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HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS— OUR BODIES FRIENDS DATING

Learn how to make safe decisions in relationships, prioritizing physical, sexual, and emotional well-being. Dr. Marilyn K. Volker, sexologist, provides guidance on communication, intimacy, and values.

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HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS— OUR BODIES FRIENDS DATING

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  1. HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS— OUR BODIES FRIENDS DATING SEXUALITY/SEX INTIMACY

  2. Dr. Marilyn K Volker, Sexologist Miami, FL besafemv@gmail.com American Board Of Sexology American Academy of Clinical Sexology

  3. BE SAFE Physically Sexually EMOTIONALLY

  4. SAFETY DECISIONS • WHO???? • WHAT???? • WHERE???? • WHEN??? • WHY??? • HOW???

  5. SAFETY DECISIONS • WHAT ARE THE POSITIVES? • WHAT ARE THE NEGATIVES? • WHAT IS MY GOAL? • WHAT ARE MY VALUES?—I’ll DO THIS— I WON’T DO THIS--

  6. SAFETY COMMUNICATION • I’LL DO THIS…..BUT NOT THAT… • YES….or • NO….or • I HAVE TO THINK ABOUT IT • MAYBE LATER • NOT NOW • I HAVE TO TALK TO ______ FIRST

  7. 8 TYPES OF INTIMACY Affection (not sex) Spiritual Physical (not sex) Social Aesthetic (sharing something beautiful) Emotional (talk about feelings) Sexual (outercourse / intercourse) Intellectual (talk about facts)

  8. Just Say “KNOW” • Use your head • Use your heart • Always be safe www.si.edu/.../faq/ nmnh/buginfo/butterfly.htm

  9. 8 TYPES OF INTIMACY Affection (not sex) Spiritual Physical (not sex) Social Aesthetic (sharing something beautiful) Emotional (talk about feelings) Sexual (outercourse / intercourse) Intellectual (talk about facts)

  10. Psycho-sexual skill development and problematic Sexual Behaviors • Courtship • Touching • Staring • Obsessing- blind infatuations • Wishful thinking • Understanding wants and needs • Love and Friendship • Sexual emotions and adolescence • Communication and Sexuality

  11. AFFECTIONAL INTIMACY • WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE TYPE OF AFFECTION? • HUGS • NOTES/E-MAIL/TEXT/TWEET • KISSES • FIST BUMP • HIGH FIVE • NICE WORDS

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  13. THIS IS ME/I RESPECT ME • I AM: • I LIKE TO DO THIS: • I DON’T LIKE TO DO THIS: • I WISH I COULD: • I WOULD LIKE TO: • I’M LEARNING ABOUT: • MY PETS/HOBBIES: • MY FAMILY: • MY FRIENDS:

  14. 8 TYPES OF INTIMACY Affection (not sex) Spiritual Physical (not sex) Social Aesthetic (sharing something beautiful) Emotional (talk about feelings) Sexual (outercourse / intercourse) Intellectual (talk about facts)

  15. Emotional Intimacy • Sharing YOUR Feelings • Listening to OTHER’S • Be Respectful • Thank You for Listening

  16. COMMUNICATE… • I FEEL….. • I’D LIKE TO… • I DON’T WANT TO… • I’LL DO THIS… • I WON’T DO THIS… • HOW DO YOU FEEL?

  17. Someone who pressures you is NOT thinking about your feelings! Tell him or her how you feel.

  18. 8 TYPES OF INTIMACY Affection (not sex) Spiritual Physical (not sex) Social Aesthetic (sharing something beautiful) Emotional (talk about feelings) Sexual (outercourse / intercourse) Intellectual (talk about facts)

  19. Physical intimacy • Walks, running, jogging • Tournaments • Marathons, skiing, working out • Skating • Surfing • Sailing

  20. 8 TYPES OF INTIMACY Affection (not sex) Spiritual Physical (not sex) Social Aesthetic (sharing something beautiful) Emotional (talk about feelings) Sexual (outercourse / intercourse) Intellectual (talk about facts)

  21. Aesthetic Intimacy....sharing beauty MUSIC… MOVIES… BEACHES… STARS!.... FLOWERS…. FOOD…. ANIMALS

  22. 8 TYPES OF INTIMACY Affection (not sex) Spiritual Physical (not sex) Social Aesthetic (sharing something beautiful) Emotional (talk about feelings) Sexual (outercourse / intercourse) Intellectual (talk about facts)

  23. Intellectual Stimulation WHAT DO YOU LIKE TO TALK ABOUT???? MOVIES, SPORTS, THE WORLD, VIDEO GAMES, FOOD, CLOTHES, VACATIONS, SCHOOL….???

  24. 8 TYPES OF INTIMACY Affection (not sex) Spiritual Physical (not sex) Social Aesthetic (sharing something beautiful) Emotional (talk about feelings) Sexual (outercourse / intercourse) Intellectual (talk about facts)

  25. Spiritual/Values Worship Self development Cultural politics

  26. 8 TYPES OF INTIMACY Affection (not sex) Spiritual Physical (not sex) Social Aesthetic (sharing something beautiful) Emotional (talk about feelings) Sexual (outercourse / intercourse) Intellectual (talk about facts)

  27. External Female Genitals

  28. 100% SAFENO SEX – ABSTINENCEOR TOUCHING YOUR OWN BODY – MASTURBATION

  29. SEX ON OUTSIDE OF THE BODY –OUTERCOURSE–

  30. Condoms

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