10 QUALITIES TO ACHIEVE GOALS

1. 10 QUALITIES TO ACHIEVE GOALS Extract from Born to Succeed Colin Turner

2. BUILD CONFIDENCE • Practice being happy & begin with smiling • Visualize that you are a positive person • Each time say: “I am confident” • Accept all your negative feelings as a challenge • Believe in yourself actively not passively (Confidence comes from belief)

3. OVERCOME FRUSTRATION • Begin everything with enthusiasm – Stop before it becomes frustration – Return to it with renewed enthusiasm • Become involved in a new goal • Concentration on one thought at a time, one action at a time, one goal at a time

4. COMPASSION & UNDERSTANDING • Forgive yourself and others. (don’t be judgmental) • Be agreeable with others (don’t argue, try to understand) • Compliment others. Express, don’t impress (express builds a bridge, impress builds a gulf) • Make others feel important • Love your neighbors as yourself

5. COMMUNICTION & RAPPORT SKILS • Seek first to understand before you make yourself understood • Your listeners won’t care what you say until they know that you care • How you think and feel determines how you communicate with others • The way you perceive and see your world is not through the same lens that other people will review world

6. DEVELOP A MAJOR ABSORBING OBSESSION…& … PERSISTENCE • If you are totally absorbed with what you really want to achieve the world will make a path for you • Only through persistence will you become what you want – “There is always a way – my persistence will find it” • Winston Churchill’s success motto “Never give up, never, never give up”

7. WINNING ATTITUDE • Do not “expect the worst and hope for the best” – Always affirm “I expect the best and get it” • Always look to create a win-win situation with others – Project yourself as a winner who creates other winners too • Project a positive self-image of you being an enthusiastic person

8. ACCEPT 100% RESPONSIBILITY • Always remember “you are the person responsible for how you feel” (it is not the circumstances or conditions that is the problem) • Don’t look to blame someone or something for whatever has happened or happening (blame looks backward while responsibility looks forward • When negative emotion rises up discard it by saying “I am responsible for the way I feel”

9. GATHER THE COURAGE TO DO WHAT IT TAKES • The best way to build courage is to encourage your self with “You can do it” • Do not listen to people who discourage you (courage is doing what you are afraid to do and there can be no courage unless you are scared) • The willingness to do creates the courage to do – so “Just do it”

10. DEVELOP A HAPPY STATE OF MIND • Happiness involves having the courage to live the life you choose for yourself. So choose what you want, begin it • Happiness can be increased simply by sharing it with others • Practice smiling in front of the mirror every day for at least 30 seconds • Get your internal world how you want it and your external world will be as you want

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