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Welcome to the Open Sky Webinar

Welcome to the Open Sky Webinar. The webinar starts at 6pm, see you soon!. Power Struggles: How to Avoid Them…and How to Win. Jonathan S. Mitchell, MA, LPC. Definition. A situation where two or more people or organizations compete for influence. How to Avoid Them…. Be Aware! .

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Welcome to the Open Sky Webinar

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  1. Welcome to the Open Sky Webinar The webinar starts at 6pm, see you soon!

  2. Power Struggles: How to Avoid Them…and How to Win Jonathan S. Mitchell, MA, LPC

  3. Definition • A situation where two or more people or organizations compete for influence.

  4. How to Avoid Them…

  5. Be Aware! • Awareness is curative

  6. Name What is Obvious • “We are really fighting each other here, huh?” • “Neither one of us is budging on this.”

  7. What Is Really Going On? • Both for myself and other • Outside support?

  8. It Takes Two • Who is more invested? • If I am more attached to the outcome than the other, I am close to “losing.”

  9. “I” Statements • Be clear and take ownership within one’s role (e.g., as parent, caregiver, supervisor) • Humility • Apologize?

  10. Connection Within Boundary • Make oneself available

  11. Question, Validate, Boundary • Inquire • Reflect • Within Boundary

  12. What is Negotiable? • Perhaps even compromises? • This breeds a sense of empowerment and also builds connection.

  13. Pick Your Battles • Allow the space for natural consequences • Let the fodder grow…

  14. Be Consistent • Which means “reliable” • Clear consequences ahead of time • And this inspires trust…thus openness…thus connection…

  15. …and How to Win

  16. I win!

  17. Paradigm Shift • If I relate to someone because I want to “win” then I have already “lost.” • There is no connection within a power struggle. • Therefore, the question is then how do I make myself and “other” feel powerful so that the “struggle” dissolves.

  18. Paradigm Shift • The best way I have found to do this is to redefine “power” as “value.” • How can I bring the most amount of value to within the relationship that is playing out. • For most of us who have been unable to break the pattern, it takes making a conscious effort to bring value into the relationship.

  19. Thank you! • Your participation speaks volumes to the dedication and love you have for yourself and your families.. • Contact Information: jonathan@openskywilderness.com • Please keep this browser window open; it will take you to a short survey.

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