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Dating Violence

Dating Violence. Jennifer Carter. Overview. Statistics & Definitions General Dating Violence Information Warning Signs Charts Heather’s Law Curriculum Activity School Prevention Information School Faculty Resources. General Definitions.

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Dating Violence

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  1. Dating Violence Jennifer Carter

  2. Overview • Statistics & Definitions • General Dating Violence Information • Warning Signs • Charts • Heather’s Law • Curriculum Activity • School Prevention Information • School Faculty Resources

  3. General Definitions • Teen Dating Violence- a pattern of actual or threatened physical, sexual, emotional, and technological abuses perpetrated by an adolescent against a current or former dating partner (A Safe Place, 2010) • Domestic Violence- a pattern of behavior in which one intimate partner uses physical violence, coercion, threats, intimidation, isolation, and emotional, sexual, or economic abuse to contol the other partner in a relationship. Stalking or other harassing behavior is often an integral part of domestic violence (FBI, 2001)

  4. Teen Dating Statistics • Approximately ONE in THREE high school students have been or will be involved in an abusive relationship • Forty percent of teen girls ages 14 to 17 say they know someone their age who has been hit or beaten by a boyfriend • Teen dating violence most often takes place in the home of one of the partners • More than 4 in every 10 incidents of domestic violence involves non-married persons • Teens primarily use technology as a means to abuse (Glauber, Randel, & Picard, 2007) ACADV, 2010

  5. Types of Abuse • Physical • Pinching, shoving, slapping • Intimidation (throwing objects) • Use of weapons • Sexual • Unwanted touching, threats to break up or find someone else, pressure to have sex • Verbal & Emotional • Put-downs, insults, rumors, threats, possessiveness, accusations, isolation, humiliation, overdependency (Choose Respect, 2010)

  6. New Factor in Abuse: Technology • Research has determined that technology has made teen dating abuse more pervasive and hidden • Many teens are not telling their parents about this tech abuse in their dating relationships, which has resulted in a knowledge gap between the frequency of abusive tech behavior parents are aware of and what is really going on in teens’ lives • In this study it was found that teens believe dating abuse via technology is a serious problem that involves an array of technology activities: emailing, texting, Iming, phoning, & social network sites • Many teens in this study claimed it is happening to them and that they are doing it to others Glauber, Randel, & Picard, 2007)

  7. Tech Stats • One in three teens who have been in a relationship say they’ve been text messaged 10, 20, or 30 times an hour by a partner finding out where they are, what they’re doing, or who they’re with • One in five teens in a relationship have been asked by cell phone or internet to engage in sexual activity when they did not want to Glauber, Randel, & Picard, 2007)

  8. Technology Stats • 71% of all teens regard boyfriends/girlfriends spreading rumors about a dating partner through technology to be a serious problem • 68% of teens regard boyfriends/girlfriends sharing private or embarrassing videos or photos of a dating partner to be a serious problem • Almost two-thirds of teens judge threatening physical harm using common tech devices to be serious • Sample of 615 Glauber, Randel, & Picard, 2007)

  9. Thatsnotcool.com

  10. Extreme Jealousy Controlling Behavior Quick Involvement Unpredictable Mood Swings Alcohol & Drug Use Explosive Anger Isolates From Friends & Family Uses Force During An Argument Shows Hypersensitivity Believes in Rigid Sex Roles Blames Others for His/Her Problems Cruel to Animals or Children Abused Former Partners Threatens Violence Early Warning Signs in the Relationship Alspaugh, 2009 & ACADV 2010

  11. Dating Violence Cycle

  12. Power & Control Wheel

  13. Physical Signs of Injury (unexplained scratches or brusies Truancy, Dropping out of School Failing Grades Indecision Changes in Mood or Personality Constantly checking cell phone Angry when asked how they are doing Use of Drugs/Alcohol Pregnancy Emotional Outburst Isolation No longer hanging out with his/her friends/withdrawn Wearing the same clothing Distracted Showering immediately after getting home Indicators A Teen May Be Experiencing Dating Violence Miller, 2010

  14. Actions Educators Can Do When Faced With Dating Violence Issues • Tell the person who is being abused that you are concerned for his/her safety • Acknowledge the abuse is not the person’s fault • Listen- Be supportive and patient • Do not judge or criticize • Help the person develop a safety plan that focuses on preventing future harm • Never confront the abuser- this could be dangerous • Encourage the person to talk to others who can provide help and guidance (Youtube, 2008)

  15. Developed in memory of Heather Norris, who was abused and later stabbed and dismembered by her boyfriend, whom she began dating her senior year of high school 12% of Hoosier teens report being hurt by someone they’re dating (Indiana Youth Institute) Signed into law on April 12, 2010 Requires that all Indiana schools implement a dating violence education curriculum by July 1, 2011 The school curriculum on teen dating violence should include: basic principles of dating violence; warning signs of dating violence; and the school's dating violence policy. Heather’s Law Dewberry, 2010

  16. Other Indiana Laws 2010 • In Indiana, minors can obtain Civil Protection Orders (CPOs), and courts can issue CPOs against minor abusers. Indiana also allows people in dating relationships to seek CPOs against their abusers. • State law does not specify whether minors can petition for CPOs on their own behalf. • A judge may issue a CPO when “the respondent has physically abused, sexually abused, threatened to physically abuse, stalked or harassed the petitioner” (other forms of abuse are also recognized). Break the Cycle, 2010

  17. Curriculum Activity • Teen Dating Violence Curriculum: 5 day program • Right Side: Stay • Left Side: Go Lilley, 2003

  18. Teach & Demonstrate Anger Control Problem Solving Negotiation & Compromise Assertiveness Fighting Fair Understanding Listening Being a Role Model Make your classroom a place for your students to come and talk to you about sensitive issues like teen dating violence Create opportunities for students to speak out about things Increase awareness of teen dating violence as a real problem Know the indicators of teen dating violence Prevention: Faculty Choose Respect, 2010 American Bar Association, 2006

  19. Take students seriously when they confide in you Encourage classroom discussions on proper relationship behaviors Talk to students about personal responsibility Enforce school policy about what is not acceptable (i.e. pinching, smacking, etc) Require students to treat each other with respect Address behaviors that desensitize kids and can set the stage for serious forms of abusive behaviors Stress the responsibility of bystanders when a teen dating violence incident occurs Prevention: Faculty American Bar Association, 2006

  20. Stay interested and involved in teens’ lives Know and recognize the signs Recognize the problem Abuse at this age really does happen…and happens to all types of teens Don’t be swayed by teens and faculty who insist it doesn’t happen in school Work with teens to create prevention & intervention strategies Educate students and faculty on warning signs Help teens set ground rules for “good relationships” Give teens information with useful phone numbers & resources Help teens understand the problem and brainstorm possible solutions Send educational letters home to parents Intervene appropriately if the students feels they are in danger, if you sense they are in danger, and especially if you know they are in danger Prevention: School Counselor American Bar Association, 2006

  21. Chooserespect.org Loveisrespect.org Thatsnotcool.com Loveisnotabuse.com Loveisnotabuse.com/made Safeyouth.org Breakthecycle.org Athinline.org School Faculty Resources

  22. Still Have Questions? Who Can You Ask For Help… • School counselor or administrator • Domestic Violence Abuse Agencies • ICADV Hotline: 1-800-332-7385 Voice & TTY • SRO - School Resource Officer • Child Protective Services • 911 if they’re in immediate danger • Remember, as an educator you should always intervene in an appropriate and consistent way in order to respect the privacy of students (Youtube, 2008)

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