Quarrels and Conflicts

1. Quarrels and Conflicts • Why do people quarrel?

2. Quarrels and Conflicts • Why do people quarrel? Why is there quarrel among Christians?

3. Quarrels and Conflicts • Why do people quarrel? Why is there quarrel among Christians? • Colossians 3:12-14

4. Quarrels and Conflicts • Why do people quarrel? Why is there quarrel among Christians? • Colossians 3:12-14 • If all Christian in every church follow the list on verse 12, there will be no harmful quarrel at all

5. Quarrels and Conflicts • Why do people quarrel? Why is there quarrel among Christians? • Colossians 3:12-14 • If all Christian in every church follow the list on verse 12, there will be no harmful quarrel at all • We don't really follow these 5 virtues, nevertheless. But the lack of mercy or kindness cannot be the reason of our quarrels, rather just the absence of solutions with our quarrels

6. The Root of Quarrels • The beginning of sin is pride (Isaiah 14:12-15) and the center of pride is our self-center nature

7. The Root of Quarrels • The beginning of sin is pride (Isaiah 14:12-15) and the center of pride is our self-center nature • Judge 17:6, 21:25 “...right in his own eyes”

8. The Root of Quarrels • The beginning of sin is pride (Isaiah 14:12-15) and the center of pride is our self-center nature • Judge 17:6, 21:25 “...right in his own eyes” • Sadly, not many people has an abundant of wisdom, but everybody has too much opinions

9. The Root of Quarrels • The beginning of sin is pride (Isaiah 14:12-15) and the center of pride is our self-center nature • Judge 17:6, 21:25 “...right in his own eyes” • Sadly, not many people has an abundant of wisdom, but everybody has too much opinions • Wisdom is what's left after we've run out of personal opinions—Cullen Hightower

10. The Root of Quarrels • The root of quarrels is found with our opinions

11. The Root of Quarrels • The root of quarrels is found with our opinions • Opinion itself is not the problem, but rather the misunderstanding or miscommunicating of it

12. The Root of Quarrels • The root of quarrels is found with our opinions • Opinion itself is not the problem, but rather the misunderstanding or miscommunicating of it • It does not matter if it is personality conflict, the conflict of expectation, or conflicts in leadership, we fight because either we see things differently, or we respond to other's opinions incorrectly

13. Opinions are not Wisdom • Judges 21:25 “right in his own eyes”

14. Opinions are not Wisdom • Judges 21:25 “right in his own eyes” • Prov. 12:15 -- The Bible calls them “fools”

15. Opinions are not Wisdom • Judges 21:25 “right in his own eyes” • Prov. 12:15 -- The Bible calls them “fools” • Read Luke 18:10-14

16. Opinions are not Wisdom • Judges 21:25 “right in his own eyes” • Prov. 12:15 -- The Bible calls them “fools” • Read Luke 18:10-14 • Who are you in the story?

17. Opinions are not Wisdom • Judges 21:25 “right in his own eyes” • Prov. 12:15 -- The Bible calls them “fools” • Read Luke 18:10-14 • Who are you in the story? • But you may ask: Is there always going to be a different in opinions?

18. Opinions are not Wisdom • Judges 21:25 “right in his own eyes” • Prov. 12:15 -- The Bible calls them “fools” • Read Luke 18:10-14 • Who are you in the story? • But you may ask: Is there always going to be a different in opinions? Are we not suppose to stand firm on our beliefs?

19. Opinions are not Wisdom • Judges 21:25 “right in his own eyes” • Prov. 12:15 -- The Bible calls them “fools” • Read Luke 18:10-14 • Who are you in the story? • But you may ask: Is there always going to be a different in opinions? Are we not suppose to stand firm on our beliefs? What if we disagree with others?

