Restorative Language and Active Listening

1. Restorative Language and Active Listening Restorative Justice 4 Schools Ltd

2. Learning outcomes for today session

3. Check In Check in by asking people to share something positive thing that happened today

4. The 4 R’sRJ is based on four key features

5. TraditionalMindset • What happened • Whose responsible • What do sanction do I need to enforce to • change behaviour • deter others • avoid reoffending RestorativeMindset • What happened • Whose been affected • What needs to happen to put things right • How can I support this process to • change behaviour • deter others • avoid reoffending

6. Types of listening DHO2 • Empathic - Seeking to understand what the other person is feeling. Using body language to demonstrating this empathy • Harmful - Pretending to listen but actually spending more time thinking about something else • Critical/Judgemental - Listening in order to evaluate, criticize or otherwise pass judgment on what someone else says

7. Listening Exercise In pairs decide who is person A and who is person B A: choose a listening type B: talk about an issue which may be concerning you Guess what sort of listener your partner is then change around

8. Discuss: • How do we feel when we are not being listened too? • How do we feel when we are being listened to actively

9. Restorative language is an affective starting point for the implementation of restorative approaches

10. Language Exercise Form groups of 4-6 people ask each group to complete one of the following tasks orask each group to spend 5 minutes completing each task • Task 1 - take 5 mins to make a list of traditional questions and statements that were used by staff in schools to manage behaviour • Task 2 – take 5 mins to make a list of the best questions and statements that you hear used by staff in schools to manage behaviour • Task 3 – take 5 mins to make a list of worst questions and statements that you hear being used by staff in school currently to manage behaviour Time taken 15 minutes

11. Feedback In a restorative circle ask each group to feed back their findings Discuss: • Which approach demands an answer from recipient ? • Which is the better way to engage and communicate with young people?

12. Conversational Use Exercise Form 3 groups • Group 1 make a list of positive or “feel good” emotions that could be included in a shared vocabulary • Group 2 make a list of negative or “feel bad” emotions that could be included in a shared vocabulary • Group 3 make a list of core values (ie respect, safe, care) that could be included in a shared vocabulary Choose 15 words from each list to go into the shared vocabulary

13. Implementation of a shared language What do you need to do to implement a shared language within school? Go around in the circle and make a list of suggestions of how a shared language could be promoted within school

14. Questions? Please feel free to ask any questions you may have

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