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COMMUNICATION. Empathy. Communicate a sense of understanding of the other person’s subjective world. Act as “if” you were in their shoes. Active Listening. Put your own needs aside Provide empathy and acceptance Help the person clarify the problem and feelings Do not offer solutions.
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Empathy • Communicate a sense of understanding of the other person’s subjective world. • Act as “if” you were in their shoes
Active Listening • Put your own needs aside • Provide empathy and acceptance • Help the person clarify the problem and feelings • Do not offer solutions
How Can We Listen Actively? • Non-verbal: • Posture • Gesture • Eye contact • Nodding • Smiling • Minimal encouragers
How Can We Listen Actively? • Verbal: • Voice tone • Parroting • Clarification • Paraphrasing • Reflecting • Probing • Open-ended questions
“YOU” Messages • You are always late. • Why did you do that? • You drive me crazy • You are acting like a baby. • You shouldn’t have said that!
Effects of “YOU” Messages • Puts people on defense • Puts people down • Makes people feel unimportant • Makes people resistant to change
“ I “ Message • When you tap on your desk with your pencil, I feel upset because I get distracted and have difficulty teaching. • When I try to help you, and you don’t say anything, I feel confused, because I don’t know how you feel about my help.
Component of “I” message • The other person’s specific behavior • The resulting feelings you experienced • What new behaviors would you expect from the other person (optional) • The impact of the other person’s behavior on you
Effects of “I” Message • It doesn’t blame the other person. • It places the focus on “me”. • It gives the responsibility for modifying the behavior to the other person.