Developing Healthful Family Relationships

1. Developing Healthful Family Relationships Unit 3, Lesson 13 National Health Standards 1.2, 1.8, 2.1, 5.7

2. Family Relationships • Family • Basic unit of society • Group of people to which we belong • Extended Family members • All members of a family in addition to immediate family members • Healthful family • Family that practices skills to promote loving, responsible relationships

3. Roles of parents and guardians • Teach children: • Self-respecting behavior • Healthful attitudes • Effective communication • Clear sense of value • Responsible decision making

4. Conflict resolution • Coping skills • Delayed gratification • Expressing affection and integrating love and sexuality • Give and receive kindness

5. Work ethic • Respect for authority

6. Teach by: • Setting example • Having discussions • Expecting behaviors and skills to be practiced • Enforcing consequences

7. Roles of grandparents • Reinforcing behaviors and skills taught by parents • Help raise grandchildren

8. Roles of other family members • Practice behaviors and skills taught by parents • Help each other interact in loving and responsible ways

9. Family continuum • 2 extremes of family life • Ideal and dysfunction Ideal Family Dysfunctional Family 1 1Meeks, Linda. Heit, Philip. Page, Randy. Health and Wellness. McGraw-Hill Glencoe. 2008. p. 135.

10. Dysfunctional Family • Does not promote loving, responsible relationships • Ideal Family • Does promote loving, responsible relationships

11. Healthful Family Relationships • Learn self-respecting behavior • Treat self in a healthy, responsible way • Learn to value needs of others • Know difference between self-respect and self-centered ( fulfill personal needs with little regard for others)

12. Learn healthful attitudes toward sexuality • Positive feelings and attitudes about body, sex role, and relationships • Learn healthful sex roles • Behavior, attitude, value, and beliefs appropriate for males and females on the basis of biological sex

13. Learn effective communication skills • Positive ways to share feelings, thoughts, and information with others • Learn a clear sense of value • Healthful standard or belief

14. Learn to make responsible decisions • Imitate, observe, evaluate, set guidelines • Learn to resolve conflicts • Listen and work to find a common solution • Learn effective coping skills • Skills to deal with life’s crises

15. Learn to delay gratification • Voluntarily delaying the reward for the completion of a task or responsibility • Learn to express affection • Appropriate ways to express affection for loved ones

16. Learning a work ethic • Attitude, discipline, motivation, and commitment towards tasks to be completed • Learn to respect authority • Respect laws and rules of authority figures

17. Causes of Dysfunctional Families • Chemical dependence • Life depends on getting chemical over needs of other family members • Increases risk of violence, neglect, abuse • May be an inherited dependency • Co-dependent – lives without needed items to be sure addict gets what they “need”

18. Other addictions • Any compelling desire to use or engage in a behavior despite the consequences • Food, gambling, shopping, etc. • Perfectionism • Compelling need to be flawless

19. Violence in the family • Use of physical force to injure, damage, or destroy oneself, others, or property • In a relationship when one member uses violence to control the other member, it is domestic violence

20. Abuse in the family • Harmful maltreatment of another person • Child abuse • Harmful maltreatment of a minor • Spouse abuse • Harmful maltreatment of a husband or wife

21. Parent abuse • Harmful treatment of a parent • Elder abuse • Harmful treatment of an aged family member

22. 4 kinds of abuse • Physical • Physical injury to victim • Emotional • Belittling, bad mouthing, withholding affection • Neglect • Failure to provide proper care and guidance

23. Sexual abuse • Forced sexual contact – by physical force, manipulation, or threat of harm

24. Abandonment in a family • Give up or refuse responsibility for those whom they are legally bound to provide care • Mental disorders in a family • Behavioral or psychological syndrome or pattern of a family member that takes special attention of all family members

25. Co-dependent Relationships • Have trouble with intimacy • Deep and meaningful kind of sharing between people • Obsessing about the needs of others and avoiding others • Enmeshment • Become so focused on the needs of another that own needs go unmet

26. Lack of interdependency • Depend on each other, yet have own identity

27. Improve Relationship • Intervention • Seek professional help outside the family • Therapy • Individual or group • Practice relating to one another in a safe environment

28. Steps to Resolve Family Conflicts Responsibly • Remain calm • Set a positive tone • Define the conflict and take responsibility of own actions • Listen to needs and feelings of others

29. List and evaluate possible solutions • Agree on a solution • Communicate

30. Recovery programs • Group that support members as they change behaviors • AA – Alcoholics Anonymous – group for recovering addicts • Al-Anon – group for families who have an addict member • Alateen – group for teens who have addicted family members or friends