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The Secret to a Lasting Relationship

The Secret to a Lasting Relationship. Ephesians 5:1-2. Hollywood’s Prescription for Lasting Relationships. 4 Steps to Follow!. FIND. 1. the right person. 2. in love. 3. your hopes and dreams on this person for your future fulfillment.

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The Secret to a Lasting Relationship

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  1. The Secret to a Lasting Relationship Ephesians 5:1-2

  2. Hollywood’sPrescriptionfor LastingRelationships

  3. 4 Steps to Follow! FIND • 1. the right person. • 2. in love. • 3. your hopes and dreams on this person for your future fulfillment. • 4. If occurs, repeat steps 1, 2, and 3. FALL FIX FAILURE

  4. The Success Rate

  5. The Pain, the Fall-Out, and the Damage

  6. God’sPrescription for LastingRelationships

  7. Ephesians 5:1-2 (NASB) • 1Therefore be imitators of God, as beloved children; 2and walk in love, just as Christ also loved you, and gave Himself up for us, an offering and a sacrifice to God as a fragrant aroma.

  8. 4 Steps to Follow! BECOME • 1. the right person. • 2. in love. • 3. your hope on God and seek to please Him through this relationship. • 4. If occurs, repeat steps 1, 2, and 3.

  9. Ephesians 4:32 (NASB) • And be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you.

  10. 4 Steps to Follow! BECOME • 1. the right person. • 2. in love. • 3. your hope on God and seek to please Him through this relationship. • 4. If occurs, repeat steps 1, 2, and 3. WALK FIX FAILURE

  11. The Success Rate

  12. The Reward, the Legacy, and the Blessing

  13. Pictorial Summary Two Models for Lasting Relationships

  14. Model #1 spiritual social psychological emotional physical

  15. Model #2 physical emotional psychological social spiritual

  16. Personal Evaluation and Analysis

  17. Personal Evaluation and Analysis • Which triangle most represents your approach to building lasting relationships?

  18. Personal Evaluation and Analysis • What would you like your present and/or future relationships to look like; model #1 or model #2?

  19. Personal Evaluation and Analysis • What specific steps do you need to take to begin implementing God’s secret to lasting relationships?

  20. Personal Evaluation and Analysis • A word to . . . • . . . uninvolved singles.

  21. Personal Evaluation and Analysis • A word to . . . • . . . uninvolved singles. • . . . involved singles.

  22. Personal Evaluation and Analysis • A word to . . . • . . . uninvolved singles. • . . . involved singles. • . . . divorced/widowed.

  23. Personal Evaluation and Analysis • A word to . . . • . . . uninvolved singles. • . . . involved singles. • . . . divorced/widowed. • . . . married couples.

  24. The $64,000 Question • Where does romance “fit in” to all of this? • How do you know when you’re “in love?”

  25. The Answer • NEXT WEEK! • Invite a friend!

  26. How to Know if You’re in Love Ephesians 5:1-2

  27. Love, it seems, is ruled by overpowering, unexplainable, mystical emotions. The ancient Greeks compared falling in love to going insane.

  28. “It is the taking over of a rational and lucid mind by delusion and self-destruction. You lose yourself, you have no power over yourself, you can’t even think straight.” • Marilyn French, American Author

  29. “Love is the state in which man sees things most widely different from what they are.” • Nietzsche

  30. “Indeed, steamy starts do not promote our best thinking. Intense emotions often block us from taking a careful and objective look at ourselves, the person we are dating, and the relationship we are forming together.” • Dr.’s Les & Leslie Parrott

  31. Three Kinds of Love • 1. Eros Love – This is need love. It is based upon physical attraction and fulfillment. This love is necessary for marriage to succeed; however, marriage cannot be sustained by eros alone.

  32. Proverbs 5:15-19 (NIV) • 15Drink water from your own cistern, running water from your own well. 16Should your springs overflow in the streets, your streams of water in the public squares? 17Let them be yours alone, never to be shared with strangers.

  33. Proverbs 5:15-19 (NIV) • 18May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. 19A loving doe, a graceful deer – may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be captivated by her love.

  34. Three Kinds of Love • 2. Phileo Love – This is friendship love. The Bible uses the word “companionship” several times in describing what a marriage relationship is.

  35. Three Kinds of Love • Phileo love means reciprocal sharing of time, activities, the home, hobbies, games, and other objects of common fellowship.

  36. Romans 12:9-13 (NIV) • 9Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good. 10Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honor one another above yourselves. 11Never be lacking in zeal, but keep your spiritual fervor, serving the Lord.

  37. Romans 12:9-13 (NIV) • 12Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer. 13Share with God's people who are in need. Practice hospitality.

  38. Three Kinds of Love • 3. Agape Love – This is a giving love. This can be unilateral in that one loves even when the other doesn’t respond as expected.

  39. Three Kinds of Love • It is self-giving in meeting real needs of the other with the purpose of helping the person to become a better, more mature individual.

  40. Three Kinds of Love • Agape love takes the initiative and energizes the other two kinds of love. Agape’s characteristics are in 1 Corinthians 13:4-8.

  41. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 (NIV) • 4Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.

  42. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 (NIV) • 7It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 8Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.

  43. Is it “Love” or “Infatuation?”

  44. Test #1 • TIME: Love grows, and all growth requires time. Infatuation may come suddenly.

  45. Test #2 • KNOWLEDGE: Love grows out of an appraisal of all the known characteristics of the other person. Infatuation may arise from an acquaintance with only a few or only one of these characteristics.

  46. Test #3 • FOCUS: Love is other-person-centered. It is outgoing. It results in sharing. Infatuation is self-centered.

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