Secrets of Human Relations: Self-Disclosure and Overcoming Shyness

1. Becoming Aware Human Relations

2. Why are people taking this course? • Because you are interested in the subject • Because it is required to graduate • It was the only thing that fit in your schedule • I’m just here for fun • ??

3. Self - Disclosure • There are 4 skills associated with self-disclosure: • Defining yourself • Knowing yourself • Getting acquainted with others • Developing Intimacy • The revealing of the inner self. • Why is this important? • Self-Disclosure is a critical part of building a new relationship. The process of meeting and becoming close with someone new depends on how much of themselves each person is willing to share. The greatest risk of self-disclosure is being rejected: either not being liked or accepted.

4. Important Self-Disclosure • Everything personal we say or do in this class room needs to remain confidential. Due to the experiential nature of this class, some people may choose to share things that they don’t want repeated outside this class. For the respect of everyone, don’t repeat what other people share.

5. Advantages of Self Disclosure • 1. Improves Relationships • 2. Promotes Mental Health • 3. Self-Validation • 4. Social Control • 5. Impression Management

6. The Johari Window is a tool for explaining communication. The size of each windowpane varies depending on your communication ability and the quality of your relationship.

8. Loneliness

9. Relationships • Relationships need to provide two things in order to prevent loneliness: • 1. Emotional Attachments • 2. Social Ties 3. How do you satisfy those needs?

10. The Fear of Getting Acquainted: Shyness • Why do so many people fear this process? Meeting people and forming relationships should be fun, but for so many people it’s a difficult process, full of stress and anxiety. Why? Am I shy? What isshyness?

11. Shyness • Consequences of shyness: • 1. self conscious • 2. difficulty making friends • 3. unwilling to take risks • 4. can be taken advantage of • 5. don’t reveal personal strengths and capabilities so no one is aware of their potential What’s the difference between a shy and a non-shy person? What causes shyness?

12. Overcoming Shyness • 1. Analyzing your shyness • 2. Building self-esteem • 3. Improving your social skills • 4. Consult a mental health professional How common is shyness?

13. People Perception • Social Perception • First Impressions • Physical Appearance • Behavior • Interactional Possibilities • Primacy Effect

14. Do our social perceptions influence our attitudes and behaviors toward prejudice and stereotyping? • 1. Inaccuracy in social perceptions • 2. Prejudices • 3. First Impressions • 4. Categorizing • 5. Attribution Error

15. Considering different sides of sensitive ethnic, cultural, and gender issues Physical Attractiveness The Matching Hypothesis

16. Self-Fulfilling Prophecies For other people: we see what we want to see For ourselves: it’s self-imposed, our expectations influence our own behavior

17. New Relationships • 1. Awareness • 2. Breaking the Ice • 3. Mutuality • 4. Communication • 5. Exposing yourself • 6. Social Skills • 7. Classes and Training

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