To achieve any worthy goal you must overcome significant problems.

1. To achieve any worthy goal you must overcome significant problems. • There is no greater goal than to help and lead our family members to heaven.

2. To achieve any worthy goal you must overcome significant problems. • There is no greater goal than to help and lead our family members to heaven. • The development of the character and faith of an individual is a goal that any honest person would find them selves wanting. (Judges 13:8)

3. To achieve any worthy goal you must overcome significant problems. • Judges 13:8 (NKJV) - Then Manoah prayed to the LORD, and said, “O my Lord, please let the Man of God whom You sent come to us again and teach us what we shall do for the child who will be born.”

4. To achieve any worthy goal you must overcome significant problems. • As I raise my children I often think of the challenges I presented to my parents.

5. To achieve any worthy goal you must overcome significant problems. • There will be no greater reward for me than to give my family and myself to the Lord for eternity! (1 Sam 1:11)

6. To achieve any worthy goal you must overcome significant problems. • 1 Samuel 1:11 (NKJV) - Then she made a vow and said, “O LORD of hosts, if You will indeed look on the affliction of Your maidservant and remember me, and not forget Your maidservant, but will give Your maidservant a male child, then I will give him to the LORD all the days of his life, and no razor shall come upon his head.”

7. To achieve any worthy goal you must overcome significant problems. • Many think that if you “marry the right person” then there will be no problems.

8. To achieve any worthy goal you must overcome significant problems. • Many think that if you “marry the right person” then there will be no problems. • You can make a wreck of your home at the start by marrying one who is not a Christian. Can you seriously have heaven as your first goal and do this? (1 Cor 9:5)

9. To achieve any worthy goal you must overcome significant problems. • 1 Corinthians 9:5 (NKJV) - Do we have no right to take along a believing wife, as do also the other apostles, the brothers of the Lord, and Cephas?

10. To achieve any worthy goal you must overcome significant problems. • Will Christians face problems? Of course, but they have a God that will help them together. You can seek God’s way regardless of what you mate may do.

11. To achieve any worthy goal you must overcome significant problems. • If you want to build a biblical faith in others you must constantly be seeking God’s ways that will lead you to difficult paths when confronting problems. (Heb 11:24-27)

12. To achieve any worthy goal you must overcome significant problems. • Hebrews 11:24-27 (NKJV) - By faith Moses, when he became of age, refused to be called the son of Pharaoh’s daughter, 25 choosing rather to suffer affliction with the people of God than to enjoy the passing pleasures of sin, 26 esteeming the reproach of Christ greater riches than the treasures in Egypt; for he looked to the reward.

13. To achieve any worthy goal you must overcome significant problems. • 27 By faith he forsook Egypt, not fearing the wrath of the king; for he endured as seeing Him who is invisible.

14. To achieve any worthy goal you must overcome significant problems. • A biblical faith in us is defined by how we solve our problems!

15. The Lord Places the Responsibility upon the Man • How should a husband be head of his home? (1 Cor 11:3; Eph 5:23)

16. The Lord Places the Responsibility upon the Man • 1 Corinthians 11:3 (NKJV) - But I want you to know that the head of every man is Christ, the head of woman is man, and the head of Christ is God.

17. The Lord Places the Responsibility upon the Man • Ephesians 5:23 (NKJV) - For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body.

18. The Lord Places the Responsibility upon the Man • He must make understanding a priority. (1 Pt 3:7)

19. The Lord Places the Responsibility upon the Man • 1 Peter 3:7 (NKJV) - Husbands, likewise, dwell with themwith understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered.

20. The Lord Places the Responsibility upon the Man • As a husband I put my wife’s needs before mine. If she is unhappy and hurting I look and examine the kind of head that I am.

21. The Lord Places the Responsibility upon the Man • As a husband I put my wife’s needs before mine. If she is unhappy and hurting I look and examine the kind of head that I am. • It is easy to ignore a problem and even find reasons to stay away. Too many churches and homes have these kinds of “men.”

22. The Lord Places the Responsibility upon the Man • As a husband I put my wife’s needs before mine. If she is unhappy and hurting I look and examine the kind of head that I am. • It is easy to ignore a problem and even find reasons to stay away. Too many churches and homes have these kinds of “men.” • What some men call headship, Christ has never put a woman under.

23. The Lord Places the Responsibility upon the Man • One cannot submit to one who wants them to disobey God. (Ex. Study with lady whose husband wanted her to attend his denomination.) (Acts 4:17-20; 5:28-29)

24. The Lord Places the Responsibility upon the Man • Acts 4:17-20 (NKJV) - But so that it spreads no further among the people, let us severely threaten them, that from now on they speak to no man in this name.” 18 So they called them and commanded them not to speak at all nor teach in the name of Jesus.

