The Importance of Good Manners in Today's Society

1. Unit 3 Text I Whatever Happened to Manners?

2. Contents Pre-reading activities • Part 1 While-reading activities • Part 2 After-reading activities • Part 3

3. Part I Pre-reading Activities What do you think about Chinese manners? Are you a person with good manners? List good manners and bad manners in daily life. When you see some improper behavior, what will you do? Discussion

6. Good manners

8. Good manners in some occasions In School Greeting the Teacher If you are in a very large class, it may not be necessary to greet the teacher on arriving, but it is always quite proper if you happen to catch the teacher’s eye as you enter. Coming Late It is bad manners to come late to class. If you are unavoidably late an apology should be made to the teacher either at the time or after class. Talking in Class It is bad manners in the schoolroom, as elsewhere.

9. Special Occasions Birthday Birthday in the West, as in China, are considered occasions for congratulations and sometimes for gifts from near friends. The Wedding If one receives an announcement of a wedding after it is over, a note of congratulation may be sent, but a gift is not necessary.

10. An Integrated analysis of the text Pre-reading Questions 1. What type of writing is the passage? (Narration, Argumentation, Exposition) 2. What is this passage concerned with? 3. How is the passage organized?

11. Text Introduction This text is a piece of argumentation on the necessity and significance of good manners. In the beginning part, the writer puts forward his viewpoint. In the next three paragraphs, the writer raises and proves his opinion. In the last paragraph the writer concludes that good manners are infectious; meanwhile, he expresses his sincere wish for a polite society where everybody would behave politely.

12. This text is concerned with the necessity and significance of good manners.

13. Structural Analysis Argumentation This text could be divided into parts. 4

15. manner: it is usually in the plural when it is used to refer to the meaning of “social behavior” or “polite or well-bred behavior.”风度，规矩 e.g.: People who have good manners are polite to others. It’s bad manners to interrupt. However, when it is used in the meaning of “a person’s outward bearing, way of speaking, etc.” the word “manner” is more often than not in the singular.方式(法)；态度，举止 e.g.:She was unusually soft and gentle in her manner when talking to him.

16. Part II While-reading activities Part 1 Let’s read Part I of the text (Para. 1)

17. Para 1 Do you remember a time when people were a little nicer, a little softer, a little gentler with each other? I certainly do, and I feel that much of the world has somehow gotten away from that. I see such a difference in New York City, for example, from when I first moved here more than 20 years ago: people rushing into elevators without giving those inside a chance to get off first, never saying "Thank you." when others hold a door open for them, or "Please." when they want a coworker to hand them something, never giving a wave or nod of appreciation when another motorist lets them pull out into traffic.

18. Words • wave • n.波浪；（光，电）波；飘扬；起伏；（手）挥动；（pl.）海 • vt.挥动；指挥；使有波纹 • vi.波动；飘动；挥动 • synonyms: sway flap swing • Eg:The wind waved the water. • 风使水波动。

19. words • pull out • (火车）离站；撤离；离开；抽出；取出 • collection：pull in （火车）进站；（船）靠岸 • pull off 脱掉（衣或帽） • pull on 穿，戴 • pull through 渡过难关

20. I feel that much of the world has somehow gotten away from that.(Para.1, Lines 2-3) ·What does “get away from that” mean in the context? Paraphrase: I feel that many people in the contemporary world are, for some reason or other, not as nice, not as friendly, or not as polite with one another as people in the past.

21. [Notes]: get away (Give some examples and ask the Ss to guess the meanings of “get away” in different contexts) a) succeed in leaving e.g.: When I asked him if he would like to see a film, he said he was so busy doing a project that he couldn’t get away. b) escape, esp. from a scene of a crime e.g.: A thief broke into my flat and got away with my money kept in a drawer of my desk before I returned home yesterday. c) have to admit the truth of something., esp. sth. unpleasant e.g.: You cannot get away from the unpleasant fact.

