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RELATIONSHIPS. Objective : Discuss what constitutes helpful and harmful relationships in your life. Determine what actions need to occur for a healthy relationship. Apply skills learned this lesson to successfully complete the ‘dinner party’ activity with classmates. Family.
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RELATIONSHIPS Objective: Discuss what constitutes helpful and harmful relationships in your life. Determine what actions need to occur for a healthy relationship. Apply skills learned this lesson to successfully complete the ‘dinner party’ activity with classmates.
Family • Group of people who are related to you by blood, adoption or marriage • Families relationships influence you and your behavior. Parents and adults who raise you have the greatest influence.
Types of Families • Dysfunctional Family • Family that lacks skills to be successful and function in healthy ways • Ideal • Family that has all the skills to be successful and function in healthy ways
TV/Movie/Famous Families • Family Continuum • Where would these families be on the continuum????
ACT • Action • Choose actions that promote healthy family relationships • Commitment • Make a promise to be a loving family member • Time • Spend time with your family
Relationships • Healthful • Promote self respect, productivity, and health • Free of violence and/or drug use and abuse • Harmful • Harms self respect, interferes with productivity and health • Includes violence and or drug abuse
Harmful Relationship Profiles • People Pleaser • Seeks approval • Does anything to be liked • Acts like a “doormat” • The Enabler • Supports harmful behavior of others • Makes excuses for behavior of others • Takes over other peoples responsibilities
Harmful Relationship Profiles • The Clinger • Needy and dependent • Chases and clings • Suffocates others • The Fixer • Fixes other peoples problems • Quick to give advice • Takes over other peoples responsibilities
Harmful Relationship Profiles • The Distancer • Emotionally unavailable • Avoids sharing feelings • Keeps people at an arms length away • The Controller • Possessive, jealous, and domineering • Does not respect the will of others • Demands one way • The Center • Self centered • Talks but does not listen • Ignores the needs of others
Harmful Relationship Profiles • The Abuser • Abusive • Puts down others • Threatens and harms others • The Liar • Does not tell the truth • Builds relationships on lies • Manipulates others into responses they want • The Promise Breaker • Unreliable • Makes plans and cancels them • Agrees to change behavior and does not do so
Dr. Phil - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FImsu6qEq6A • Mean Girls - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nFP68RpX1Fg&feature=related • What did you see in this clip? • Are there harmful relationship profiles in these clips? What are they? • Did this ever happen to you before?
“The Dinner Party” • On the back of your note sheet: • Write down FIVE people that you would like to have dinner with. • Must be able to explain why you choose these five people. • The people – • Can not be a relative or friend • Can be alive or deceased
“The Dinner Party” • Within your group – • Compromise on five people to invite to your dinner. • Your final 5 should be easy to defend in front of the rest of the class • On the paper provided – • Create a seating chart for dinner • Includes the five people your group invited and every group member. • Create a dinner menu • Include appetizer, main course, and dessert.
The Three C’s • Commitment • Communication • Compromise • (Cooperation)