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Group Socialization

Group Socialization. Something to Crow About. Share the story, “Something to Crow About” Class discussion about the story. Bottom line: People need people! We all want to feel: Acceptance Approval Affection . The Class Ring. Read the story, “The Class Ring”

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Group Socialization

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  1. Group Socialization

  2. Something to Crow About • Share the story, “Something to Crow About” • Class discussion about the story. • Bottom line: People need people! • We all want to feel: • Acceptance • Approval • Affection

  3. The Class Ring • Read the story, “The Class Ring” • What did the ring represent in the relationships? • Do you think there is pressure to pair in school? Why or why not? • Was the girl in the story ready to pair? How could you tell? • Are all teens ready to pair at the same time? Why?

  4. Progression of an Apple Apple Seed Apple Tree Sprout

  5. Progression of an Apple Apple Blossoms Young Apple Tree

  6. Progression of an Apple Mature Apple Tree Apple Fruit

  7. Apple Analogy • Just like the apple blossom is not ready to be harvested, so are some teens not ready to pair date at this stage in life. • Adolescents develop romantically at different rates and stages just like our apple tree. • There is no perfect time to begin “pairing”. • Some people don’t care to date or “go out” until late high school years or even college. • Not everyone pairs at this early age and IT IS OKAY!!

  8. When to Harvest • Is the blossom ready to be harvested? Why or why not? • Will a young apple tree always produce fruit? • Why do some apples fall from the tree before others? • Why do some apples seem to ripen before others?

  9. Advantages of Group Socialization • Split the class into two groups. • Group one will discuss, “What are some advantages of group socialization?” • Group two will discuss, “What are the potential problems of early pairing.” • Record answers on a poster board. • Present your findings to the class. • 90% of teenagers who date before the age of 14 become sexually active before they graduate from high school.

  10. How to End a Relationship • If you are in a pair dating situation and want out, here are some ideas on how to appropriately end that relationship: • Pick an appropriate place • The less public, the better. Ending a relationship is a humbling experience. Don’t do it in a place where the person on the receiving end is going to feel more vulnerable than necessary.

  11. How to End a Relationship • Choose the right time • Avoid holidays and special occasions like birthdays and anniversaries. • Do it in person • Be considerate and don’t take the easy way out. • Be honest, but sensitive • No one likes getting dumped. Be honest and keep their feelings in mind.

  12. How to End a Relationship • Keep your emotions in check • Don’t seem too happy or too sad about the break-up. Be kind, caring and considerate. • Don’t react • Don’t yell, scream or cry. If they begin to yell, scream or cry uncontrollably leave immediately. • Share an experience when you have found success with one of these suggestions. • Share an experience of what not to do when ending a relationship.

  13. How to Deal with a Break-up • What if you are on the receiving end of a break-up? How do you deal with it? • Realize what happened and why • Realize it takes two to make a relationship work. • Accept your pain • Have a good cry. • Keep your distance • Take a break - No contact, no phone calls, no texting, etc.

  14. How to Deal with a Break-up • Think through everything • Ask yourself what went wrong. Learn from the experience. • Deal with the anger phase and then move on • It’s okay to be angry, but not okay to hang on to that anger. Move on as soon as you can. • Talk to your friends and family • Great source of advice, support and counsel. Talk it through with the people that love you the most.

  15. How to Deal with a Break-up • Write your feelings down • Write in your journal/diary, write a song, write a poem, etc. Pour your heart out on paper. • Clean up • Spring cleaning of your personal space. Get ready for a new beginning. • Keep fond memories • Think of how happy a song, picture or place made you feel when with that person.

  16. How to Deal with a Break-up • Don’t overreact • Don’t jump right into another relationship. Allow yourself time to heal. • Find happiness in other areas of your life • There is more to life than being in a relationship. Begin a new hobby, read a new book, etc. • Stay active • Exercise improves your mood. • Let go • If you don’t let go, you’ll never find Mr. or Mrs. Right!

  17. What is Dating Violence? • A pattern of behavior used to establish power and control over another person through fear and intimidation. • Often including the threat or use of violence. • Those involved are in an intimate or close relationship.

  18. Warning Signs of a Violent Partner • Wants to get serious quickly. • Will not take “NO” for an answer. • Is overly jealous and possessive. • Wants to pick your friends and activities. • Is controlling and bossy. They make all of the decisions. • Puts you down when alone or in front of others.

  19. Warning Signs of a Violent Partner • Makes you feel guilty, “if you really love me you would…” • You are blamed for what is wrong, “It’s because of you that I get so angry!” • Apologizes for violent behavior, “I’ll never do it again, I promise.” • Abuses alcohol and drugs. • Uses violence to solve problems. The two of you fight a lot and they have a hot temper.

  20. How Report Dating Violence • Realize that it is not your fault. • Realize that this type of behavior is NOT normal! • Tell someone – ANYONE! • Ask for help on how to end the relationship.

  21. How to Avoid Dating Violence • Know your limits and communicate them. • Don’t wait until you are in the “heat of the moment” • Be assertive • Say, “Stop!” or “No!” and repeat. • Get out of the situation if necessary • Be aware of your non-verbal cues • Flirting, the way you dress, what you say, etc.

  22. How to Avoid Dating Violence • Pay attention of your surrounding • Know where you are and how to get away if necessary. • Avoid use of alcohol and drugs • They cloud your judgment and make you unaware of what may be happening around you. • Don’t assume anything • Trust your instincts.

  23. Summary • There are many advantages of group dating and problems of pair dating at your age. • Know how to end a relationship appropriately and how to best deal with a break-up yourself. • Beware of dating violence and report it if you or someone you love is in a violent relationship.

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