22. Comparison: get away to, get away with get away to: to take a holiday away from the place one normally lives get away with: to not be caught or punished when one has done something wrong (侥幸逃脱) Practice: 军事人员, 军队 1) And, indeed, plenty of military personnel are guilty of breaking marital vows and getting away (with, to) it. _____ with _ to 2) We’re hoping to get away (with, to) Scotland for a few days. ___

23. · Which sentences in the first paragraph imply that in a general sense, people in the present age are less gentle, less friendly or less polite than people in the past? The first two sentences of the first paragraph. Do you remember a time when people were a little nicer, a little softer, a little gentler with each other? I certainly do, and I feel that much of the world has somehow gotten away from that.

24. ·What impolite examples does the writer give to show that many people in New York are not friendly or polite with one another? The author employs the following examples to illustrate the bad manners of people in New York: “People rush into elevators without giving those inside a chance to get off first; they never say ‘Thank you.’ when others hold a door open for them, or ‘Please.’ when they want a coworker to hand them something, never giving a wave or nod of appreciation when another motorist lets them pull out into traffic.”

25. Main Idea of Part I The author states and proves that many people in present times are not as polite as people in the past. He convincingly illustrates this social phenomenon with specific impolite manners he sees in New York.

26. Part 2 Let’s read Part II of the text (Para. 2-4)

27. Para 2 We get lazy, and in our laziness we think that something like a simple "Thank you." doesn't really matter. But it can matter very much. The fact is that no matter how nicely we dress, how beautifully we decorate our homes, or how lovely our dinner parties are, we can't be truly stylish without good manners.

28. word • stylish • adj.时尚的，流行的 • synonyms： fashionable，modish，well-dressed • eg：Many actress are stylish.

29. Para 3 • In fact, I think of good manners as a sort of hidden beauty secret. Haven't you noticed that the kindest, most generous people seem to keep getting prettier? They become Cary Grant or Lauren Bacall right before our eyes. It's funny how that happens, but it does.

30. ·How do you understand that “we can’t be truly stylish without good manners”? (Para. 2, Line 4) We can appear stylish by wearing beautiful or very nice clothes, or by decorating our homes stylishly, but we cannot be truly stylish if we do not behave politely. In other words, if we do not show good manners, we cannot be said to be really stylish even though we wear the most stylish clothes, or decorate our homes most stylishly.

31. sentence • In fact,I think of good manners as a sort of hidden beauty secret. • explanation: • I think of good manners as a way to make people appear more beautiful although it is hardly possible to explain how this happens.

32. 加里·格兰特Cary Grant 在银幕上塑造了彬彬有礼的完美绅士形象，格兰特的生活也如同他的电影一样，虚构而神秘。

33. 劳伦·巴考尔 Lauren Bacall 美国电视剧、电影女演员，生于纽约市，以冷漠的神情和性感低沉的嗓音在好莱坞独树一格。

34. Para 4 • Take the long-lost art of saying "Thank you." Like wearing a little lipstick or making sure your hair is neat, getting into the habit of saying "Thank you." can make you feel better about yourself, and then you look better to everyone around you. A gracious manner not only sets an excellent example for your children and grandchildren but it adds priceless panache to your image.

35. words • priceless adj.1. 无价的；极珍贵的；极有趣的 2.极有趣的； 3.荒谬的；极为可笑的 synonym: 无价的：valuable，expensive，etc. antonym: valueless

36. words • image • n. 肖像，塑像；形象；酷似之人（物）；评价 • vt. 想象出；描摹；反映；象征；代表 • synonym：n.likeness，picture，reflection，etc. • eg:He is the alike image of his father. 他的相貌酷似他的父亲。

37. sentence • ...but ie adds priceless panache to you image. explanation: ...but a kind,gracious manner makes you look much more stylish and admirable,contributing invaluably to your image.

38. ·According to the author, how do good manners build up your image? No matter how nicely we dress, how beautifully we decorate our homes, or how lovely our dinner parties are, we can’t be truly stylish without good manners. The kindest, most generous people seem to keep getting prettier. They become Cary Grant or Lauren Bacall right before our eyes. Like wearing a little lipstick or making sure your hair is neat, getting into the habit of saying “Thank you.” can make you feel better about yourself, and then you look better to everyone around you. A gracious manner not only sets an excellent example for your children and grandchildren but it adds priceless panache to your image.

39. Main Idea of Part II The writer puts forward the following viewpoint: You can not be truly stylish without good manners; good manners are a sort of hidden beauty secret and adds pricelessly to your image.

