Welcome to the Open Sky Webinar

1. Welcome to the Open Sky Webinar The webinar begins at 6pm—see you soon!

2. Open Sky:Parenting Best Practices:A Clinician’s Perspective Dr Fred Peipman, PhD Clinical Therapist

4. Don’ts • Expect, but don’t accept deception • Don’t Act So Shocked (even if you are) • Trust is a process, not an outcome • Don’t be a therapist • Avoid the blame game • Your child is not your BFF

6. Dos • Ask the right questions • Build up to the big stuff • Set clear expectations • Accept responsibility without losing your power • Listen more, talk less (or speak less, say more) • Set limits and boundaries with consequences you can enforce • Confusion is perfectly normal!

8. What’s under the carpet? • If you go looking for dirt, you will inevitably find it. • They won’t like you sometimes (breathe, you’ll survive it) • Be Consistent…Even when you’re tired…or when they are acting like angels…or they have been brainwashed by their peers…or if they are absolutely horrible

10. Homework! Be proactive, not passive Learn about the teen trends Try to get to know their friends' parents Get to know their friends before blaming them for your child's misbehavior

12. "You are too sensitive" “Just ignore them” “Because I said so” “Your brother got straight A's in that class” “Why would you do something like that”? (or “what were you thinking?”

13. Best Practices Authenticity Be real and direct! Clear Boundaries Listen without judgment Confident Compassion Humor

15. Finding Contentment • “Good judgment comes from bad experiences”- Dr. Wendy Mogel • Instill confidence and self-efficacy • Avoid excess • Teach children to commit to something and let go of another • Reciprocal feedback

16. Thank You! Fred Peipman, PhD Clinical Therapist drfred@openskywilderness.com