20. 3 things we quarrel over... • First, we must understand we quarrel over many things, mainly there are 3 groups

21. 3 things we quarrel over... • First, we must understand we quarrel over many things, mainly there are 3 groups • Doctrine

22. 3 things we quarrel over... • First, we must understand we quarrel over many things, mainly there are 3 groups • Doctrine • Truth that are directly found in the Scriptures

23. 3 things we quarrel over... • First, we must understand we quarrel over many things, mainly there are 3 groups • Doctrine • Truth that are directly found in the Scriptures • These doctrines are often repeated more than once, and re-appear in different contexts

24. 3 things we quarrel over... • First, we must understand we quarrel over many things, mainly there are 3 groups • Doctrine • Truth that are directly found in the Scriptures • These doctrines are often repeated more than once, and re-appear in different contexts • Such things as salvation by faith alone, Jesus is both God and man, ect.

25. 3 things we quarrel over... • First, we must understand we quarrel over many things, mainly there are 3 groups • Doctrine • Truth that are directly found in the Scriptures • These doctrines are often repeated more than once, and re-appear in different contexts • Such things as salvation by faith alone, Jesus is both God and man, ect. • We must teach and proclaim the truth

26. Convictions • Convictions

27. Convictions • Convictions • There is a different between biblical doctrines and biblical principles

28. Convictions • Convictions • There is a different between biblical doctrines and biblical principles • Principles are teachings that spring up from doctrines, but itself may or may not have direct reference in the scripture (i.e. clothing Deu. 22:5)

29. Convictions • Convictions • There is a different between biblical doctrines and biblical principles • Principles are teachings that spring up from doctrines, but itself may or may not have direct reference in the scripture (i.e. clothing Deu. 22:5) • The more references we find in the scripture, the more importance that teaching is to us

30. More about convictions... • Convictions often change according to our spiritual growth and experience in Christ

31. More about convictions... • Convictions often change according to our spiritual growth and experience in Christ • Cultures can have a big inference in our convictions (i.e. drinking, dancing, etc.)

32. More about convictions... • Convictions often change according to our spiritual growth and experience in Christ • Cultures can have a big inference in our convictions (i.e. drinking, dancing, etc.) • (Philippians 1:18) many will do things that you disagree with, and get the same result

33. More about convictions... • Convictions often change according to our spiritual growth and experience in Christ • Cultures can have a big inference in our convictions (i.e. drinking, dancing, etc.) • (Philippians 1:18) many will do things that you disagree with, and get the same result • We must teach or share convictions only when permission is given or earned

34. Preference • Third, we have preference

35. Preference • Third, we have preference • If convictions are spiritual opinions, then preference are simply the rest of all our opinions (i.e. Christmas traditions, musics, colors, etc.)

36. Preference • Third, we have preference • If convictions are spiritual opinions, then preference are simply the rest of all our opinions (i.e. Christmas traditions, musics, colors, etc.) • Since most preference are things that are external in nature (i.e. order of services, buildings, etc.) much commends and advices can be spoken on these subjects, and quarrels arrive from them easily.

37. Other things to consider • First, most Christians are confused about the difference between these three things. They may not even know there is a different between doctrines, convictions, and preferences

38. Other things to consider • First, most Christians are confused about the difference between these three things. They may not even know there is a different between doctrines, convictions, and preferences • Second, it is often difficult to pin point one opinion as our conviction, belief or preference

39. Other things to consider • First, most Christians are confused about the difference between these three things. They may not even know there is a different between doctrines, convictions, and preferences • Second, it is often difficult to pin point one opinion as our conviction, belief or preference • Third, we don't know there is a different way to respond to each of these things

40. Conclusion • The rule of thumb: teach doctrines, share convictions, and be quiet in preference

41. Conclusion • The rule of thumb: teach doctrines, share convictions, and be quiet in preference • If our opinion must be expressed, share it only after permission is asked and given (or earned)

42. Conclusion • The rule of thumb: teach doctrines, share convictions, and be quiet in preference • If our opinion must be expressed, share it only after permission is asked and given (or earned) • Aside these defensive measures, there are 5 positive measures that we can take to remove quarrels among us once and for all

43. Conclusion • The rule of thumb: teach doctrines, share convictions, and be quiet in preference • If our opinion must be expressed, share it only after permission is asked and given (or earned) • Aside these defensive measures, there are 5 positive measures that we can take to remove quarrels among us once and for all • Read Colossians 3:12-14 for next week