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Healthy Relationships. The Ohio State University Student Wellness Center. DEFINITION: What is a Relationship?. Type of connection existing between people related to or having communication with each other. Could be Romantic or Intimate.
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Healthy Relationships The Ohio State University Student Wellness Center
DEFINITION: What is a Relationship? • Type of connection existing between people related to or having communication with each other. • Could be Romantic or Intimate.
Characteristics of a Healthy Relationship • Open Communication • Mutual Respect • Honesty • Trust • Support • Fairness/Equality
“So, Uh…What Are We?” • According to research, there are many stages that a couple goes through in their relationship together. These stages are: Attachment & Courting Differences & Power Struggles Identity Formation Balance & Unconditional Acceptance
Stage 1:Attachment & Courting Phase • A.K.A. Romantic Love phase. • Developing emotional attachment • “Falling in Love” • Infatuation and Passion • Strong sexual desire
Stage 2: Dealing with Differences/Power Struggles • Conflicts and disagreements are intertwined with emotions. • Boundaries and personal space sometimes violated. • Feeling claustrophic • “I just need some space”
Stage 3: Identity Formation • Partners develop who they are within the relationship. • Characteristics can be intertwined, yet still separate. • Has the ability to create more features visible and balanced.
Stage 4: Balance & Unconditional Acceptance • Deeper Intimacy • Sharing intimate secrets and thoughts • Desires • Emotional Support System • Giving of each other in many aspects of the relationship
Issues In Relationships • Jealousy • Consequences of Jealousy
When a Relationship Goes Sour…. • How do you recognize the signs of an unhealthy relationship?
What to Look For: • Manipulation • Controlling • Criticizing • Intimidation • Unhappy in the relationship • Threatening or mistreating
How to Maintain a Healthy Relationship • The ingredients are simple: • Appreciate each other’s qualities • Stay true to your partner • Have good communication • Keep realistic expectations for your partner • Have shared interests • Have the ability to face and deal with conflicts together • Value yourself and your partner
Not All Relationships Last Forever…. • When its time to say goodbye…. • There is no right or wrong ways to say goodbye, but there are several guidelines for being fair, courteous, and considerate.
Guidelines to Follow… • Face-to-face vs. phone/email • Be honest about your feelings. • Space • Support • New relationships • Friendship after a relationship?
Helpful Tips • Knowing the steps and stages • It is up to you to make your own decisions about your life, take charge. • Knowing that not every relationship is the same can also help you to understand what is right for you.
The OSU Student Wellness Center B130 RPAC…..292-4527 www.swc.osu.edu OSU Student Advocacy Center…292-1111 24-Hour Rape Helpline… 267-7020 OSU CampusPolice…292-2121 www.ps.ohio-state.edu Columbus Police Department…911 ww.columbuspolice.org OSU Counseling and Consultation Services…292-5766 www.ccs.ohio-state.edu/ Resident Halls..if you live in a residence hall, your Hall Director can assist you. Resources Guide
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