Victim Characteristics

1. Victim Characteristics • There are two types of victims according to all of the research. • One type is the PASSIVE victim; this is a child who has few social skills. • The second type of victim is the PROVOCATIVE victim; this is a child who may irritate others.

2. Victim Characteristics • In general, bullies do not randomly target children.

3. Victim Characteristics • While the victims of bullies are not selected because of external deviations or disabilities; there are certain personality types that tend to be picked on more often.

4. Victim Characteristics • Typically children who are anxious, insecure, or who lack the ability to defend themselves are often victims of bullies.

5. Victim Characteristics • Very often bullies select children who are socially isolated by their peers or who have suffered a previous loss or trauma.

6. The Passive Victims • These are the most common type of victim and are the easiest to identify. The passive victim typically: • Lacks social skills •  Cries easily

7. The Passive Victims • These are the most common type of victim and are the easiest to identify. The passive victim typically: •  Lacks ability to use humor to defuse a conflict • May be lonely and depressed • Yields easily to bullying

8. The Passive Victims • These are the most common type of victim and are the easiest to identify. The passive victim typically: • Is likely to be anxious and insecure •  Is unable to defend themselves from bullies

9. The Proactive Victims • This subtype of victim is much smaller in number and is, therefore, more difficult to identify. The provocative victim typically: • Is a restless child who irritates and teases others and doesn’t know when to stop • Fights back when bullied but end up losing

10. The Proactive Victims • This subtype of victim is much smaller in number and is, therefore, more difficult to identify. The provocative victim typically: • Is easily aroused emotionally (to anger or tears) • Tends to maintain the conflict and lose with frustration and distress

11. The Proactive Victims • This subtype of victim is much smaller in number and is, therefore, more difficult to identify. The provocative victim typically: • May be diagnosed as having Attention Deficit Hyperactive Disorder (ADHD) • Tends to make you feel that they deserved it.

12. Children Who Are Not Victimized • Some children never seem to be the target of bullies in any situation.

13. Children Who Are Not Victimized • This group of children makes up a caring majority of the school.

14. Children Who Are Not Victimized • They often ignore the bullying going on around them due to fear of having the bullying directed at them.

15. Children Who Are Not Victimized • This group of children can become helpers to children who are victims of bullies.

16. Children Who Are Not Victimized • These children manage conflict well and display the following behaviors: • They do not insist on their own way arbitrarily. They have a reason for disagreeing • They know when and how to apologize

17. Children Who Are Not Victimized • These children manage conflict well and display the following behaviors: • They frequently know how to compromise or offer a cooperative proposition • They know how to share or offer to share something later

18. Children Who Are Not Victimized • These children manage conflict well and display the following behaviors: • They have the skills to bargain and/or negotiate • They know how to change the topic