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Four Methods to Master in Your Pastoral Counseling Ministry: How to Care Like Christ

Four Methods to Master in Your Pastoral Counseling Ministry: How to Care Like Christ. 1 Thessalonians 2:8. Scripture and Soul. 1 Thessalonians 2:8 “We loved you so much that we were delighted to share with you not only the Scriptures , but our own souls , because you were dear to us.”.

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Four Methods to Master in Your Pastoral Counseling Ministry: How to Care Like Christ

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  1. Four Methods to Master in Your Pastoral Counseling Ministry: How to Care Like Christ 1 Thessalonians 2:8

  2. Scripture and Soul 1Thessalonians 2:8 “We loved you so much that we were delighted to share with you not only the Scriptures, but our own souls, because you were dear to us.”

  3. The Soul Physician and the Spiritual Friend

  4. How to Care Like Christ

  5. Caring Like Christ Can Feel Like a Maze!

  6. Some Signs Give Poor Directions?

  7. Some Signs Are Spot On!

  8. Some Signs Are Clearer Than Others!

  9. We Need a GPS

  10. Pastor Carl’s Story • Where would you start with Pastor Carl and why? • How would you minister to Pastor Carl in his suffering? • How would you minister to Pastor Carl in his struggle against sin? • What “map” or “model” would guide you?

  11. Our GPS: Suffering and Sinning “Pastoral care is defective unless it can deal thoroughly both with the evils we have suffered and with the sins we have committed.”

  12. Our Soul Care GPS: Sustaining and Healing For Suffering • Sustaining: “It’s Normal to Hurt”—Empathize (Romans 12:15) • Healing: “It’s Possible to Hope”—Encourage (Genesis 50:20)

  13. Our Spiritual Direction GPS: Reconciling and Guiding for Sinning • Reconciling: “It’s Horrible to Sin, but Wonderful to Be Forgiven”—Enlighten (Romans 5:20) • Guiding: “It’s Supernatural to Mature”—Empower (Philippians 3:10)

  14. Our GPS: Sustaining, Healing, Reconciling, and Guiding

  15. Whet Your Appetite

  16. Soul Care Comfort for Suffering • Comfort: Co-fortitude • Parakaletic: Called along side to help • Find God even when they can’t find relief.

  17. Sustaining • “It’s normal to hurt.” • Permission to grieve. • “Life is bad.” • The earthly story.

  18. Listen to Their Earthly Story “It was in the fall of 1879 that I met Charlotte Brooks. I have spent hours with her listening to her telling of her sad life of bondage in the cane-fields of Louisiana.” Do Not Be Ignorant of One Another’s Suffering: 2 Corinthians 1:3-9

  19. Empathize with Their Earthly Story “Poor Charlotte Brooks! I can never forget how her eyes were filled with tears when she would speak of all her children: ‘Gone, and no one to care for me!’” “Aunt Charlotte, my heart throbs with sympathy, and my eyes are filled with tears, whenever I hear you tell of the trials of yourself and others.” Climb in the Casket!

  20. Olaudah Equiano:ComfortThem in Their Earthly Story

  21. Comfort Them in Their Earthly Story “Are the dearest friends and relations still to be parted from each other, and thus prevented from cheering the gloom of slavery with the small comfort of being together, and mingling their sufferings and sorrows?” Shared Sorrow Is Endurable Sorrow

  22. Enter Their Earthly Story “Happy should I have ever esteemed myself to encounter every misery for you, and to procure your freedom by the sacrifice of my own!” Incarnational Suffering

  23. Point Them to Jesus in Their Earthly Story “La, me, child! I never thought any body would care enoughfor me to tell of my trials and sorrows in this world! None but Jesus knows what I have passed through.” Jesus with Skin On!

  24. Engage in Sustaining Trialogues • Trialogues

  25. Engage in Sustaining Trialogues • “Pastor Carl, I’m so sorry for all that you’re going through with your daughter’s illness and this unjust criticism.” • “If it were me, I think I might be feeling _______. How does that relate to how you’re feeling?” • “What do you think the Bible teaches about • feeling and expressing anger and even doubt in • a situation like yours?” • “The Apostle Paul admitted that he despaired. • How do his feelings compare to yours?”

  26. Healing • Healing—“It’s possible to hope.” • Encouragement to grow. • “God is good.” • The eternal/heavenly story.

  27. Stretch Them to the Larger Story • When Life Stinks, Our Perspective Shrinks. • Crop Christ Back into the Picture! • Celebrate the Empty Tomb!

  28. Stretch Them to God’s Story • “They were exhorting the people, warning them to remember the judgment of God.” Cling to Our Image of God’s Holy Love

  29. Stretch Them to God’s Story • “Perpetua followed with a quick step as a true spouse of Christ, the darling of God, her brightly flashing eyes quelling the gaze of the crowd.” Cling to Our Image of Who We Are in Christ

  30. Stretch Them to the Eternal Story • “The day of their victory dawned, and with joyful countenances they marched from the prison arena as thoughon their way to heaven. If there was any trembling, it was from joy, not fear.” Weave in the Truth: We Are More Than Conquerors!