25. The Lord Places the Responsibility upon the Man • 19 But Peter and John answered and said to them, “Whether it is right in the sight of God to listen to you more than to God, you judge. 2 0For we cannot but speak the things which we have seen and heard.”

26. The Lord Places the Responsibility upon the Man • Acts 5:28-29 (NKJV) - saying, “Did we not strictly command you not to teach in this name? And look, you have filled Jerusalem with your doctrine, and intend to bring this Man’s blood on us!” 29 But Peter and the other apostles answered and said: “We ought to obey God rather than men.

27. The Lord Places the Responsibility upon the Man • A man who is a harsh head will be judged. (Eph 6:5, 9; Col 4:1)

28. The Lord Places the Responsibility upon the Man • Ephesians 6:5 (NKJV) - Bondservants, be obedient to those who are your masters according to the flesh, with fear and trembling, in sincerity of heart, as to Christ;

29. The Lord Places the Responsibility upon the Man • Ephesians 6:9 (NKJV) - And you, masters, do the same things to them, giving up threatening, knowing that your own Master also is in heaven, and there is no partiality with Him.

30. The Lord Places the Responsibility upon the Man • Colossians 4:1 (NKJV) - Masters, give your bondservants what is just and fair, knowing that you also have a Master in heaven.

31. The Lord Places the Responsibility upon the Man • Even with a harsh head submission is not removed. (1 Pt 2:18)

32. The Lord Places the Responsibility upon the Man • 1 Peter 2:18 (NKJV) - Servants, be submissive to your masters with all fear, not only to the good and gentle, but also to the harsh.

33. The Lord Places the Responsibility upon the Man • Woe to the man who treats his wife with condescension and contempt.

34. The Lord Places the Responsibility upon the Man • Woe to the man who treats his wife with condescension and contempt. • If a man allows his own parents to be head of his home, he is a coward.

35. There must be a willingness to learn and change • One who is truly a Christian should understand the need to have an open heart and to seek the Lord’s way. (Lk 2:34-35; Heb 4:12-13)

36. There must be a willingness to learn and change • Luke 2:34-35 (NKJV) - Then Simeon blessed them, and said to Mary His mother, “Behold, this Child is destined for the fall and rising of many in Israel, and for a sign which will be spoken against 35 (yes, a sword will pierce through your own soul also), that the thoughts of many hearts may be revealed.”

37. There must be a willingness to learn and change • Hebrews 4:12-13 (NKJV) - For the word of God is living and powerful, and sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing even to the division of soul and spirit, and of joints and marrow, and is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart. 13 And there is no creature hidden from His sight, but all things are naked and open to the eyes of Him to whom we must give account.

38. There must be a willingness to learn and change • It takes real faith to open your heart to learn with a desire to change.

39. There must be a willingness to learn and change • It takes real faith to open your heart to learn with a desire to change. • Did you exhibit these qualities while dating? What has changed?

40. There must be a willingness to learn and change • It takes real faith to open your heart to learn with a desire to change. • Did you exhibit these qualities while dating? What has changed? • There must be a strong seeking after God’s wisdom. (Prov 1:7; 24:3-6)

41. There must be a willingness to learn and change • Proverbs 1:7 (NKJV) - The fear of the LORD is the beginning of knowledge, But fools despise wisdom and instruction.

42. There must be a willingness to learn and change • Proverbs 24:3-6 (NKJV) - Through wisdom a house is built, And by understanding it is established; 4 By knowledge the rooms are filled With all precious and pleasant riches. 5 A wise man is strong, Yes, a man of knowledge increases strength; 6 For by wise counsel you will wage your own war, And in a multitude of counselors there is safety.

43. There must be a willingness to learn and change • Lazy and foolish people will rely on “instinct” and what they learned from their parents.

44. There must be a willingness to learn and change • Lazy and foolish people will rely on “instinct” and what they learned from their parents. • We along with every member of our family are different and we are constantly changing. We ought to be humbled greatly to ask help of God. (James 1:5-7)

45. There must be a willingness to learn and change • James 1:5-7 (NKJV) - If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him. 6 But let him ask in faith, with no doubting, for he who doubts is like a wave of the sea driven and tossed by the wind. 7 For let not that man suppose that he will receive anything from the Lord;

46. There must be a willingness to learn and change • When God is the focus of our wisdom, then we can escape the pressures placed upon us from our family to give them what they want.

47. Some common family problems to be solved • Fighting and fussing in the home. (Eph 6:4)

48. Some common family problems to be solved • Ephesians 6:4 (NKJV) - And you, fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord.

49. Some common family problems to be solved • I have sadly known of many families that accept as normal “outbursts of wrath”, grudge holding (hatred), and open fighting. (1 Jn 3:15; Gal 5:19-21)

50. Some common family problems to be solved • 1 John 3:15 (NKJV) - Whoever hates his brother is a murderer, and you know that no murderer has eternal life abiding in him.