Relationships

1. Relationships Relationships during Recovery/Rehabilitation Genetic, behavioural, social and environmental health factors associated with relationships during rehabilitation have been shown to lead to • Death related situations • Emotional control • Grief and Loss • Lack of focus towards completing program • Relapse • Reintroduction to past dependence • Removal from health program Why • Control • Co-dependence • Dependence • Fear • Learnt behavioural patterns • Loss of self Love • Low self esteem • Low self worth • Unrealistic expectations of self and others Ways to prevent negative relationships • Build new healthy relationships with self and others • Empower ones own inner being spiritually • Make healthy choices • Take responsibility for own choices

2. Unhealthy Relationships How do unhealthy relationships develop • Cultural and Institutional beliefs • Family and social environment • Learnt behaviour • Peers, community and media • Violence Unhealthy relationships develop into • Repeated behavioural patterns • Unhealthy behavioural patterns Unhealthy relationship exist on • Anger • Blame and victimisation • Control • Dependency and Co-dependency • Fear and Isolation • Insults and Humiliation • Harassment • Jealousy • Low Self Esteem • Physical, Emotional And Sexual Abuse • Psychological Abuse • Repeated Addictive Behavioural cycles • Secrets • Drug and Alcohol induced Violence Facts In Australia • Continued unhealthy behavioural patterns are learnt behaviours from the initial experience and or incidence • Men, woman and children can all become victims within unhealthy relationships experiencing psychological trauma, physical abuse and death • An estimate of 363,000 woman have experienced physical violence and 126,000 women have experienced sexual violence by family and or community members • 22.4% of women and 15% of men first experienced some form of partner violence between 11 and 17 years of age • 33.6% of violence and homicidal offences have all been related to excess alcohol use • 85% of assaults have been alcohol related • The national household survey reported 8.1% were victims of alcohol related assault and 2.2 % of household victim assaults were illicit drug related • Alcohol and drugs play a leading role in violence producing unhealthy environments and repeated addictive behavioural patterns

3. Healthy Relationships What are healthy relationships • Confidence • Inclusion and Acceptance • Inner wholeness • Open Communication Channels • Self development, Self worth, Self esteem • Self Love How can I develop healthy relationships • Actively participating in shared direction • Appreciate and respect others values and beliefs • Belonging to a family, culture and community • Communicating openly and honestly • Healthy challenges to grow • Patience • Spending quality time with self and with others • Trust Healthy attitude and behaviour • Acceptance of self and others • Adapt easily to change • Develop good boundaries • Encouragement • Gratitude • Listen and respect others views • Rights to express opinions Building healthy relationships with self and others • Builds Inner wholeness that fills that inner void • Constructs a healthy and creative environment • Empowers self confidence • Enhances self esteem • Inspires inside inspiration • Inclusion and acceptance Leads to • A positive, well adjusted caring environment • Being aware of own feelings and beliefs • Gratefulness • Honouring your own values and strengths • Long term health and wellbeing • Making healthy, responsible choices • Respect for self and others • Thoughtfulness Know thy self • Spiritually • Emotionally • Physically • Socially

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