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Chapter 6 SELF-RESPECT

Chapter 6 SELF-RESPECT. Character is greater than personality. Character > personality . The Serenity Prayer. SELF RESPECT involves. ACCEPTING YOURSELF the way you are. Personality Types. half full? half empty?. Personality types. EXTROVERT (75% of the population).

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Chapter 6 SELF-RESPECT

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  1. Chapter 6SELF-RESPECT Character is greater than personality. Character >personality

  2. The Serenity Prayer

  3. SELF RESPECT involves ACCEPTING YOURSELF the way you are.

  4. Personality Types

  5. half full? half empty?

  6. Personality types

  7. EXTROVERT (75% of the population) • Sociable • Good at meeting people • Expressive, talkers • Gain energy from the outside world

  8. INTROVERT (25% of the population) • Focus on inner world of concepts & ideas • Works well alone • Learn by reading • Gain energy from time alone

  9. The Enneagram- 9 personality types • Each TYPE has strengths + and weaknesses - • Each TYPE has advantages + and liabilities - • No TYPE is better or worse

  10. PERSONALITY just sort of happens. CHARACTERis the result of hard work. --FACING CHALLENGES • PAINFUL EXPERIENCES • TOUGH DECISIONS

  11. A person of CHARACTER makes decisions NOT as a result of … • Parents… • Teachers… • Peers… • Media… ∙what I wish (or feel like) were true… id superego

  12. but as a result of what oneKNOWS(from analyzed experience)to be TRUE ego

  13. What’s the difference between loving yourself and being conceited?

  14. Myth of Daedalus & Icarus

  15. Difference betweenhealthy PRIDE and unhealthy HUBRIS • PRIDE is a HEALTHY feeling of satisfaction for a job well done or a life well lived… • HUBRIS-is an UNHEALTHY arrogance, refusal to face flaws or faults.

  16. Make a list • CANNOT BE CHANGED • CAN BE CHANGED • Start doing something about them…

  17. We need to ACCEPT ourselves the way we are…without the • If only • If only • If only

  18. are wasted words...accept what IS! • “I am what I am”

  19. We evade (avoid) developing SELF-RESPECT

  20. DEFENSIVE EVASION #1 • SCAPEGOATING- blaming everything I don’t like about myself on someone else.

  21. DEFENSIVE EVASION #2 • MINIMALISM-settling for whatever I can get from the LEAST input.

  22. DEFENSIVE EVASION #3 • WITHDRAWAL- putting my head in the sand and denying there are any problems.

  23. We evade (avoid) developing SELF-RESPECT

  24. OFFENSIVE EVASION #1 • MASKS-trying to cover up what I fear is a big nothing with a phony façade.

  25. OFFENSIVE EVASION #2 • COMPETITION- purchasing approval & respect from the OUTSIDE to compensate for LACK of approval on the INSIDE……. $

  26. Like $$...COMPETITION isa good servant but a bad master

  27. OFFENSIVE EVASION #3 • PERFECTIONISM- never being satisfied with what I have accomplished.

  28. EVASIONS of SELF-RESPECT DEFENSIVE • Scape-goating • Minimalism • Withdrawal OFFENSIVE • Masks • Competition • Perfectionism

  29. Essay homework (10 points) due Thursday FRIDAY • 1 page min. 2 page max- must be typed • Describe a event, or decision in your life when you avoided or achieved SELF RESPECT by using or not using one of the offensive or defensive evasions of self respect. or • Describe all the things you “hate” about yourself and find difficult to accept. Discuss ways to face them, accept them and move on.

  30. CHARACTER needs 2 QUALITIES:

  31. CHARACTERS - 2 QUALITIES: • VULNERABILITY • SPINE (backbone)

  32. VULNERABILITY-let down your guard. “let go”

  33. VULNERABILITY • Put down your guard against the TRUTH and OTHERS. • Being VULNERABLE is essential for growth. • Growth involves Change and change involves risk.

  34. CHARACTERS - 2 QUALITIES: • VULNERABILITY • SPINE (backbone)

  35. SPINE or (commitment) • Do you accept EVERYTHING? • DO you ever say “NO WAY!” • Do you STAND UP and DEFEND your OPINION. • Beliefs, principles, values

  36. SPINE (Backbone)- Not give in. “hold on”

  37. SPINE-Make up your mind • Having a personality is inevitable. • Having character takes work.

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