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Peer Relationships. Middle School Groups Ages 11-13. Presenters. Group 8 Alena Senior Stacy Bishop Shaquira Etan Ron Clark Adam Fournier. Peer Relationships. Types of Relationships Friendships A significant relationship between two people
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Peer Relationships Middle School Groups Ages 11-13
Presenters • Group 8 • Alena Senior • Stacy Bishop • Shaquira Etan • Ron Clark • Adam Fournier
Peer Relationships • Types of Relationships • Friendships • A significant relationship between two people • Based on caring, respect, consideration, and trust
Peer Relationships • Types of Relationships (cont’d) • Cliques • A small, narrow circle of friends • Usually share similar backgrounds or tastes • Excludes people they view as outsiders
Peer Relationships • 3 Types of Friendship • Casual Friendships – peers with whom you feel socially connected • Close Friendships – peers with whom you are more likely to share your real feelings and thoughts • Platonic Friendships – a relationship with a member of the opposite gender in which there is affection, but no sexual activity
Cliques • May be tightly or loosely knit • May treat non-members with scorn, ridicule, or indifference • Often discourages its members from being themselves • Actions are often “prejudicial” – a negative feeling toward someone/something based on stereotypes rather than experience
Responsible Relationships • As you experience changes in your feelings toward the opposite sex, it becomes important to be responsible in the relationships you form
Responsible Relationships • Dating Relationships • Dating is part of the process of learning interpersonal skills • Dating helps you learn what types of people you like and get along with best • Allows you to practice decision-making and communication skills
Responsible Relationships • Ongoing Relationships • A continuous relationship with one person of the opposite sex • Teens may be closing themselves off from meeting other people early in their social development • Breaking up and making up can be painful, but is necessary to becoming socially mature
Responsible Relationships • Choosing Not to Date • Not all teens date • Some have others interests, don’t have time, or simply don’t feel emotionally ready • Wait until you feel comfortable about dating • Talk to your parents about dating to learn their views on dating and values
Defining Peer Pressure • Positive Peer Pressure • Doing something you didn’t have the courage to do • Turns out well
Defining Peer Pressure • Negative Peer Pressure • Doing something you don’t want to do • Turns out poorly • May cause addiction • Manipulation • To manage or influence skillfully
Peer Pressure • High Risk Traits • Low self esteem • Lack of confidence • Uncertainty about one’s place in a group • No personal interests • Feeling isolated from peers and/or family
Peer Pressure • High Risk Traits (cont’d.) • Lack of direction in life • Depression • Eating disorders • Poor academic abilities or performance • Fear of one’s peers • Close bond with a bully
Peer Pressure • Why give in? • “Everyone’s doing it” mentality • Desire to fit in • Fear of consequences • Being made fun of • Being left out • Curiosity
Negative Peer Pressure • Submitting to negative peer pressure • Desire to fit into the group • Labeled as a loser
Negative Peer Pressure • Mostly effects: • Girls based on their looks • Between ages of 10-14 years old • Focuses on: • Importance of having a certain look • Being considered “pretty” or “handsome” • Looking like an idolized model/body builder • Pressure to have certain clothes, shoes, accessories
Responding to Negative Peer Pressure • There are 3 ways you can respond to negative peer pressure • Passively • Aggressively • Assertively
Responding to Negative Peer Pressure • The Passive Way • Giving up, giving in, or backing down without standing up for your own rights and needs • Passive people may think that they are making friends by going along with peer pressure
Responding to Negative Peer Pressure • The Aggressive Way • Being overly forceful, pushy, hostile, or otherwise attacking in approach • The aggressive approach to saying no may involve punching, yelling, shouting insults, or displaying other kinds of physical or verbal force
Responding to Negative Peer Pressure • The Assertive Way • Stand up for your rights in a firm yet positive manner • State your position, acknowledge the rights of other individuals, and then stand your ground • Do not bully or back away • Become a role model for other teens
Peer Pressure and Refusal Skills • Assertive Refusal • How to win: • Prepare ahead of time for uncomfortable situations • Know where you stand on key issues • Do not allow yourself to seek comfort in making others feel bad • Think of yourself as a leader • Refuse to let yourself down
Personalizing Peer Pressure • What inner conflicts did the main character face? • What happened when he resisted peer pressure? And when he gave in? • Have you ever been in a situation where you felt like there was no right answer? • What would you have done if you were in main character’s position?