Unhealthy Relationships

1. Unhealthy Relationships Types of Abuse Statistics Date Rape What You Should Do

2. What is Abuse?? The intentional physical, emotional, sexual, and/or verbal maltreatment from one person to another.

3. Types of Abuse • Physical Abuse • Sexual Abuse • Emotional/Verbal

4. Physical Abuse • Intentionally inflicting bodily harm or injury on a person • Shoving, slapping, kicking, grabbing, etc. • Intimidation • Use of weapons

5. Emotional Abuse • Put-downs, insults, rumors • Threats • Possessiveness • Overdependency • Humiliation • Accusations

6. Sexual Abuse • Forcing a person to engage in sexual activities of any kind. (Does not need to involve sexual intercourse!) • Unwanted touching, forced sexual activities, pressure to have sex • Battery, or beating, is often used in conjunction with sexual abuse.

7. Why Does Abuse Occur?? Risks of having unhealthy relationships increases for teens who: • Believe its OK to use threats or violence to get their way or to express frustration • Use alcohol or drugs • Can’t manage anger or frustration • Hang out with violent peers

8. Risks continued… • Have low self esteem or are depressed • Have learning difficulties and other problems at school • Don’t have parental supervision and support • Witness abuse at home • Have a history of aggressive behavior or bullying

9. Abuse is about POWER & CONTROL • Abusers may feel insecure or uncertain about themselves or may feel they have no control in their lives. This may cause them to use power and control in their relationships to make themselves feel better.

10. How to Avoid Abuse…. • Recognize – Learn to recognize abusive behavior. • Resist – Be assertive. • Report – Get away and tell someone about the incident as soon as you can.

11. Statistics • About 1/11 teens report being a victim of physical dating abuse each year. • About 1/4 teens report verbal, physical, emotional, or sexual abuse each year.

12. Statistics • About 1/5 girls has been physically or sexually abused by their partner. • Nearly 80% of girls who have been physically abused in their relationship continue to date their abuser.

13. Statistics • Nearly 1/5 teenage girls reported that a boyfriend had threatened violence or self-harm if presented with a break-up. • Teen dating abuse most often takes place in the home of one of the partners.

14. A Look Into Your Relationships… • Does your partner’s jealousy stop you from seeing your friends or doing things you enjoy? • Does your partner make fun of you, insult you, or put your family or friends down? • Do you make decisions TOGETHER? • Do you feel comfortable saying “NO” to your partner? • Has your partner ever threatened you to get what he/she wants?

15. A Look Into Your Relationships… • Do you feel pressured by your partner to do things that make you feel uncomfortable? • Does your partner help you to feel good about yourself by listening and respecting your opinions? • Does your partner blame you when he/she messes up or when things go wrong? • Does your date always need to know what you are doing?

16. Love Promises Confusion Denial Low self-esteem Peer pressure Guilt Fear Belief you can change your partner False hope Why It’s So Hard to Leave…

17. Rape • Rape – sexual intercourse by force. Rape is considered a crime of violence. • Rape is one of the least reported crimes, it is estimated that half of all rapes go un reported. Why is this? • Anytime 2 people have sexual intercourse and one does not agree on the act it is considered Rape. • A rapist could be a stranger or even someone you know.

18. Rape • Rape is a form of assault involving non-consensual sexual intercourse. • Rape is an act of aggression and violence and is one of the most serious CRIMES.

19. What is consent? • It’s as simple as respecting and communicating with your partner. • If you are drunk or high you CANNOT physically give your consent. • Consent does not count if you’ve been forced, threatened, bribed, or intimidated. • Even if consent has been given in the past, everyone has the right to change their mind and stop giving permission. • All sexual activity without consent is a criminal offense.

20. Date Rape • Even if the individuals involved know one another and have had sexual intercourse before, no one has the right to force a sexual act on another person. • Rape is NOT about love or passion

21. Date Rape • Alcohol and Drugs are often involved in cases of date rape. • Alcohol inhibits an individual’s ability to think clearly and use common sense.

22. Date Rape Drugs • Most common drugs used: -- Rohypnol (“roofies”) -- Gamma-hydroxybutyrate (GHB) -- Ketamine

23. Rohypnol • A pill that dissolves in liquids. • The new pills turn blue when added to liquids, however the old ones are still available. • Effects: loss of memory, drunken feeling, problems talking/seeing, nausea, loss of consciousness, dizziness, confusion

24. GHB • GHB comes in 3 forms – a liquid with no odor or color, white powder, or pill • Effects – relaxation, drowsiness, dizziness, black-out, memory loss, problems breathing, slow heart rate, coma, death

25. Ketamine • White powder • Effects – hallucinations, lose sense of time, feeling out of control, slurred speech, loss of coordination, aggressive behavior, loss of memory

26. Where Do They Come From? • Rohypnol – Legally used in Latin America and Europe to treat insomnia • GHB – Available in other countries to treat different types of sleep disorders • Ketamine – General anesthetic for human and veterinary use (one only of the drugs legal in US)

27. Protecting Yourself.. • Don’t accept drinks from other people • Open containers yourself • Keep your drink with you at all times • Don’t share drinks • Don’t drink from large punch bowls