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“ Behavior 101 - How Do I Manage My Child At Home ?”

“ Behavior 101 - How Do I Manage My Child At Home ?”. Presented by: Patty Chen-Ma, Guidance Counselor. 3 Big Cs. Key components in managing your child - C OMMUNICATION C ONSEQUENCES & POSITIVE REINFORCEMENT C ONSISTENCY. Communication –. The Different Types -

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“ Behavior 101 - How Do I Manage My Child At Home ?”

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  1. “Behavior 101 - How Do I Manage My Child At Home?” Presented by: Patty Chen-Ma, Guidance Counselor

  2. 3 Big Cs • Key components in managing your child - • COMMUNICATION • CONSEQUENCES & POSITIVE REINFORCEMENT • CONSISTENCY

  3. Communication – • The Different Types - • Verbal – tone, speed, volume • Non verbal - eye contact, heights, body language • Have you looked at yourself when you’re angry?

  4. Key Elements of Communication • Now, you will learn strategies to enhance communication with your children. • Active (Effective) Listening • Reflective Listening • “I” Statements • Acknowledging the Positives in Your Child

  5. “How do I get my child to listen to me?”– 4. “I” statements– making the feeling your own, taking ownership of your feeling. “I” statements consist of 3 parts: • A feeling • A description of the condition • A reason for that feeling Formula: “I feel ________ when ________ and I would like _________.” • “I” statements can help parents and children communicate with each other, avoid confusion, and minimize arguments.

  6. Acknowledging the Positives in Your Child • Tell your child their strengths or what they did well and put a period at the end of it. Do not add “but,” “and,” “or,” etc. because children often remember the last part of the sentence and not the beginning.

  7. Consequences • The importance of positive reinforcement and consequences • The right way to give consequences – Stay Calm, Time Out, No Fun Jar, Loss of Privileges etc. • Target one behavior at a time • Physical punishment is NOT a solution!

  8. Consequence (continued) • Whenever you apply a consequence, you should: • 1. Announce the consequence • 2. Fit the consequence to the crime • 3. Fit the consequence to your kid’s development level. • 4. Don’t negotiate • 5. Don’t wait • 6. Get everyone on board. • 7. Preserve your child’s dignity – discipline in private

  9. Types of Strategies Behavior Contract copies for parents\behavior contract 1.JPG Fun Jar/No Fun Jar copies for parents\fun jar.JPG;copies for parents\no fun jar.JPG Point System copies for parents\point 1.JPG;copies for parents\point 2.JPG Incentive charts copies for parents\incentive chart 1.JPG;copies for parents\incentive bracelet.JPG *visual effect of the rewards – cards with pictures of prizes

  10. Praise your child • Praise your child to encourage good behavior • How to make praise more effective in changing behavior: • Specific • Repeated • Deserved • Genuine • Individual

  11. Consistency • 21 days commitment - don’t give up until you see positive change. • Get everyone on board • Don’t forget to tell you child you love them! • - therapeutic Rapport

  12. Q & A Session

  13. Contact Information • Patty Chen-Ma (phen@wvusd.k12.ca.us) • Vejar Elementary School (909) 594-1434 X38150 • Quail Summit Elementary School (909) 861-3004 X53131 • Westhoff Elementary School (909) 594-6483 X52166

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