  31. Stretch Them to the Spiritual Story • “Perpetua was singing victory Psalms as if already crushing the head of the Egyptian.” See Life with Faith Eyes

  32. Stretch Them to the Scriptural Story: Engage in Healing Trialogues • “Pastor Carl, God’s timing and ours are often light years apart. What are you experiencing as you wait on God?” • “How could you relate Paul’s perspective on his suffering in Romans 8:17-39 to your life? How could taking on his perspective alter yours?” • “God is all-powerful, holy, and loving. What • impact do these attributes of God have on you • as you face this?” • “How have you been able to worship God in the • midst of this?”

  33. Spiritual Direction Care-fronting for Sinning • Care-fronting: Nouthetic—Care-fronting out of Concern for Change (Growth) • Reconciling—“It’s Horrible to Sin but Wonderful to Be Forgiven!”: Romans 5:20

  34. Spiritual Direction: Reconciling • “It’s Horrible to Sin!” • In Love and Humility, Load the Conscience with Guilt • Godly Sorrow: 2 Corinthians 7:8-13 • “You have fallen away from such good beginnings and become a very different person. You are sharply and severely oppressive to your subjects. God will not suffer this.”

  35. Spiritual Direction: Reconciling • Expose the Heart Sin: False Worship • “The human mind is so inclined that as it turns from the Creator it of necessity becomes addicted to the creature. He who rejects the Creator needs must worship the creature.”

  36. Spiritual Direction: Reconciling • Catch Them Red-handed: Hebrews 3, 4 • Leave the Conviction to God: 2 Timothy 2:24-26

  37. Spiritual Direction: Reconciling • “It’s Wonderful to Be Forgiven.” • Lighten the Conscience with Grace: 2 Corinthians 2:5-11

  38. Spiritual Direction: Reconciling • “You say that the sins which we commit every day offend God, and therefore we are not saints. To this I reply: Mother love is stronger than the filth and scabbiness on a child, and so the love of God toward us is stronger than the dirt that clings to us.”

  39. Spiritual Direction: Reconciling • Recognize the “Quadrolog”: Matthew 4 • “It is the supreme art of the devil that he can make the law out of the gospel. If I can hold onto the distinction between law and gospel, I can say to him any and every time, that he should kiss my backside. Even if I sinned, I would say, ‘Should I deny the gospel on this account?’”

  40. Spiritual Direction: Reconciling • Provide Tastes of Grace • “The word of a fellow-Christian has wonderful power. The voice of brethren and fellow Christians are to be heard and believed as the word and voice of God himself, as though God was speaking to them.”

  41. Spiritual Direction: Reconciling • Pen Psalms of Home Coming: Engage in Reconciling Trialogues

  42. Engage in Reconciling Trialogues • “Pastor Carl, what does God’s Word say concerning your current way of relating? Thinking? Choosing? Handling your feelings?” • “Could we explore James 4:1-4 to understand what might be going on in your heart?” • “What role do you think Satan has been playing • in tempting you to dismiss God’s gracious • forgiveness?” • “What would it be like for you to write a Psalm • 32 or a Psalm 51?”

  43. Spiritual Direction: Guiding • Guiding—“It’s Supernatural to Mature” • Envision: Who He/She Is in Christ: Eph. 1-3; 2 Tim. 1:5-7 • Universal Identity

  44. Identity in Christ Maria Stewart “Many think, because your skins are tinged with a sable hue, that you are an inferior race of beings; but God does not consider you as such. He hath formed and fashioned you in his own glorious image, and hath bestowed upon you reason and strong powers of intellect. . . .

  45. Identity in Christ Maria Stewart . . . He hath made you to have dominion over the beasts of the field, the fowls of the air, and the fish of the sea (Genesis 1:26). He hath crowned you with glory and honor; hath made you but a little lower than the angels (Psalms 8:5).”

  46. Spiritual Direction: Guiding • Unique Identity

  47. Spiritual Direction: Guiding • Empower: Be Like Christ: Ephesians 4:17-24; 2 Timothy 1:8-18 • Putting Off: Mortify—Do Not Be Conformed… • Putting On: Vivify—Be Transformed…

  48. Spiritual Nobility: From Hellcat to Heaven Saint “I love you as though you never hit me a lick, for the God I serve is a God of love” (Charlie).

  49. Spiritual Nobility: From Hellcat to Heaven Saint “I had felt the power of God and tasted his love, and this had killed all the spirit of hate in my heart years before this happened. Whenever a man has been killed dead and made alive in Christ Jesus, he no longer feels like he did when he was a servant of the devil. . . . (Charlie).

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