility • Be clear with expectations and consequences • Learn to let go gradually • Allow child to come up with solutions
Arguing with Your Children Does this sound familiar?? Exhausted from hassling your children day after day Where is the joy in parenting Stuck in a cycle of never ending arguing and explaining
Help is on the way!! • You are the parent. Set appropriate rules and guidelines • It is the child’s job to challenge and test the rules and guidelines • Unreasonable standards may have a negative effect on the child’s self-esteem • Give children a voice in simple decisions
More Help!! • Offer choices and options when you can • Make non-negotiables known • Respond non-emotionally • Watch your tone of voice and body language • Resolve conflicts as a family when possible
Fighting Wordsvs.Supportive Words Many times the way we say things makes our children more angry than what we say. • Facial expressions and vocal tones are silent but are powerful • Try to find ways to say “Yes” Example: No you can’t go outside until your homework is done vs. Yes you can go outside just as soon as your homework is done
Words Can Hurt…Sometimes Forever Words can be powerful and painful, especially when they come from a parent. Hurtful criticism can leave scars that last a lifetime. • Use your words and actions to show love • A child spells love T-I-M-E • Take a time-out when you are stressed or angry • Don’t be afraid to apologize if you were unkind
Words Can Hurt…Sometimes Forever • Set reasonable expectations that provide opportunities for success • Encourage and support • Look for the positives • Create a home environment where everyone is respected