40. Part 3 Let’s read Part II of the text (Para. 5-10)

41. Para 5 • Positive Thanking Of course, saying "Thank you." does wonders for the person on the receiving end too. I recently got a thank-you note from a guest who attended a 40th birthday party that Frank and I hosted for Frank's daughter-in-law. The note was lovely enough, but even lovelier was the fact that the guest had also included a recipe for a dish I'd complimented her on at an earlier gathering. It was a sweet gesture that made me feel terrific and put me in a great mood. What a gift! Many of us know we should write thank-you notes, but we think we don't have the time or energy. Now, I know we all have busy lives, but I bet the note my guest sent me didn't take long to write. If you feel like a feel because you've put off sending a card, write a note that says, " I should have done this two weeks ago, but I didn't want to let another day go by without telling you how much I enjoyed your party." It's much better than not writing at all.

42. Expression • do wonders for bring unexpected good results eg:Obersving life carefully often does wonders for us. 认真观察生活总会带给我们意料之外的惊喜。 Can you think of another example?

43. words • repipe n.1.烹饪法；食谱 When you make this recipe, do not stint on the butter. 当你照食谱做这菜时，要多用奶油。 2.方法；秘诀；诀窍 It's my mother's favorite recipe for barbecue. 这是我妈妈做烤肉的拿手方法。 3.处方，配方 I will keep the recipe in my head. 我将把这个处方留在记忆里。 synonyms：formula

44. words • compliment n. 1.赞美话；恭维话 Mrs. Wilson rejected the compliment by raising her eyebrow in distain. 威尔逊太太不屑地把眉毛一扬，否定了这句恭维话。 2.敬意 They did him the compliment of visiting him. 他们去拜访他以示敬意。 3.[compliments]问候，祝贺 My compliments to your father! 代我向你父亲问好！ 4.【古】谢礼；赏金

45. words v. 1.赞美；恭维；祝贺 Don't compliment me. 别恭维我。 He tried to compliment the pianist upon the accuracy of his pedalling. 试图为运用踏板的准确而恭维这位钢琴家。 2.送礼以表达敬意 A diner wants to compliment you. Shall I let him in? 有一位客人想向你致意。要让他进来吗？ synonyms:congratulate • compliment

46. words • terrific 1.极大的，非常的 There was a terrific crush of carriages, and the traffic was almost stopped. 当时车辆极度拥挤，交通几乎完全堵塞。 2.极好的，了不起的，非常棒的，非常漂亮的 That's sounds terrific. I love Chinese food. 那太棒了，我喜欢中国菜。 3.可怕的，恐怖的，骇人的 He weathered a terrific storm. 他度过了一场可怕的暴风雨。 synonyms:fantastic,grand,howling,terrifying

47. words • mood n.1.心境，情绪 At once her mood from one of hopefulness changed to one of deep depression. 她的心境马上从满怀希望变成极度的沮丧。 2.心情不好，生气；喜怒无常 She was in a bit of a mood this morning. 今天早晨她情绪欠佳。 3.基调，色调；气氛 A mood of optimism pervaded the gathering. 会上充满乐观的气氛。 synonyms:climate,humor,modality

48. sentence • I recently got a thank-you note from a guest who attended a 40th birthday party that Frank and I hosted for Frank's daughter-in-law. • Obviously,"Frank" here refers to Linda Dano's husband Frank Attardi, and say ''Frank's daughter-in-law,''instead of ''our daughter-in-law,''the author suggests that this ''daughter-in-law''was the wife of a son by Frank's previous marriage.

49. words • bet v.1.打赌 It's foolish to bet on horses. 为赛马打赌是愚蠢的。 2.断定，确信 I bet it will rain soon! 我确信马上要下雨！ n.1.打赌，赌博；赌注 You can put a bet on almost anything these days. 如今，你几乎可以就任何事下赌注。 2.可能性 My bet is that she won't refuse his invitation. 我认为她不会拒绝他的邀请。

50. words • bet • synonyms:stake,wager,count,depend,play bet,gamble 这两个动词均含有“打赌，赌博”之意。 bet指竞赛中的打赌，也指双方对有疑惑之事争执不下的打赌。在口语中，bet作“确信，敢说”解。 gamble多指投机，为获得某物或牟利而冒大险，含孤注一掷意味。