“Quiet” Success

1. #GHC13 “Quiet” Success Lavanya Ramakrishnan Laurie Patterson Ellen Walker Yuqing Melanie Wu October 3, 2013 2013

2. Introductions • Lavanya Ramakrishnan • Laurie Patterson • Ellen Walker • Yuqing Melanie Wu

3. Feels Pulled Outward By External Claims and Conditions Is Energized by Other People Acts, then (Maybe) Reflects Is Often Friendly, Talkative, Easy to Know Feels Pushed Inward by External Claims and Intrusions Is Energized by Inner Resources Reflects, then (Maybe) Acts Is Often Reserved, Quiet, Hard to Know Extraversion/IntroversionCharacteristics(these are complementary attitudes toward the world) An Extrovert… An Introvert… www.sunysccc.edu/student/jps/MBTI%20Validation.ppt

4. Expresses Thoughts and Emotions Freely (May Be at Risk of Saying Too Much) Needs Relationships Gives Breadth to Life E’sMay Seem Shallow to I’s Keeps Thoughts and Emotions Private (May Be at Risk of Saying Too Little) Needs Privacy Gives Depth to Life I’sMay Seem Withdrawn to E’s Extraversion/IntroversionCharacteristics An Extrovert… An Introvert… www.sunysccc.edu/student/jps/MBTI%20Validation.ppt

5. Discussion • How do you handle networking events/conferences? • How do you handle meetings? • Especially controversial meetings? • Telecons? • How do you handle promotions, career opportunities? • How do you handle introvert employees? • Public speaking? • Additional questions?

6. We wish someone had told us … • You are an introvert!! • (Some of us didn’t hear or realize that after many years in our career) • It is OK to be an introvert. • Introversion is neither a handicap nor a failure • It is OK to feel scared in public settings. • You can be an introvert without being shy. • (Some of us are introverts, but can speak up in meetings and have little problem with public speaking)

7. We wish someone had told us … • You are not alone. There are others like you. • Many of our peers, including very successful ones, are also introverts. • Just because the extrovert succeeded in school and you didn’t, doesn’t mean that you won’t in your professional life! • You can be a happy and successful introvert among other professionals, both introvert and extrovert.

8. We wish someone had told us … • Tell your teacher that just because you don’t raise your hand to answer, doesn’t mean you have not done your homework. • Ask me one-on-one or to write it. • Making the move to a leadership position will startle your colleagues. Give some hints on where you stand before you quietly announce your desire to lead.

9. We wish someone had told us … • Being a manager/administrator doesn’t mean that you spend your entire time having to talk. • A great deal of my time is spent on my computer, putting out fires. I’m good at thinking things through and solving those types of problems. • I wish I had spoken up – write a follow-up email or go talk to the person 1:1.

10. We wish someone had told us … • Sometimes taking a deep breath and saying a rehearsed phrase (“Fine, how are you?”) can take the pressure off speaking to strangers (it gets easier over time). • You don't have to ‘work the room’ at every event. A deep conversation with a small number of people is also networking. • Send email before and set up a time to meet and/or give background information.

11. We wish someone had told us … • Find your comfort zone with different things. • Show up early. • Helps to get comfortable with a few people before the room is full. • Don’t worry about what other people think. • It is likely other people don’t reflect as much as you do or didn’t even notice. • Allow time to recharge.

12. http://www.leadquietly.com/2011/04/lead-like-good-teacher-be-principled.htmlhttp://www.leadquietly.com/2011/04/lead-like-good-teacher-be-principled.html

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