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Dating and Rejection Teens/ Youth

Dating and Rejection Teens/ Youth. Riżorsa Kateketika. Principles for dating. BE wise there is a whole difference between Character and personality Many made the mistake of falling for the personality; eventually were greatly surprised by the character!

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Dating and Rejection Teens/ Youth

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  1. Dating and RejectionTeens/ Youth Riżorsa Kateketika

  2. Principles for dating • BE wise there is a whole difference between Character and personality Many made the mistake of falling for the personality; eventually were greatly surprised by the character! Not all that glitters is gold !

  3. Date people your own age; • Don’t date too young; • As you are still very,very young, go out in groups; enjoy your youth! • Set your own boundaries; • Set clear goals; get clear on what is really important to you and where you won’t compromise/negotiate.

  4. Don’t date just anyone...be choosy; • Date people with good reputation; • Stay away from compromising situations; Learn how to say NO in words. • It is proven scientifically that very few marry the person they date in their teens. • The basis of a good relationship is FRIENDSHIP. Invest in Friendship. • Friendship is not secret dropping.

  5. Think and ponder wisely: • Remember: Between the chatting on the internet and the social contact there is a big difference…invest well – give quality time to your friendship...relationship. • Not all friendships lead to marriage. • Regretfully, not all marriages are friendships. • While friendship is the ideal for marriage, married friendship is the model for all human relationships.

  6. Signs that the relationship is not healthy • The centre of your life becomes yourboyfriend/girlfriend; • Your mood each day is dependent on how your girlfriend/boyfriend treats you; • You become possessive and jealous; • You stop spending time with your friends and family and spend virtually all your time with your boyfriend/girlfriend.

  7. When you see that the relationship is not healthy- REMEDY: • Maintain the proper centre. Be more confident and stabler, less dependent upon how others treat you. REMEMBER: • You own yourself, your boyfriend/girlfriend cannot own you.

  8. This is NOT Love: in an unhealthy relationship, the partner makes you: • Cry all the time; • Do or say things that make you feel stupid/worthless; • Keep you from doing the things you like to do; • Threaten to harm you and/or themselves if you leave them; • Lie or hide things from you; • Always expects to get their way. • Laugh at you because you are religious, because you attend religious groups; calls you churchy!

  9. What leads to rejection/breaking up • Ultimatums: he/she gives you time to do something, usually something unpleasant; • Saviour complex:one cannot change people-one can only change oneself -move on; • Too many Lies in the relationship • Frequent sayings by the partner: 1. You will never find anyone who loves you,except me!!! This is not healthy. 2. If you leave me, I’ll hurt myself. This is not healthy at all!!

  10. Breaking a relationship Intelligent way: • Break up on the phone: voice to voice Never break a relationship through an email/facebook/sms. • Tell family/best friend/youth leader, about breaking the relationship. • Pray; let God be in your life. ALWAYS pray before taking a decision. Never take a decison when you are upset.

  11. In terminating a relationship: • Always be polite and charitable; • State your reasons in an objective way; • Be true to what you say; • Combine intelligencewithemotions/feelings.

  12. NEVER terminate a relationship thus: • Alone facingthe personin a private, secluded place; • NEVER underestimate the partner’s capabilities. Strong emotions might rule…just be careful and intelligent!

  13. Rule of the thumb when you have been rejected in a relationship • Address the pain...rejection hurts, face it. • Avoid needless anguish; take a good look at what the reasons where that led to rejection. Let it go...learn from the experience...move on. • Keep yourself occupied wisely, join a group;get involved in activities -voluntary work. • Give yourself time and space before engaging into another relationship. • Pray for healing;do your part as well.

  14. Riflessjonijiet mill-Bibbjadwarrejection f’relazzjoni. • Lk 4: 16-30. Ġesù fis-Sinagoga ġie mwarrab minn niesu stess. • Mt 9: 9-13. Meta Marija ħaslet saqajn Ġesu’: ħniena rrid u mhux sagrifiċċju. • Itlob u rrifletti b’Salm 38

  15. Anke jekk tħossok imwarrab/imwarrba minn bosta nies: ftakar li Alla qatt mhu ser jinsiek. Isaija 49:15-16: Anke jekk omm tinsa lit- tarbija tagħha, jiena qatt ma ninsiek...naqqaxtek fuq il-pala t’idejja.

  16. Sr.Alexandra Chircop,fcj Segretarjatghall-Katekezi

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