Exploring Your Work Style: Using the Compass Tool to Enhance Interpersonal Relationships

1. Exploring Your Work Style:Using the Compass Tool to Enhance Interpersonal Relationships

2. Dream… If you could do ANYTHING with NO LIMITS what would you do?

3. Dream… For NOTHING will be impossible with God. LUKE 1:37 ESV Do you live like you believe that NOTHING is impossible with God?

4. Which of these experiences have you had? “This team is a blessing! We bring out the best in each other!” T = Together E = Everyone A = Accomplishes M = Much T E A M T E A M • “With team members like these, • who needs enemies?” T = Tiring E = Emotional A = And M = Messy

5. A Famous Biblical Team: Christ & His Disciples 19 "Come, follow me," Jesus said, "and I will send you out to fish for people." 20 At once they left their nets and followed him. Matthew 4:19-20 (TNIV) 1 Jesus called his twelve disciples to him and gave them authority to drive out evil spirits and to heal every disease and sickness. Matthew 10:1 (TNIV)

6. Wherever two or three are working together… Then Mary took about a pint of pure nard, an expensive perfume; she poured it on Jesus' feet and wiped his feet with her hair. And the house was filled with the fragrance of the perfume. But one of his disciples, Judas Iscariot, who was later to betray him, objected, “Why wasn’t this perfume sold and the money given to the poor. It was worth a year’s wages.” John 12:3-5 (TNIV) …disagreements and conflict can happen!

7. Working in a team we learn to live out Christ’s commands 34 "A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. 35 By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another." John 13:33-35 (TNIV) “Bear with one another in love.” As you work and grow together in love, your team is a positive witness for the power of Christ!

8. Leadership Compass North: Action West: Analysis East: Vision South: Empathy • GOAL Understand the need for a variety of work styles • GOAL Gain insight into your own work style and how it can click and clash with others • GOAL Gain a healthy perspective you can apply to work more effectively

9. Meet NORTH NORTH = ACTION Value words: “Do it now!”; “I’ll do it!”; “What’s the bottom line?” • 1 I consider myself to be assertive, active and decisive • 2 I like to determine the course of events and to be in control of relationships • 3 I am quick to act and I express a sense of urgency for others to act now • 4 I enjoy challenges presented by difficult situations and people • 5 I am comfortable being in front

10. NORTH - ACTION NORTH to Excess • 1 May overlook process and rush to decision and action • 2 May get defensive, argue, and try to “out expert” others • 3 May lose patience, push for decisions and avoid discussions • 4 May want things their way; a good team player – as long as they’re the captain • 5 May see things in black and white • 6 May disregard others’ feelings and come across as cold • 7 May have trouble relinquishing control and find it hard to delegate

11. Meet SOUTH SOUTH = EMPATHY Value words: “right” and “fair” • 1 I understand how people need to receive information in order to act on it • 2 I use relationships to accomplish tasks; interaction is primary • 3 I am feeling-based; trust my own emotions and intuition; intuition regarded as “truth” • 4 I am receptive to others’ ideas; a team player; build on others’ ideas, noncompetitive • 5 I demonstrate a willingness to trust others’ statements at face value

12. SOUTH to Excess • 1 Can lose focus on goals when believes relation- ships, needs of people are being compromised • 2 Has trouble saying “no” • 3 Internalizes difficulty, assumes blame • 4 Prone to disappointment when relationship is seen as secondary to task • 5 Has difficulty confronting, dealing with anger • 6 Can over-compromise to avoid conflict • 7 Can become mired in the process at the expense of accomplishing goals

13. Meet EAST EAST = VISION Value words: “option, possibility, imagine” • 1 I see the big picture I am a creative thinker; I think “outside the box” • 2 • 3 I like to experiment and explore • 4 I make decisions by standing in the future • 5 I demonstrate insight into mission and purpose

14. EAST to Excess • 1 Can put too much emphasis on vision at the expense of action • 2 Can lose focus on tasks • 3 Poor follow-through; can develop a reputation for lack of dependability and attention to detail • 4 May lose track of time • 5 Tends to be highly enthusiastic early on, then burn out over the long haul • 6 Will not work on projects that do not have a comprehensive vision • 7 Easily frustrated and overwhelmed when outcomes are not in line with the vision

15. Meet WEST WEST = ANALYSIS Value word: “objective” • 1 I use data analysis and logic to make decisions I carefully and thoroughly examine people’s needs in situations • 2 • 3 I am introspective and analytical • 4 I weigh all sides of an issue; I am balanced • 5 I maximize existing resources-I get the most out of what has been done in the past

16. WEST to Excess • 1 Can be bogged down by information, analysis and process at expense of moving forward • 2 Can become stubborn and entrenched in position • 3 Can be indecisive, collect unnecessary data • 4 May appear cold, withdrawn and distant • 5 Tendency towards watchfulness, observation • 6 Can remain get mired in details; “analysis paralysis” • 7 Resists emotional pleas and change

17. SHARED REFLECTIONS How has your dominant style helped you contribute to teams? How about when you’ve slid over to the “excess” list? Which other style do you find most valuable as a complement to you on a team? Which style do you find most difficult to work with? Which particular aspect of it is difficult? How can you see it differently?

18. For personal reflection…. ? What have you learned ? What surprised you ? How are you going to use this information ? What is one way you can you apply this