Ocianna Valenzuela College abusive relationships. intro to women’s studies.

1. Ocianna Valenzuela College abusive relationships.intro to women’s studies.

2. Cycle of abuse The cycle of abuse had four phases. • Phase one- tension builds: there is lack of communication in the relationship, and the victim starts to feel more fearful. • Phase two- the incident: this is where the emotional, physical, and blaming abuse starts to happen. • Phase three-the reconciliation: this is where the abuser apologizes, and acts like nothing ever happened. • Phase four-the calm: this is what is known as the “honeymoon phase” no abuse happens during this time; until the cycle repeats itself.

3. Dating abuse statistics • In the United States alone 43% of women (college age) have claimed that they have been in an abusive relationship. 52% of women claim to know at least one person who has been in an abusive relationship. • One out of five women once again college age have claimed to be beaten, harmed, or even raped by a boyfriend or an ex. • Around 80% parents aren’t aware of their children being in an abusive relationship or harmed.

4. Red flags for spotting an abusive partner • If they put you, your family, or your friends down. • If they try to tell you what you can and can’t do. (control) • Try to force you to be sexual when you don’t want to be. • If they tell you how you have to dress and act once again an act of control. • If they tell you they would harm themselves if you would ever break up with them. • If they blame you for all of their problems. these are only some of the red flags.

5. Tips to escape an abusive relationship. • “Acknowledge the existence of abuse” Try to realize that you are in an abusive relationship before you end up physically harmed; try to stop the emotional or mental abuse before it is to late, look for the “red flags.” • “Reach out for help” Try to find someone other then your friends or family, they could harm themselves just by helping you; they tend to put things into their own hands. Contact a local organization such as a hotline, they will have safe shelters for you to stay at until everything is safe again. • “Use a safe computer” Make sure you are on a computer that the abuser can’t easily accesses the history of your web searches. • “ Make every effort to address the underlying issues that led you to being in a dysfunctional relationship” Did you grow up in a house hold where this was ok so its normal to you? Do you feel that you don’t deserve better do to what you have been told by others? • “Get to the bottom of things” Do you feel that you have to be in a relationship no matter how terrible it may be, because you are addicted to the feeling of love? Do you relate love with pain?

6. Places that can help • If you ever feel that you are in an abusive relationship call the National Domestic Violence Hotline *note these are real numbers please don’t call them as a prank* • 1-800-799-(safe), 1-800-787-3224, or 1-866-331-9474 • You can also talk to people online at www.loveisnotabuse.com/web/guest/curriculum

7. Work cites • http://stoprelationshipabuse.org/educated/warning-signs-of-abuse/ • http://www.heart-2-heart.ca/women/dv-cycle-of-abuse-women.php • http://www.pbs.org/thisemotionallife/blogs/5-tips-escape-abusive-relationship • http://youngadults.about.com/od/healthandsafety/qt/Dating-Abuse-Statistics.htm • http://www.theredflagcampaign.org/index.php/dating-violence/red-flags-for-abusive-relationships/ • http://www.loveisrespect.org/43-percent-of-college-women-experience-violence-and-abusive-dating-behaviors